How Do I Find My ‘Definite Purpose’ in Life?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

My question is around goal setting and ‘need versus want.’ I’ve been using Napoleon Hill’s mantra every morning: “I know I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose in life. Therefore, I demand of myself persistent, continuous action towards its attainment. And I, here, now, promise to render such action.”

I love that and have been analyzing what it means. I get stuck at the part that says “definite purpose in life.” That sounds so grandiose and final. I have financial and personal goals… but how do I find my “definite purpose”? Do I need to have a big enough “why” behind the work I’m doing as an entrepreneur?

Neagle Code Answer

What I’m going to tell you is very important. You’ve got to find out what inspires you about what you do. And you’ve got to be 100% honest about it, no matter what it is.

Here’s an example. I have a rockstar client who went over two million, really quickly.

Then afterwards… she started screwing around with writing her purpose out on paper. She wanted to say, “I’m doing all of this for my children.”

And I said, “Why would you change your purpose?”

She felt guilty that her children weren’t in her purpose.

I was like, “If they’re not in there, then they’re not in there. It’s not that you’re ignoring your kids. But you have to be honest with yourself about what turns you on about what you do.”

What turns her on is being seen, being public, being on the world stage, and doing what she does.

“If you take that away and allow yourself to feel guilty—then say you’re doing this all for your kids—you’re going to crash your business,” I told her.

It doesn’t matter what your purpose is,
as long as you’re honest about it.

Ask yourself: “What do I absolutely love about what I do, more than anything else?”

If it’s helping people, great. If it’s building a team, great. If it’s having enough money to buy a Ferrari… buy a house… provide for your family… great.

Whatever it is—whatever gets you out of bed in the morning that excites you about what you do—THAT’S the purpose you need to focus on. At least for now.

If you feel guilt or shame around it, remember:

Whenever you experience guilt and shame, understand that’s not your voice talking to you. That’s the voice of the person who installed guilt and shame into your subconscious mind (usually a parent).

You need to tell that person to get the flying f@&% out of your head. Because it’s not you.

We’re not born with guilt or shame. Someone put it into our mind.

So, if you start feeling guilty about something, or you start feeling shame, you have to ask yourself, “Whose voice is that in my head?”

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

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How Do You Find Your Life’s Purpose?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

What would you tell someone who is trying to figure out their purpose in life?

Neagle Code Answer

The first thing for a person to understand is that they’re always in their purpose.

The second thing is that they should get comfortable answering the question, “What do I want?”

There’s no living thing on this planet that is confused about its purpose other than human beings. The only reason we’re confused about it is because our entire life, we’ve been told we can’t have it—in one way or another, either directly or indirectly.

The idea is to get to the place where you’re giving yourself permission and you don’t feel guilt or shame by what you really want. Then start following that.

If a person says they don’t know what they want—that’s not true. They DO know. They’re just not being honest.

I’ve never met anybody who doesn’t know what they want.

Get them to a place where they feel safe enough to share, so that they’ll tell you what they want.

The other direction I’ll give to people is this:

What do you think about in your secret thoughts?—the thoughts you don’t tell anybody about?

Because I guarantee you, they’re thinking about something.

They either think they can’t have it, they shouldn’t have it, or they have guilt or shame around wanting it.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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Is Self-Judgment Helpful?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

My question is around self-judgment. I really resonate with the idea of accepting who you are and what you’ve done in the past.

However, this idea bothers me bit. There are certain standards I want to set for different things in my life. How do I maintain these certain standards if I’m not judging myself? When is self-judgment appropriate?

Neagle Code Answer

Self-judgment isn’t ever appropriate. It does nothing.

You can look at yourself critically and say, “Here are things about me that need to be fixed, that I need to work on, that I can get better at.”

But to feel guilt or shame—or to make yourself a bad person because of it—that’s self-abuse.

You want to judge the result or outcome, not you.

If I get a result that I don’t want, I say, “Okay, what’s the standard that I want to create for myself to get a different result?”

I don’t judge myself as “bad” because of it.

Here’s the truth. If you don’t get the result you want—it’s either due to ignorance, or it’s due to a program you picked up when you were a kid. That’s all it is.

You can get the correct information so that you’re no longer ignorant. AND you can change your internal program, so that you’re no longer held back by your old belief system. (With both of these, it helps to work with a coach who’s been where you want to be.)

There doesn’t have to be any self-judgment around it at all.

