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3 Keys to Building Confidence

Here’s the truth…

A lack of self-confidence keeps a person from expressing their heart’s desire.

To experience success, you must be confident in yourself.

How do you
build confidence?

Key #1: Know your supply. We have to know our true supply (i.e., our source). This requires deep understanding.

Everything comes from ONE source. You could call it God, Spirit, the Universe, or whatever name you prefer. Everything comes from one source, and it comes through people. Nothing is left out. That includes money.

Most people believe their supply is other people. They then lack lack confidence, because they think people can shut them off from what they desire.

They’ll tip-toe through life, afraid of someone telling them “no,” making fun of them, rejecting them, etc. This fear stops most people in their tracks.

Key #2: Think, speak, and act only wonderfully about yourself. Never refer to yourself in any derogatory way. Never see yourself, what you do, how you feel, or what you think as “bad” or negative. Don’t even view your circumstances as negative.

Your words have power. Speak and act wonderfully about yourself all the time. Don’t abuse yourself. Only describe yourself in ways that reflect what you WANT rather than what you don’t want.

Key #3: Surround yourself with people and influences that support your purpose and dreams, and respect how special you are.

Don’t hang out with people who don’t believe there’s something wonderful about themselves. Why is that?

Because if they don’t see greatness in themselves,
they can’t see greatness in you.

They can’t give something they don’t have. All they can do is manipulate you. Why? They are trying to get something from you.

Think deeply about this, and you’ll find that it’s very accurate.

Start making confidence your highest priority in your life. Treat it as something you value. This will help you build extraordinary confidence.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions
for Life” comes from Hilda.

Hilda, I’m so glad you asked this question.

I see so many speakers make the mistake you’re about to make.

In short, NEVER open a presentation by thanking the host or the audience for being there. It’s terrible positioning and leaves the audience wondering who you are.

Instead, take control of the audience.

Let me explain.

Walk out onto the stage with confidence and energy, and immediately give the audience a directive.

Ask them to take out a piece of paper and write something down.

Ask them to close their eyes and think about something specific.

Ask them to DO something.

This lets your audience know that you’re in control and it also allows you time to settle in and calm the adrenaline that’s pumping in your body.

It shows you are confident, and sets the tone for the entire presentation.

Do this and you’ll set yourself up for a successful experience right from the beginning.

Just Believe,^®

 

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost
program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions
for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Thank you for your question. Many people get stuck right here, thinking they have to build credibility, secure testimonials and build a website before they can ever begin.

So here’s the real question, are the people who need you finding you? And when they do, do they see you as an expert or just a friendly peer?

By posturing and positioning your actions, thinking, and energy all to match your expertise, people will see you in that way and want to buy your services.

How do you position yourself as an expert and get your message out?

A great way to do this is by sponsoring and speaking at events that compliment your services. By aligning yourself with event hosts, you hold instant expert status, and if you get to speak from the stage and share your message, you’ll have access to an audience ready to hear from you.

While events can give you the platform, what really enrolls clients is a sales conversation where you ask questions that other people have never asked before.

You don’t need to tell them how much you know or about your raving testimonials or how wonderful your product or service is.

Your confidence in your ability to help them gets transferred TO them, and then they know you can help them.

You don’t sell people… people sell themselves when they realize what they need to do about their problem; which ultimately results in them purchasing your expertise to help solve it!

Just Believe,^®

 

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost
program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

Hello David ! I just started in business and I have what I see as a problem. I come from a family where self value wasn't present, and I find that it's hard for me to deal with employees. I tend to be kind and put at least some of their priorities first. In business books I keep reading that is not a good tactic. I am afraid I will ruin my business success by considering employees' needs too!
What's your opinion?

Answer:

Hi and thanks for the question!

“Dealing” with employees and “considering their needs” are two totally different things.

Because I'm not sure of the exact scenarios you are referencing, I'm going to make some assumptions in order to help you get some clarity about what's going on in your business.

My guess is that you would rather be liked than prosperous.

Let me explain.

If you put your employees needs over the needs of your business because you are afraid that they won't like you if you tell them no, you would rather be liked than prosperous.

If you avoid having the “difficult” conversations with your employees regarding expectations and responsibilities because you're worried they won't like you, you would rather be liked than prosperous.

You see, it's one thing to consider the needs to your employees, it's an entirely different thing if your employees needs negatively affect your business.

Communication is key in any business setting, and if you're having difficulty communicating for fear of what others will think, you're putting your business in a very perilous position.

The key is to really become aware of what's happening.

Most people experience this in their business because they fear the judgment of others.

Judgment is painful and therefore, they are willing to do anything to avoid it.

Freedom is in realizing that the judgment of others has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the person who is judging.

