Tag: decision making

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David!

How do you “be” the person you desire when your whole life has been filled with fear? Where do you get the strength and courage to step out of your paradigm?

Thanks so much!

Hi!

Thanks for the question!

The first thing to realize is that everything comes from within you.

As children, we are taught to look outward for validation of what the world is like. But the truth is that all experiences come from inside of us.

You get to decide:

–>who you want to be, and
–>what you want your reality to be.

It is not determined by anyone else but you, especially now that you are an adult and are no longer dependent on anyone for survival.

But your reality won’t change until you start making new decisions.

In my line of work, I deal with the ideas of fear and courage every day.

They are, after all, inherently linked.

However, what I’ve come to realize from years of working in this arena, is that people have an innate misunderstanding about courage and fear.

Most people think courageous people aren’t scared, and that they don’t feel fearful. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

The thing is, you can use fear as a signpost of what TO DO in life and use it to catalyze new possibilities.

So be courageous and step into the fear. The fear won’t subside until you do the thing you are resisting.

Unless your life is being physically threatened, fear actually points the way!

Once you believe more in the Truth than you do your own story, change will be automatic.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Amanda B.

Hi David,

I recently heard you say that a fear of success is not real. And yet, I think I have a fear of success. I have every opportunity to have a thriving business, but when I get close to thriving, I put the brakes on. Can you explain to me how this is NOT the fear of success, because it sure feels like it.
 Thanks!

Hi Amanda,

First, I want to be clear. What you are dealing with is not the fear of success.

No one is afraid of success. You succeed in different areas of your life everyday.

What you are struggling with is the fear of what you believe you will need to leave behind in order to achieve success.

You put the brakes on because:

A) You’re worried about what people are going to think of you if you make a mistake

B) You’re worried about what people will think of you if you do achieve success

C) You’re worried about who you will need to leave behind if you seek your own success

D) You’re worried about what you will have to give up to accept success into your life

You see, it’s never about the fear of success, it’s about the stories you have around success.

Check in with yourself right now.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1) Who will I need to walk away from to be successful?

2) What risks will I need to take that may threaten my fear of what people may think of me?

3) What things will I need to walk away from that will no longer support my success?

4) Am I willing to do whatever it takes for my own success?

These questions will help you see how your sub-conscious mind is getting in your way of standing confident in your decision-making.

As soon as you shine the light of the truth on this, you’ll be able to see things in a whole new way!

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions
for Life” comes from Bryan.

Hi Bryan and thanks for the outstanding question.

First, I want to be clear. What you are dealing with is not the fear of success.

What you are struggling with is the fear of what you will need to leave behind in order to achieve success.

You hesitate because:

A) You’re worried about what people are going to think of you if you make a mistake

B) You’re worried about what people will think of you if you do achieve success

C) You’re worried about who you will need to leave behind if you seek your own success

D) You’re worried about what you will have to give up to accept success into your life

You see, it’s never about the fear of success, it’s about the stories you have around success.

Check in with yourself right now.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1) Who will I need to walk away from to be successful?

2) What risks will I need to take that may threaten my fear of what people may think of me?

3) What things will I need to walk away from that will no longer support my success?

4) Am I willing to do whatever it takes for my own success?

These questions will help you see how your sub-conscious mind is getting in your way of standing confident in your decision-making.

As soon as you shine the light of the truth on this, you’ll be able to see things in a whole new way!

Just Believe,^®

 

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost
program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

How do you know when the next step is in front of you, or if it's just the next shiny new thing that's trying to manipulate your time and energy?

Answer:

Thanks for the question! I know many entreprenuers struggle with this.

First it's important to know if you have a clear cut goal. You can't decide what the next step is if you don't know where you're going to begin with.

If you don't have a goal, set some time aside and get very clear about what you'd like the end result to be.

If you already know what the goal is, ask yourself if there is something that your resisting doing that's keeping you from that goal.

Often times, if there's a subconscious fear in taking action, something shiny will pop up to distract you.

You'll need to be very honest with yourself about this, as your mind will create stories around why you're resisting something.

Let me give you an example:

If your goal is to enroll more clients, and you KNOW your next step is to make sales calls, but instead you sign up for a class to learn how to build a website, you're using the website class as a distraction.

And the insidious thing is that you will have yourself convinced that when you finish the class, you'll magically have those new clients enrolled.

When you really want a clear gauge to help you make a decision, I always recommend that you turn to the FOUR QUESTIONS.

