Can fear be used as a guide in your life?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Dave A.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David!

How do you “be” the person you desire when your whole life has been filled with fear? Where do you get the strength and courage to step out of your paradigm?

Thanks so much!

Neagle Code Answer

Hi Dave, thanks for the question!

The first thing to realize is that everything comes from within you. As children, we are taught to look outward for validation of what the world is like. But the truth is that all experiences come from inside of you.

You get to decide who you want to be and what you want your reality to be. It is not determined by anyone else but you, especially now that you are an adult and no longer dependent on anyone for survival.

But, your reality won’t change until you start making new decisions.

In my line of work I deal with the ideas of fear and courage everyday. They are, after all, inherently linked. However what I’ve come to realize from years of working in this arena is that people have an innate misunderstanding about courage and fear. Most people think courageous people aren’t scared, that they don’t feel fearful.

That couldn’t be further from the truth.

The thing is, you can use fear as a signpost of what TO DO in life. You can use fear to catalyze new possibilities in your life, and it’s why I’m hosting my next FREE training on this exact topic! CLICK HERE  if you’d like to join me this Tuesday afternoon at 1pm ET.

Once you believe more in the Truth than you do your own story, change will be automatic.


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Courage Conquers Fear…

Relative to the grand scheme of things, your life span could be compared to lighting a candle and immediately blowing it out.  In other words, life is short – very short.  Missing out out on any of the joys life offers is a tragedy.

If your life is being controlled by your fears, you are most certainly cheating yourself.

Courage is the mental muscle that conquers fear.  Like all muscles, the more you use them, the stronger they become.  Courage is not something you are born with; it must be developed.  Individuals who fail to develop courage remain confined in a mental prison and face each day as mental lightweights.

It has been said if you face the things you fear, then the fear leaves you.

For years I believed that courageous individuals had no fear.  I was wrong.  Eddie Richenbacher put it very well when he said, “There is no courage without fear.”  We all have fear, however, not everyone becomes subservient to their fears.

It's likely that there is something you have wanted to do for years – move to another city, start your own business, apply for better positions, or go after the big account.  Whatever it is you should do it.  Remember, life is not a practice run.  This is it.  A little courage leads to more.

Observe those poor souls who are without courage.  They are merely tiptoeing through life hoping they make it safely to death.

You and I were never meant to live that way.  Learn to live the way you like by no longer living as you dislike.  Forge into the remainder of your day with an abundance of courage.  That's living!

Create your status. Fill it with achievement.

Entrepreneurs create their lives differently than the majority of people.

The majority, or the masses, have been taught a different set of beliefs and values based on hard work and incremental achievement.

They also believe that atonement is somehow given to them by other people.

“If I get good grades, then I'll get praised.”
“If I do a good job at work, then I'll get a raise.”

Success minded individuals know their achievement, promotion and income is created by themselves, and it begins with their thinking. Next they fill their lives with all the things that support a “success mindset.”

They surround themselves with like-minded people.

They invest in their skill development and take responsibility for their own personal growth.

They also understand that getting uncomfortable is a PREREQUISITE to all of this and they even learn to become comfortable living out on this edge of life. My mentor used to say, “If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much room.” I happen to agree.

The edge is the creative place to be and keeps a person growing and headed in the right direction.

People who play it safe and think they are going to maintain the status quo are living in ignorance of a very basic law of the universe. The Law says, You are either growing or dying, but nothing remains the same. Everything is in a state growth or death.

Now, ask yourself this question: Are you constantly preparing for your own success? Successful individuals realize that preparing is nothing more than a stalling tactic created by fear. It's unfortunate some people can't seem to get out of the “preparing for success” mindset. You see, once you make a decision to create your own success you move on that decision, everything you require for the manifestation of your dream begins to move to you.

A.L.Hunt put it this way:

1. Decide what you want

2. Decide what you will give up to get it

3. Get on with the work.

Does that seem scary? It should if your goal and your dreams are big enough.

One of my favorite authors (Price Pritchett) explained it like this:

“Quantum leaps jerk you out of your comfort zone. Prepare yourself for a pretty wild ride. You're going to cover unfamiliar terrain and encounter obstacles you've never faced before. It can feel like the safety chain linking you with behavior patterns that worked in the past is being stretched to the limit.

At times you may wonder if the situation is about to spin out of control. The normal reaction is to want to hold on tightly. But you're going to have to learn to let go.

A quantum leap is achieved through release.

So turn loose if you want to jump.

Don't be surprised if you grow uneasy…that's a predictable part of the process. When you take a the quantum leap you ride the situation, but you don't really control it all that much. In fact, the only way you control it is by:

1. Knowing where you are going.

2. Continuing the pursuit

3. Learning from your mistakes.

A quantum leap is an act of faith, exhilarating and possibly scary at the same time. You have to give up a large degree of security and safety; plow through greater amounts of ambiguity and confusion and uncertainty, wrestle with a totally new set of problems, invite failure, and possibly contend with criticism from other people who have been part of your support group in the past.

Make you uncomfortable?

That's a good sign.

If you're experiencing no anxiety or discomfort, the risk you're taking probably isn't worthy of you.

The only risks that aren't a little scary are the ones you've outgrown.

A high comfort level provides solid evidence that you're “playing it safe,” not growing, not really testing your limits at all, and not in the process of a quantum leap.

You might be making gradual progress…that's possible but you're not going for a breakthrough.

Doing this carries you beyond your commonplace, everyday habits and calls for a little more nerve.

So just go into this expecting a touch of anxiety. Uneasiness is a predictable psychological reaction when a quantum leap is underway.

It has been said that if you will do the thing you fear, death of fear is certain.

Courage is not the absence of fear and anxiety, it's proceeding in spite of those feelings.

So press on.”