Team members respect a leader who is confident and clear.

Think of one thing you can do right now to step into being the leader you need to be.

Now, take action!

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Pegi Dahl. You can find her on the web at www.heypegi.com.

Question:

I've lived the Law of Attraction for years now and all but one part of my life “clicks.” My bills are paid. My new desires are met. I love what I do and find that incoming jobs come to me at the perfect time. I'm so happy I could bust, except for this one thing.

I find it gut-wrenching to charge for my work. When I invoice, I rarely charge what the work was worth. I am excellent at what I do, as my clients will attest. I have good self-esteem. I just prefer to do what I love and let the Universe provide.

I'd like to step up my income and move to the next level, which will mean charging what my quality of work is worth. Can you help?

Answer:

I love this question…

Pegi, I need to tell you something, and I'm typing it with nothing but love.

You don't have good self-esteem.

If you did, you wouldn't be afraid of the rejection you would have to deal with when you begin to charge what you're worth.

Above you said that you're excellent at what you do, and that your clients will attest to it. So tell me, if this is the case, why would you find it gut-wrenching to charge for your work?

You prefer to do what you love and let the Universe provide because you are afraid of what will need to happen for you to grow. You would need to stand in your power, be confident and not be afraid of hearing the word, “no”.

And let me tell you something, the Universe doesn't “provide” anything. You create it. And right now you are creating just enough to get by.

You see Spirit doesn't speak to you through fear, therefore, it's not Spirit that's making it gut-wrenching to charge for your services.

It's your ego.

Your ego knows that you are afraid of rejection and judgment from others, and so it uses that belief to stop you from growing.

Charging what you're worth means that you would need to grow into being that person, and that's something your ego DOES NOT want you to do because it views any kind of growth as a risk.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

What do you suggest for those who have yet to make any money at all from their business?

Answer:

This is a question that has popped up often in the past, but I think it’s extremely important for EVERYONE, no matter how much they’ve made in their business. It’s one of THE keys to business success.

You’ve probably heard me talk about the importance of knowing where you are, right? Well, in this case if you’re going to set goals for yourself, it’s important that you get very honest with yourself about where you are right now in your business and your life.

Once you’ve done that, set your first goal. It could be a financial goal, “I’m going to make $1,000.00 this month.”, or it could be a benchmark goal, “I’m going to gain one new client this week.” It really doesn’t matter, as long as you can see yourself attaining the goal.

You must be able to get behind it emotionally for you to truly to EXPECT your DESIRE to manifest. (Remember manifestation is a two part process: desire and expectation.)

After you’ve set your goal, you MUST TAKE ACTION. This is the place that trips up most people. I have many students that tell me they know what they should do, but they just can’t make themselves do it. This place is what I call your blind spot. You know you should be doing something, and yet, you catch yourself on Facebook instead of making sales calls.

Once you’ve taken action, you ADAPT to what happens because of that action, and you remain open to new opportunities.

The cycle then repeats beginning with you setting a new goal, “I’m going to make $2,000.00 this month.”, and pretty soon and in a very short time, you’ve created a successful business.

The time it takes you to build that business depends on how quickly you move through the steps, and how long you allow yourself to flounder around before getting help if you need it.

The great thing about this cycle is that it pertains to new business owners who haven’t made a cent in their business, and it also rings true for entrepreneurs who are already at the 5 or 6 figure mark. It’s the same for everyone. And it’s what I use to help my students achieve their dreams both financially and personally.

So, I guess the question would be; why aren’t you making any money in your business?

Abundance is all around you.

Come on, get going…

People are waiting for you to shine your brilliant light, so what are you resisting?

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they’ve never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous

Question:

How do I convince myself that I’m worthy of increasing my prices and receiving the financial success that I so dearly desire? I think somewhere I have a belief that I don’t deserve financial freedom, because even though I want it, it eludes me.

Answer:

You don’t have to convince yourself of anything. You just have to look at Truth.

The truth is that you are a divine being, created in the likeness of Spirit, God, Allah, or whatever spiritual belief that you subscribe to. You are worthy of everything and anything that you want.

This is TRUTH.

What made Bill Gates or Oprah worthy of their riches? They are the same as you.

Nothing separates you other than your own perceptions and beliefs.

The fact that you are even asking this question shows that somewhere a message got handed to you that you agreed with. The message could have been that you need to work hard for anything in life, or that you weren’t good enough, smart enough, or pretty enough. Your self esteem was damaged, and you vowed that you’d never open yourself up to that vulnerability again.  Questioning worthiness comes from a place of being afraid to be seen or heard for fear of ridicule.

Imagine for a moment what your life would be like if you didn’t care what others thought. If you weren’t worried about making mistakes, looking like a fool, or being humiliated. How would your decision making be different? More importantly, how would your LIFE be different?

