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This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Keith Chovan.


How would people be recognized for not loving themselves, so I can keep those types of people out of my life?


Hi Keith and thanks for this very interesting question.

The truth is that we attract to us who we are being.

Start with yourself. If you love yourself, you will attract others who love themselves or who are in the process of learning to love themselves.

You see you are the center of your Universe. You attract people to you who will be a mirror for you.

Let me explain.

If you find that you’ve attracted a person into your life that has low self-esteem and it triggers you, it means that you have low self-esteem as well. That person is in your life so you can become aware of your next area of growth.

Remember, anything that upsets you about someone else in your life is about you and not them.

If you start with learning to love yourself, you will accept people for who they are without needing anything from them, or you’ll easily be able to let relationships go that no longer serve you.

I think Don Miguel Ruiz sums it up pretty well in his book, The Four Agreements, when he says that what people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

The reverse must then also be true. What you think of other people has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you.

If you want to attract people into your life that love themselves, you must love yourself first.

“Just Believe”,®

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Katherine C. H. E.June 23, 2012 at 9:53 amReply

So true!! “Mirror Mirror!” has become a catch phrase in my most significant relationships, and it always brings us back to laughter and giggling whenever we start to project something onto the other. We even have a hand movement so that we can send the message without saying a word — it looks like holding up a mirror. THANKS, David! ♥ Katherine.

David NeagleJune 25, 2012 at 11:40 amReply

You’re welcome Katherine! Great seeing you in NC and thanks for the post!

SushiqueenJune 23, 2012 at 10:03 amReply

Thank you for this, and I am trying to move forward!

David NeagleJune 25, 2012 at 11:46 amReply

You’re welcome Sushiqueen. I’d suggest to take the ‘try’ out of moving forward and just do it!

Kimberly SheridanJune 23, 2012 at 12:05 pmReply

Darn mirror! Always reflects the truth … but then again the truth sets us free. Sometimes a messy process though if we resist … darn truth.

David NeagleJune 25, 2012 at 11:48 amReply

So true Kimberly, very messy when we resist the truth. The problem lies in not always being able to see it. I appreciate the comment.

BeauJune 24, 2012 at 12:37 pmReply

I am in a process of learning to love myself.
You have an ability to clarify and simplify complex things.
What is your definition of loving yourself?
What does it REALLY mean to love yourself? Thank you.

David NeagleJune 25, 2012 at 12:02 pmReply

Beau, what do you think it means to love yourself? I ask because It is different for everyone. Sit with that question and the answer will come to you.

Lalitha BrahmaJune 24, 2012 at 1:16 pmReply

Very difficult to accept, but it is so true.
While growing up as kids, we are taught that it is noble to express our love/respect for others. Not to think too much about ourselves. However, when we grow as adults, to unlearn this and to learn to FIRST love ourselves unconditionally, is very challenging. But if we consciously and consistently do this, it does work like a charm.

David NeagleJune 25, 2012 at 7:06 pmReply

For sure Lalitha. It’s just a matter of working that muscle memory and learning to love yourself and those around you. I appreciate the post.

Lisa KerrJune 25, 2012 at 11:17 amReply

Or perhaps you can attract certain people in your life because you were meant to teach THEM something. It is not always about us. If we love ourselves enough and know where the true source of all love comes from, we have enough love to give to others who don’t.

David NeagleJune 25, 2012 at 7:09 pmReply

You see Lisa, it is all about you since you are creating your reality as you go. Being the center of your Universe is not a bad thing, it just IS. Now, when people come into your awareness they are there for a reason, and yes, you can teach them. But in that teaching you are learning yourself. Thanks for the post.

Simone HardyJune 26, 2012 at 12:46 amReply

Wow so true and I caught myself doing that the other day. I said something about someone and quickly realized that that my problem so I said ok and cancel universe I got that.

David NeagleJuly 5, 2012 at 12:09 pmReply

Great Simone. Good for you on catching it, and even better for not buying into it. I like the cancel option, it is a great way to identify the thoughts that are not serving you.

NitsanJune 30, 2012 at 11:18 amReply

I lived my life as a billiard ball banged around by other forces. In better moments I lived as the player of billiards, competing against others who bang me around. Since immersing myself in your teaching, David, I leave that pool hall every time I catch myself hanging out there. Now I play a different game, very new to me. I am the game inventor and I am all the all the players. I cause it all. Will I love myself this moment? Will I do what I fear this moment? Reality will mirror me and tell me my score.

David NeagleJuly 5, 2012 at 12:10 pmReply

Keep asking the questions Nitsan, you’ll continue to move closer and closer to your desired breakthrough. Thanks for the post.

VirginiaJuly 22, 2012 at 4:29 pmReply

Thanks David. We are our own greatest enemy and it is all about Projection and learning from the thoughts we project onto others. The challenge is cancelling the projection before it creates the feeling/emotion otherwise we are left with built up, unhealed emotions… and for me the NEED is to deal with the pain in the emotional body following the onset of projection. Why does it have to be so complicated. As children we didn’t have such painful issues… and life becomes a constant battle/struggle just trying to be real and true to ourselves in each given moment…. Wish we could all just live FREE from this … better still why weren’t we taught all this earlier in life …. Rebirthing might provide the answer! lol, Virginia :)