Nobody ever felt better by making themselves feel bad.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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Should I Give My Team a Raise?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I have a large team, and I’m making my best efforts to pay everyone at the upper range of their pay scale for each position. However, people are constantly asking for a raise. This triggers a reaction in me and fear that if I don’t give them what they’re asking for, they’ll leave.

I feel guilt that I can’t pay everybody double or even triple what I’m paying them. How do I handle this?

Neagle Code Answer

First off, I think it’s great that they’re asking for a raise. I want people who will ask for a raise, because that generally shows that they want to improve.

When someone asks for a raise, consider 2 things—their performance, and what you’re willing to pay around the scale for that job.

Ask yourself:

  1. Does the employee deserve a raise (regardless of whether they’re at the top of pay scale or not)?
  2. Where do you want to draw a line with how much you pay people?

That’s a personal decision and a business decision.

Secondly, everybody can be replaced. Don’t ever put it in your mind that you have somebody who can’t be replaced. Otherwise you’ll back yourself into a corner.

Some people are more difficult to replace than others, which may require that you pay them a bit more if you feel that they—and their position—are worth it.

If someone is in a position where you’re not going to pay any more, tell them that upfront. Say, “Listen, you’re already at top of the pay scale. The only way you’re going to get a raise is if the scale increases.”

Is there a place for advancement for that person?

It’s like knowing what their hopes and dreams are, and seeing if that’s a match for your company.

If there’s no advancement possible for them, then you need to let them know. You can say, “If a promotion is not what you’re looking for, and if you don’t want to advance in the company, then I completely understand if you want to move on.”

That’s part of owning a business—knowing that some people aren’t meant to stay in that position for the rest of their life, and you’ll have to replace them.

You’re also looking at individual performance data for the person and their position.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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How Do I Handle My Character Being Attacked?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

Someone has viciously attacked my character, and he doesn’t even know me at all.

I know this isn’t a business question. But if you’re in business, this happens a lot, right? You go out there, write books, and have a ton of exposure to other people. How do you create a strategy to be able to deal with this? I’ve read and reread the harsh attack about me a couple times. I can’t un-read it. How do you handle it?

Neagle Code Answer

You ignore it. You don’t let it into your head.

If you’re in business, it’s absolutely going to happen.

Here’s the first thing. From a healthy perspective, ask yourself, “Is anything this person said true?” Because sometimes we need negative criticism to wake us up about things.

If it’s all BS, then just say, “This is BS. I reject it.” You can reject it with your conscious mind.

Just don’t get emotional about it.

He’s obviously projecting onto you. Just completely let it go. Take it as a great lesson—-the bigger you get in life, the more people you’re going to be exposed to.

That’s just the way that it is.

I don’t pay any attention to any of the negative crap I get online. I don’t get much, but I do get some, and I just don’t pay attention to it.

I know who I am.

I have very trusted people around me who will tell me when I’m messing up, every time. I trust them to tell me that.

Here’s the other thing—when somebody does something like that in a non-productive way (which is exactly what this sounds like), you know it’s projection.

You know it’s projection because it’s not productive. If someone wanted to give you healthy criticism about something, they’d do it in a healthy way.

When they do it in a mean way or a nasty way, they’re projecting their own internal image onto somebody else. Everything he said to you is probably something that’s going on with him or somebody in his own life.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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How Do I Figure Out What I Want?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I find it hard to know exactly where I am in both my personal life and in business. I’m not sure how to set a goal that I can reach (that’s not wishful thinking). I don’t really know what I want.  

What questions can I ask myself to figure this out? Also, how can I be sure I’ll hit the goal? 

Neagle Code Answer

Hold on a second. That’s not true. You DO know what you want. You’re just not aware of it yet. 

If you continue to say, “I don’t know,” that’s a command to your brain to stop thinking. 

Don’t think of it as a goal you can reach. Think about it more from the perspective of, what do you really want? 

Ask your higher self, “What do I want? Show me what’s going to excite me. Show me why I’m here.” 

If you keep asking this question, the answer will come up. 

Don’t rush it. Don’t push it.  

Stop saying, “I don’t know,” because it’s in there. It’s in every person. All life has a purpose inside of it. 

Your higher self will communicate it to you, if you’ll consistently ask it to. 

Set a goal for something you seriously want, which you can work on over the next 90 days to achieve. It’s not about whether you reach the goal—it’s about whether you’re willing to work on it for the next 90 days. 

I have no way of knowing whether you can hit a goal in 90 days. Neither do you, if it’s something you haven't done before. 

