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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Hi David,

I jumped out of a relationship last year, so my ex and I have been living apart for a year now. But sometimes, I still think about whether I should go back.

Should I completely stop myself from moving forward with my own life? Should I be with her and my child again? Because I still miss them…

I’m looking for a way to break free, but I’m afraid to make the same decision and another mistake.

Thanks for the great question!

Quite simply… here is the root cause of your problem:

You haven’t made a decision.

You’re essentially trying to live in two worlds at the same time. And the only thing that this does is that it adds even more confusion to your life.

What I’d suggest is to get crystal-clear on the vision of what you want for your life. This is a vision in which you won’t have to change anyone.

Remember:

Whenever doubt comes in our mind, it destabilizes the thought process.

Confusion does nothing, aside from opening doors to even more doubt in your life. 

This is because you’re considering a part of what you don’t want. Our mind then tries to rationalize this, and it does so based on pain – the very same thing you made a decision not to be a part of. And at this point, you start considering things that don’t serve you in any way.

Unless something’s changed so significantly that it now checks all the “yes” boxes in your mind, there’s no reason to reconsider the relationship.

All of this confusion can go away once you’ve clarified your vision. And the moment this happens, there will be no more of these hypotheticals. You won’t have to wonder what would happen if something or someone changes. 

Besides, it’s not your job to change anyone.

Rather, your job is to clearly define your vision and its parameters. By doing so, you’ll make every decision relatively easy. 

Either someone fits the vision of your life or they don’t. 

Then, it’s only a matter of making that final decision and moving forward.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Sally. 

Hi David,

How can I overcome procrastination, disorder, and clutter?

Great question.

What you give your energy to, will grow.

So, if you're focused on what you don't want or what you don't want to happen, like the procrastination, clutter and disorganization, you will notice that you will create more of the same.

The way to handle and overcome this is by first becoming aware that your thinking is causing the problem.

Procrastination, disorder, and clutter are actually caused by incorrect thinking.

Second, it's more than just making a decision to get things done, because the disorder that you experience in your physical world is a result of the disorder that's going on in the way that you think.

In other words, you have to retrain yourself to think in an orderly way, which will then bring you a sense of calm because you're not worried about constantly being disorderly.

Understand that everything happens by cause and effect, but if you’re willing to step into being the cause, the effect will take care of itself.

It takes time. You have to really work on yourself to be able overcome procrastination, disorder, and clutter, but it can be done!

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

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2. Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation 2020 Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Carly B. 

Hi David,

If you want something really bad and right away, is that a sign that you’re on the verge of a quantum leap?

Good question. Really good question.

When you want something right away, when you want to make a quantum leap, you have to ask yourself the question:

Do I want to do it right away because I'm in fear of something?

Is there any fear behind the wanting of a quantum leap?

If there is, you need to change that.

The desire to make a quantum leap should only come from a positive place.

Almost everybody that really, really wants a quantum leap is coming from some kind of fear.

A quantum leap happens when we become aware of something that we weren't aware of, and that awareness allows us to make a really markable gain in what we're doing.

For example, when I went from $20,000 to $62,000 in a month, that was a quantum leap.

It did not follow any of the rules in my mind for how that was supposed to happen.

I saw an opportunity that I hadn’t seen before, and I took advantage of it. Meaning I took action immediately toward it!

That's really when a quantum leap happens.

Don’t focus on a quantum leap…focus on being consistent

Remember, running a business is about being consistent in what you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward to hit the goals that you set.

Sometimes you will have quantum leaps, sometimes you won't.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

1. Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
2. Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation 2020 Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
3. Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! This October I'm getting a group of amazing business owners for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Hi David,

I’ve heard you say that there is no time. What does that mean exactly, and how does time tie into the big picture in massive goal setting?

Fantastic question! I know this can be a confusing concept.

We all have the same amount of this illusion that we call time.

