This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
How do I generate the supreme levels of confidence required to pick up the phone and speak to everyone as an equal with an undeniable value proposition?
All it takes is a decision.
I know you’ve heard me say this over and over again, but the truth is the truth.
First, you have to truly want to be confident, and then you have to act as if you were that confident person until you don’t have to act anymore.
Let me explain.
Everyone has three basic needs.
From a very young age, actually between the ages of birth to seven, we absorb everything around us. We take in what we hear, what we see and what we experience. So much so that these years are really what shape us and give the thoughts, fears and beliefs that we still carry with us today. We are taught to be good, to care what others think of us, to conform, and keep our true desires to ourselves. This in turn shows up later in life as we begin to listen to our inner voices and seek truth.
People have the misconception that they have to delve back into their past, relive those experiences and “deal” with them before they are finally free of those limiting beliefs. In some severe cases (trauma, abuse, etc), more healing work is needed.
In most cases, all that you need is to step into the fear, and do the thing you are most afraid of doing.
So let’s explore for a moment why you may not feel confident.
Are you worried about what people will think of you?
Are you afraid that they’ll judge you or ridicule you similar to an experience you’ve had in the past?
Not feeling confident paralyzes you, which in turn protects you from vulnerability. You see, your lack of confidence is protecting you from moving forward and possibly growing.
The only way to break through the fear is to step into it.
Before making your calls, say to yourself, “I’m perfect. I’m confident, and I don’t need the approval of others.” Say it over and over again until it becomes a habit.
Trust me, this takes practice, and sometimes it’s useful to have an accountability partner to make sure you don’t sit and stare at the phone or computer all day.
I also recommend exploring your faith a little more. Once you begin to recognize those “fear feelings” as not from Spirit, you’ll be able to see them for what they are.
You see the truth is this:
Fear is from your ego. And its primary purpose is to keep you exactly where you are. The ego views change as “unsafe”, and therefore, every time you’re on the verge of growth, your ego will kick up something fierce.
Love is from Spirit.
The next time you feel yourself wavering in fear, take a step back, acknowledge the fear, thank it for coming, and then focus only on the love you feel for what you do and the lives you’ll impact.
To strengthen your faith and begin to see the truth in everything, I recommend immersing yourself in my “God Works through Faith” Home Study Program. It will help shine a light in the darkness.
And if all else fails, and you can’t believe in yourself, BELIEVE IN MY BELIEF IN YOU!
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