The bigger question is…will you commit to doing it for 90 days?

Because it’s in the commitment that you’ll actually hit it in the timeframe you set. 

Few people hit a goal the first time around, especially a new goal on a date they’ve set. There’s no way to know whether they’ll reach the goal by that date. It’s just like an estimation. 

In the 90-day period, we’re looking to develop two things:

  1. Being our word, so that we consistently do the work for 90 days in a row.
  2. Change the paradigm inside of ourself, so that we can see the opportunity of what we want.

Success is literally about programming yourself to be able to see the opportunity. You have to consistently do that. 

You’re an adult, so you have to change a pattern of what you see in life. A child only has to make up their mind what they want. An adult has to change their mind. There’s no prior imprint in the child’s mind. 

For example, I’m 55. If I want to change something now that I’ve been dealing with my whole life—I have to realize I’ve had an imprint of that for 55 years. I need to work on changing that for a considerable amount of time, so that my eyes and intellect will see it as an opportunity in my life. Otherwise, I’m blind to it. 

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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Why “How?” is the Wrong Question to Ask

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

When you talk about “turning your yearly income into a monthly income,” my mind automatically wants to say, “Yeah right. How? Show me the way. Tell me exactly what you did and I’ll repeat the steps.” I’ve heard you say that asking “How?” is automatically asking the wrong question—and that we should be thinking in a different direction. Do I need to look at this from another angle instead of asking “How”?

Neagle Code Answer

It’s a decision. That’s all it is—a decision that you will.

Asking “how” before you’ve made the decision is a way to control. If you set a goal, or you hear me inspire you to do something really cool, and you go, “Yeah, sure, show me how”—that’s a way to control.

That question is coming from a place of not believing it’s possible to begin with. So you won’t do what you actually have to do to hit the goal.

The idea is, if you’re inspired to do something, you would say:

“I’m going to do it. I’m making a decision to do it. I don’t need to know how—I just need to make the decision that I’m going to do it.” Then set a date by which you’ll complete that thing.

In that moment, everything you need to do begins to show up, because you’ve done something that is your greatest power—making a decision. That gets you in line with the universe, and looking for the things you need to do next to hit the goal.

Many people will make the decision, but then go backwards and “un-decide”… because something shows up that makes them waiver. That’s why they go back and forth. They haven’t really made the decision.

You can’t un-decide.

It all goes back to the question, “Are you willing?” It’s a huge question, because you don’t know what you’re saying yes to. You might have to do things you’re uncomfortable with. Until you make the decision, you don’t know what’s blocking you from your success.

It becomes apparent as you start to go down that journey. Then it becomes a question of, “Am I willing to sacrifice something of a lower nature to gain something of a higher nature?”

You’ll hit a point where the biggest thing you’re attached to shows up. It’s usually the thing that makes or breaks people. They’re either willing to let go of the thing they’re attached to the most that’s keeping them stuck—or they’re NOT willing to.

This is where you’ll see a person instantly turn into a victim or start blaming.

Whatever shows up for them really is the crux of what they’re going to have to accept in order to step into their greatness.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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What Happens After We Die?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’ve always wanted spirituality in my life. I’ve had exposure to some spiritual ideas, but I don’t fully understand it. In all of your studies, have you formed an opinion about what happens when we die? Have you read any books that “clicked” around this idea for you?

Neagle Code Answer

Yes, I have an opinion. First, let me ask: why are you asking this question? Understanding why you’re asking will determine what answers you’re looking for.

Do you want the truth? Or do you want a “feel-good” story? If you want to know the truth, you’ll find it. If you want something else—a resurrection story, a Santa Claus story, a bunny story—you’ll find those, because they’re all there.

What’s interesting is that we have the ability to ask this question. If we can ask, then we can also find the answer.

I believe that before we were born, our energy was already here. It was present, and we had a purpose before we came into this body. (What we were doing, or in what form that energy was in—I don’t know.)

When we’re born, we come into this body as a form of energy. When we die, we move out of this body, but the energy never goes away. Energy is neither created or destroyed; it just is.

It transforms from one thing to another.

My opinion is that when you die, you transform to the next stage of your growth in your journey of being energy and a soul. What that looks like, I can’t tell you.

I work with some very credible people who’d say, “What you do and what you accumulate doesn’t matter. What you learn, who you become, and the awareness you gain in this lifetime is what matters—all of that goes with you forever onto your next journey. Based on everything we currently know, I believe that’s 100% true.

