Forget Your Goals!
For many years I have used the beginning of the New Year to set goals and help others do the same. This year, though, something is different for me… I did not set a goal.
This is vital information if you want to make BIG breakthroughs this year. Every time we set a goal we unconsciously slip into the “how do I reach the goal?” mindset. “How” is the key word in the question, because the how, at times, can be a difficult question to answer.
Now think of something you would like to achieve, whether it relates to money, health, relationships or anything else in your life. Pick just one thing. Got it?
Now if you could have the situation exactly as you would like it, what would that look like? Got it?
Okay, so what comes next?
Well, for most of us, if you really want to achieve that “thing” (your answer above) you begin to think of ways to accomplish the goal. The reason why most people fail to achieve really big goals is that the path to the goal is not in their head. It's in the universe. When you try to think of a way to achieve it you are literally forcing. Forcing it never works. It only causes frustration. Still, there are plenty of people out there telling you to set new and big goals for the New Year.
Many years ago I changed my approach to life and business and, ever since, I always set goals. Many of my goals were big. VERY big. Some of them I reached. Some of them I didn't reach, or didn't reach them in the timeframe I had intended. Usually though, I reached them all but changing the timeframe was sometimes necessary. The problem this creates for many people is it causes pressure for them to reach the goal. They then end up trying to figure it all out on their own. For this reason, the plan they come up with will usually be within the belief framework of their own consciousness. For most, this means more work and more effort because they have been taught if they are to achieve anything they have to work for it. And usually work pretty darn hard for that matter.
I had my first real breakthrough with this when I realized that it was easier to earn $50,000 a month than it was to earn $50,000 a year. Once I realized this, my life transformed overnight. So breaking through the struggle of money is one of the first things a person should learn to do. However, there are so many other areas where struggle is a problem for so many people.
Here is a piece of advice I would like to share with you that will help you achieve whatever you want in less time with less effort:
First, ask yourself…
“Who would I like to be this year?”
You see, doing and having are the result of who you are being. Being is the first piece. Once you decide on who you want to be this year the exact way for you to be that will begin to show up. If you are willing to act on those things you will zoom into the things you want. After all, the universe knows how to get you a result much, much faster than you could possibly think of on your own. All you have to do is go with the plan that comes your way as long as it will give you what you want to be.
You can accomplish much more than you ever thought possible in a much shorter timeframe. But you have to be open to these suggestions first. Do you know who you want to be?
Thanks for sharing that David.
I was at the ‘Just Believe’ event in July 2008 in Las Vegas, USA and this year with the help of some of the people from that event I will be launching a personal finance course. I’ve wanted to do it for so long and never believed that I could.
Thanks for reminding us all that we don’t have to do everything by ourselves. There are teams that can help us and I love having the Universe on my team! 🙂
Of course the Universe is actually on everyone’s team! 🙂
It’s taken me long time time figure this out but you’re so right. Decide on ‘who’ you want to become and the ‘what’ and ‘how’ just flows from that. Listen and act on your instincts more than your head and the ‘how to’ shows up.
I wish i knew this 10 years ago!
best wishes for 2009
This makes a lot of sense to me. Who and what you are will determine what you will accomplish. Acting and making decisions based on the person you see yourself as you want to be.
Hi David, I love that you’ve said this. For a while I was too “scared” to tell anyone that I no longer set goals because they didn’t work so well for me. But the Universe often delivers far more than we could even imagine when we set a goal and we can be so set on the goal that we miss the bigger, better thing when it shows up! I find getting into the “essence” of what I want gets me “emotionally involved” as you often say. I found too that my goals often stopped me from enjoying the process and/or appreciating – I got this one year when skiing – “Sometimes, Focusing on the Goal is the Problem” I wrote in an article. But now, creating at a “higher level” than goals is so much more exciting and fulfilling. Thanks David, Veronica
I saw you speak yesterday in Santa Monica. Thank you for reminding me how simple it is.
Yes, David, your Forget Your Goals! article resonates with me. I followed your steps and answered your questions and I’m happy to share with you who I want to be.
STEP 1: One thing I would like to achieve:
Opening MInd2Mind with Julie in Collins Street, making our first $150,000 by year’s end to revel in travel and new toys wherever we like.
STEP 2: What would that situation look like?
View of the Shrine down Swanston Street from the 14th floor. Julie and I entertaining customers, attending networking events, balls, cocktail parties, plays and concerts. Dancing the tango in Buenos Aires, strolling arm-in-arm through Greenwich Village, NYC; visiting Teresa and Helen in India. Taking in all the pleasures and features of the world – new places like Namibia, the Salton Sea, Athens and Moscow and places I’d like to revisit like Arizona, the Isle of Skye and the Kimberley.
“Who would I like to be this year?”
Director of Mind2Mind – rich, savvy, erudite and urbane – a social wit, leader and respected businessman mixing with Melbourne’s elite and fashionable, wealthy and influential people of the world.
I summarised and expanded your advice for my own edification.
Act on this desire and things will happen fast.
Concentrate on WHAT I want, not HOW I’m going to get it!
The Universe will conspire to bring me the result with greater alacrity and capacity than I might design on my own.
Go with the plan that comes my way as long as it gives me what I want to be!
NB… as long as gives me what I want to BE, not just what I WANT to DO or HAVE! Determine what you want to be. Focus on being, and what you want to do or have will surely follow.
Thank you, David.
Best regards, Matt
Great advise. I felt a change in my perspective while I was reading.