As human beings, we break time down into days. We have a 24-hour measuring system that we use, but what do we use time for?

We use it to manage our life.

You also cannot have time without space or space without time.

The moment you start to focus on time, like on your calendar or in setting your goal, you bring space into the picture.

The question is what are you going to fill the space with?

Northcote Parkinson has a law that says that work tends to fill the time allotted.

In other words, if we shorten the timeframe on almost any kind of work, we will get it done in a shorter timeframe than we originally thought that we could.

When I'm going to set a goal, I am going to pick a timeframe, but the question then is, “How do I know if that timeframe is correct?”

I don't.

If I don't reach the goal, I don’t change the goal. I only change the timeframe in which we're doing it.

One of the things that's important to understand is that things can happen much quicker than we think they can.

Think about how can we remove the time barrier and actually make something happen quicker.

Sometimes we can, sometimes we can't.

For thousands of years it took a certain amount of time to get from one place to the other because we couldn't fly, but once we understood how to do that, we certainly filled the time barrier from one place to another.

So, time is not set in stone as far as a measurement of what’s possible.

Time is really just a matter of perception.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

1. Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
2. Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation 2020 Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Hi David,

Does making a decision start with saying, “I'm making a decision,” or is it just a switch that you flip, and you just do it?

If a person is very solid in the decision-making process, they don't necessarily say, “I'm making a conscious decision to do this.” They know that they're doing it.

They're in a stage past the idea of not making a decision. When they see that a change needs to happen, they immediately see it, and they make that change.

To answer your question you must first identify what stage of decision making are you in?

Some of the stages of decision making include:

1.) Identifying you have a problem that needs to be changed or having a goal you want to accomplish.

2.) Next, you may do research and gather all the information you may need to make your decision. You then may weigh your options and evaluate the pros and cons of your potential decision.

And

3.) Finally, you make your choice, your decision and act on it.

Remember, some people may easily go through these stages without realizing they are checking off stage 1, 2, 3 etc. It happens naturally. As you said, they just “flip the switch”.  

For others, it is more of a conscious process, and they may say “I’m making a decision…”.

When you make a change in your life, you did make a decision, because you switched from one thing to another.

That's a decision.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Hi David,

I have two questions. First, if you want to do something, and you're feeling some resistance behind it, do you recommend talking to somebody who has a different perspective and say, “What do you see as the opportunity, here?” Second, I'll get ideas, and then I'll just stop. I'll just do whatever it is tomorrow. One of the obstacles that I keep coming across is just managing the time.

GREAT questions!!

In short, the answer is yes, you can talk to someone, and ask them for help, but make sure you're talking to somebody that can actually help you see the opportunity.

If you're talking to somebody that's very much like yourself, you'll probably get terrible advice.

Talk to somebody that is either further ahead than you are or is optimistic enough in reality to give you some solid advice.

To answer your second question, you don't manage time. Nobody can manage time.

You manage activities.

Activities are managed based on the vision that you have for what you want to create. Once we create a vision for ourselves, the vision dictates everything that we do from that day on, right?

Determine how much time you’re giving to activities based on solid deadlines, and make adjustments to ensure you’re setting yourself up for success.

Stick to that. If you’re really serious, you stick to it. You commit to it.

That's how you build new habits.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Mark. 

Hi David,

My father really abandoned the idea of wealth. His message was that money is not needed or the thing to work towards. What can I do to overcome that programming around money that's now in my subconscious? I really want to break through this.

Hi Mark and thanks for the great question!

You know, it's not about breaking through anything.

It's about you understanding why you feel a need to be obedient to your father's rule in life because that's what's controlling your results.

It's not uncommon because we're basically raised to be obedient to our parents.

Somewhere along the line, it became painful to do something different than how your father saw life.

He still has authority in your mind over the way he thinks life should be lived, and you're being obedient to that authority.

Once you understand WHY you feel the need to be obedient, you can push through to form and follow your own beliefs.