What helped me form this opinion was asking, “What’s the starting point for a human being?” For most people, the starting point is that they’re a victim. Almost everyone is given a victim story from the moment they’re born. If that’s true…then what? Where do you go from there?

If I come into life believing I’m a victim, that hurts everyone around me, because I’ll spread my victim belief to everyone else. The shadow side of being a victim is being a perpetrator. So I keep that cycle going. That cycle does not fit God’s modus operandi—which is “more life.”

Coming into life as a victim does not fit the universal laws.

It became apparent to me that before we came into this body, we must have chosen to do so. Believing we chose to come here—and that we’re responsible for our life—sets everyone free. It fits the universal laws.

I’d recommend reading the Conversations With God trilogy. Try to be completely open to it as you read it. If you don’t want to know the truth, you’ll be shut off to anything that comes in. It will become the perfect reason NOT to find the truth.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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When you put everyone else ahead of your needs…

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I notice I’ve been taking on responsibility for other people’s issues. I have a friend who’s in a health crisis. For the last nine months, I’ve been calling him every evening, just to have someone to chat with. It’s been very light. But recently, his story has gotten heavier. He lives alone and had to go to the ER. He reached out to me, because I’ve been communicating with him the most. (Nobody else could do it. I said yes.)

It wore me down. It feels like I’m carrying his responsibility myself. What’s the best way to handle this? Just do it, then recuperate? How do I ensure his heavy situation isn’t burdening me so much?

Neagle Code Answer

Whenever someone asks you for help (or even asks you a question) for any situation, you have to come from your #1 priority—“What is my outcome?”

When something outside of your scheduled days shows up, ask:

  • What’s actually happening here?
  • What’s the truth about this?
  • What is my outcome?
  • What is the clarity of my outcome?

You must be very clear in your conscious process that you won’t be subservient to another person’s story. Their story—and how they’re showing up—will have to be obedient to your clarity.

You’re responsible TO people, not FOR them.

You might determine that, “I need to get rest tonight, because I have a long day tomorrow, and I need to be focused. No, I won’t cut into my rest time to go save somebody else. Whatever they need is not my responsibility, and it doesn’t work for me at this moment.”

If you break that rule with yourself, you’re doing it because you’re getting into their story. Now their story becomes the thing you’re being “obedient” to.

You need clarity about everything you’re doing throughout your days—so that when something else shows up, you instantly know whether it’s a “yes” or “no.”

Even if you can help someone, that doesn’t necessarily mean you should. Always ask yourself: “How am I structuring my days so that I’m successful?

“Is this something I should be doing?”

You schedule your day based on what you need to do every day to win. Then you become obedient to that schedule.

The way I run my days, if something shows up that’s not an emergency and I’ve already planned out very specific things that need to be done (including my rest), then it’s automatically a no. Or I find somebody else to do it. Or I make a suggestion on how the person can get it done without me.

If you know your priorities, and you need rest more than you need to help someone else—then you can be fully in your power to say “no” to whatever just showed up in your life.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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Can You Just “Decide” to Be a Millionaire?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’ve heard you say fear screams the loudest just before you make a decision. I had a goal to make seven figures. I’ve been doing “terror barrier stuff,” doing things I’ve never done before, and getting good at facing fears. “You get the courage to do the thing by doing a thing.” I did everything that would lead to making seven figures.

But if I’m honest, I never thought my goal would actually occur. I wasn’t worried about it, because I didn’t believe it could happen. I wasn’t absorbing it as a real goal. Now, it’s happening. I’m super delighted and excited.

Now I have this bigger fear where I’m like, “Oh my God, now I’m going to BE that person who makes seven figures.” To overcome this—do I need to make a decision to BE that person now?

Neagle Code Answer

Yes. You need to decide to be the person who makes seven figures.

It’s a double-sided decision. It’s the decision to become that person, and it’s also the decision to let go of the old one.

This can feel very much like someone’s about to die. Because someone is about to die. It’s very real.

It’s not a metaphor.

It’s real.

That’s the decision you have to make—to become this new person who makes seven figures.

Decide that earning this amount of money will become part of your new reality, your new experience, and your default.

Decide that you’ll continue doing the necessary things a 7-figure earner would do on a daily basis—including facing all those fears.

Use all the tools you have at your disposal and everything you’ve learned to stick to this commitment.

…And congratulations for making that decision!

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! This October 2021, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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