This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
I am in a very painful relationship, and I know that I am responsible for it. I have been trying for a year now to work on myself (with many methods) but there is no improvement. My biggest confusion arises in me because I don’t understand if I should leave the relationship or if I work enough on myself I will find myself happiness and in peace in this relationship. Can you clarify this for me?
Thanks for your question.
Have you ever heard the saying that people come in to our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime?
It’s the truth, and knowing when to release a relationship can be a difficult decision.
If you’re in a relationship with an abusive person, you can work on yourself for years and it still won’t change them, and really it’s not your right to try to change them.
You have to ask yourself why you’re choosing to stay in the relationship if it’s been so painful.
How is it serving you?
Are you a hope addict?
Are you staying the relationship in the hopes that your partner will change and everything will get better?
Are you afraid to be alone?
In a healthy relationship, both people have to be willing to work on themselves to achieve a joint goal. If one person is not willing to grow, over time it will create a wedge in the relationship, and it will flounder and fail.
Are you and your partner on the same page or are you changing who you are and sacrificing what you want to “make” the relationship work?
Answering these questions will help you see if it’s time to leave.
Please keep in mind, if you are being abused in ANY way, you must make every effort to stop the abuse by putting up boundaries or you must leave the relationship. Period.
Remember, you may be responsible for the attracting all the relationships in your life, but that doesn’t mean you have to tolerate a relationship if it is no longer serving you.
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