Ask yourself this: How is it serving you to stay obedient to your father’s beliefs? What do you hope to gain from being the obedient son?

This is your life. You can live it how YOU want to live it.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Hi David,

My problem is when I make a sale, a big sale, I go back to helping people and stop selling. Each time I hang up the phone I think, “Oh my god, I forgot to do the sale.” How do I start making sales again and stop this pattern?

Thanks for the great question!

This is a very common phenomenon for small business owners.

You have a financial set point.

You're working to stay the same.

You're working to be safe.

Intellectually you want to make more money, but when you hit that upper level of your own safety, you stop.

You say to yourself, “I'll do it tomorrow or I'll do it next time.”

Then, you take your foot off the gas, and you only apply it again once you need to make more money.

It's a terrible pattern to be in.

And the only way to break through it is with consistency and commitment.

Determine how much money you want to make.

Then, it becomes a commitment to make those sales every week.

Calendar your sales activities and STICK TO IT!

You don't stop when you reach the amount of money that pays your bills. You keep going.

If you can stay disciplined, and keep your word by doing what you say you are going to do, this will change very quickly for you!

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Kim. 

Hi David,

I’ve always been searching for my purpose and desire. I've been doing family law for 14 years, now. I go back and forth between this love and hate relationship. Certain days, I find myself just very exhausted. I don't know if it's because it's not really my purpose or my desire for my life. I wonder if I’m self-sabotaging, and not doing the things I know I need to do to grow my business…

If you're not doing the things that you need to do to grow your business, it can become very mundane.

The human spirit really does not like doing the same thing repeatedly, because the human spirit's always for expansion.

We lose a bit of our creative energy whenever we are repeating things that are the same for too long. It loses its newness, its freshness. It loses the exploration, the challenge.

Those things bring about the creative energy.

If you're constantly moving into problem solving in your business all the time, and it's the same problem, over and over again, yeah, it's going to make you have a love/hate relationship with it.

You might love the core of the business, but you're tired of dealing with the same things over and over again.

I think the idea is to really be honest with yourself about what is it in the business that you're starting to hate? What is the specific thing?

Be really honest about that.

You need to ask what you DO want to do.

Let's not talk about what you don't want. What do you want?

What’s something you're enthusiastic about?

It’s common to develop your business in a way where there's a certain amount of safety and a certain amount of certainty. It’s common to get into the groove of safety and not want to start all over again.

Then, we get into that rut.

It's about really disrupting that rut and finding out what really energizes you.

What would really make things amazing in your life?

Then, go after it, 100%.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Alisha. 

Hi David,

I have two questions. First, are desire and purpose different or the same? Second, can you explain how our secret thoughts lead us toward our passion, our purpose?

So, to answer your first question:

Your desire and your purpose are different.

Your purpose is never ending. It's always expanding.

It is the track that you're on for your life, what you're going to be, do, and have, as a person. It's the reason that you're here.

Your desire is the inner compass that will keep you in your purpose all your life. It's your inner guidance system for you to follow and learn to follow that will keep you in your purpose.

To answer your 2^nd question:

Yes, our secret thoughts do lead us toward our passion and our purpose.

But why are they secret thoughts, and why should we express them?

Most people learn at some point not to verbalize the things that they really want, especially if they were criticized or made wrong in their life. They don't express them anymore.

They think about them in their secret thoughts, the thoughts that they don't tell anybody about.

Very often, we've either been doing that for so long, or we don't recognize that we're doing it.

We don't realize that those secret thoughts are extremely important in telling us what it is that we really desire in life, and we need to find a way to give expression to them.

The only reason that we're not expressing our secret thoughts, is that we have shame or guilt wrapped up in them, somebody told us they were wrong, or society doesn't agree with them.

There's some reason you're not expressing it, but it's the actual thing that you should be expressing that will lead you into all the things that you want to do in your life.

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