I encourage you to make a decision today that you ARE worthy. Don’t “convince” yourself.

Proclaim it.

Stand in your power, say it out loud, and continue to do so until small changes in your thinking and behavior begin to occur. Every morning, look in the mirror, and tell yourself that you’re perfect just the way you are and that NOTHING unworthy of God is worthy of you.

Treat yourself like the King or Queen that you are.

Accept nothing less than what you desire and take action as though you are filled with confidence.

Only then will you see your brilliance in this world and be shown the opportunities in life that will change EVERYTHING.

Because, my friend, THAT is the TRUTH, and Spirit wants you to have all that you desire even more than you than you want it for yourself.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

I’m writing this to you on Saturday, when I have just 90 minutes between my youngest daughter’s softball game, and the arrival of my middle daughter’s “sleepover posse”.

But I’ve got something on my mind that can’t wait …

There was a common theme running through my private, one-on-one coaching calls this past week that was more prevalent & intense & “about-to-be-extremely-destructive” than I’ve experienced in quite some time.

And it popped up too many times this past week for these to be isolated cases …

So I want to address it immediately & head-on with all of my subscribers & students, because here’s what I’m hearing:

You’re feeling small.

You’re feeling insignificant and inconsequential.

You’re feeling like a … fraud.

You’re feeling like you’re never going to reach your goals and live your dreams, because you’re just not …

• special enough,
• compelling enough,
• inspiring enough
• beautiful enough

… for any more than a handful of people to pay attention, and listen to you, and care what you have to say.

Add to that, you don’t feel any serious, accomplished business owners will want to JV with you because …

• your list is too small
• your business is too new
• you haven’t mastered online marketing
• you don’t know enough of the “right” people
• you’re not making enough money in your business
• you don’t have a proven sales record

… and the list of negatives goes on!

Look everyone, I started from & with nothing! And if I can make millions & reach thousands with my message, so can you and I will help you!!

* * * * * * * *

So right now, I want you to follow my lead, and do this:

1) Reach behind your head, grab the back of your collar and pull yourself up straight and tall! You ARE divine & powerful & amazing, so start believing it and acting like it!

2) Now repeat after me: “I am ONE with the Universe, and nothing is beyond my reach or unavailable to me! And I am WILLING to fulfill the great purpose that Spirit intends directly and especially for me!”

3) Find a pen & paper, and write this down:

Date: Wednesday May 5, 2010

Time: 7pm Eastern / 4pm Pacific

Conference Line: 818-742-0029

Private Pin Number: 383688#

And in case the phone lines are jammed, save this webcast link:

http://attendthisevent.com/?eventID=12602046

and

4) Make a commitment to yourself (and to me) right now that at the above date and time, you WILL join me for at least 60 minutes (we may go longer) on my private conference line so I can work with you to get your head straight about just how brilliant and powerful and needed you are!

* * * * * * * *

Here’s what I want to teach you on this call:

1. The 5 sources of POWER that already exist in your business, that you can activate and put to work for you immediately.
2. The #1 best way you can immediately start showing up in your business (and in the world) as the brilliant, POWERHOUSE expert that you are … even if you don’t feel that way right now.
3. What it means to truly adopt, once and for all, the mindset of a 7-figure+ business owner! (There’s a certain way all 7-figures earners had to think BEFORE they crossed the million-dollar-mark! But it’s a decision to think this way, and you’ve got to understand it to make it work for you!)
4. The 2 absolutes you must understand immediately to CLOSE your sales conversations faster, and feel great doing so! (Look: you deserve the experience of accepting more money, more often, more easily!)
5. What your marketing says about you … and how you can shift it to immediately come from a place of POWER, and never desperation!

Sound good?

You’ve got the number & the webcast link.

You’ve got the date and time.

There’s not a single hoop for you to jump through.

All you have to do now is SHOW UP LIVE for a boost of your spirits & your business acumen … and I’ll meet you there!

Ok! I’ve got to get back to my Saturday, but I really wanted to address this today … It breaks my heart that you’ll feeling so small, and I really want to give you some tools to uplift and inspire you … and remind you of how truly amazing you really are!

Wishing you an awesome day!

“Just Believe”,

P.S. Yes, you are more than welcome to share this invitation. I’m going to have this posted on my blog at www.davidneagle.com/blog before the end of the day on Monday too. (Actually, if you like, leave me a comment on my blog and let me know you’ll be there!)

P.P.S. I have no way of knowing how many people will show up for this call (because I’m not requiring that you register in advance) … so if the phone lines are jammed, please join me on the webcast at:  http://attendthisevent.com/?eventID=12602046