So let's use the example above and run it through using the FOUR QUESTIONS.

1) Is this something I want to be do or have? In the instance of the web class, yes.
2) Is being, doing or having this taking me closer to my goal? In this instance the answer would be no because it would be taking the person farther from it. They already know that the most direct way to enroll clients is to make sales calls.
3) Is being, doing or having this in alignment with Universal Law (more life to all)? Yes
4) Does being, doing or having this violate the rights of others (does it take away someone else's right to choose)? No

The determining factor in using these questions is that you must answer yes to the first three questions, and no to the fourth.

Since the answer to the 2nd question was a no, this person would not choose to take the web class. Instead they would focus on working through their resistance to sales calls.

When experiencing indecision, using the four questions above, will help you see clearly which direction to take.

“Just Believe”,^®

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Erica Johansson. You can find her on the web at http://www.travelblissful.com/

Question:

Hi David,

I read your latest article on making decisions and your words “If you don't change your environment, you're constantly reminded of your old belief system and the things that you created from it ” struck a chord.

Self-development coaches often say it's ALL in one's mind, the external doesn't necessarily matter, so isn't it possible to affect one's current environment just by turning old negative belief patterns into positive ones?

Answer:

Hi Erika!

Fantastic question!

It's true. Everything is in your mind. Your hopes, dreams, fears, doubts, worries and all the programming that you received without the ability to reject it when you were a child are all there.

And you can affect your old environment by turning negative beliefs into positive ones, ONLY if you replace the old pattern with a new one.

Here's an example. Let's say Mary wants to lose weight. She knows she has an unhealthy relationship with food and suffers from cravings. In her mind, she “decides” she's going to do it, she's going to finally take care of herself and drop a few pounds.

Can she be successful doing the same things she was doing before making this decision?

NO.

She has to replace the old patterns with new ones, and then create an environment to support her. If she had brownies on the counter all day and her favorite ice cream in the freezer, she'd have less of a chance of creating a new pattern.

This works the same way with entrepreneurs.

Let's say Amanda knows she needs to make sales calls. She knows she's afraid of what people will think of her and she's worried she'll be rejected. Her current pattern is to do everything in her business OTHER than make sales calls. She cleans the floors, answers emails, does the laundry, and empties the dishwasher during the time she knows she needs to be calling.

Then let's say she decides she's going to do it. She's going to get on the phone and make the calls no matter what.

In order for her to be successful, she must restructure her day, hire a cleaning service so she's not distracted, and create a NEW PATTERN for herself. If she doesn't change her environment, she's highly likely to get sucked back into her old patterns.

She must create her environment around who she WANTS TO BE.

During the changing process the new belief pattern is weak and needs to be strengthened. By putting as many representations of the new pattern around you that you can increases your possibility of success.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

How do I find dependable, reliable people when building a team especially when they don't return calls or show up?

Answer:

Fantastic question!

First, you need to remember that you create your reality. So let's try to pinpoint what's going on here.

I need you to answer a few questions, and it's REALLY important that you take some time with these questions and allow yourself to be honest.

Question #1: Do you really want a team?

Are you willing to give up certain aspects of your business and TRUST that someone else can do them?

The reason I ask this question is because a lot of entrepreneurs say they want a team, and yet, they are afraid of establishing a team and delegating at the same time. They'll say that they want someone to help them, and yet they don't want to give up the reins or simply don't trust others to do what they are asked to do.

Over and over I've heard entrepreneurs say, “If I want it done right, I might as well just do it myself.” That kind of thinking is based in lack, and will never allow you to attract effective team members.

You're really sending mixed messages when your intellect is telling you that a team is needed, but deep down, you're afraid of taking on a team.

Question #2: Do you effectively communicate your expectations to your team?

Believe it or not, team members are not mind readers. If you want something done, you must be able to explain your requirements or vision for the task and give a clear deadline.

Don't forget, communication goes both ways. It's also important for your team members to know that you value their thoughts and opinions as well.

I've seen many teams implode due to lack of communication, and it's really unfortunate (and preventable).

Question #3: Are you getting what you pay for?

When entrepreneurs first begin to think about adding team members, more often than not, they are at a place in their business where they can't really clearly see how they can add a team member and pay them at the same time. They must take a risk in hiring someone to allow for the continued growth of their business.

This is where the problem comes in.

They don't see the new team member as an investment in their company, and they look for the “least expensive help” they can find. They base their hiring on price rather than quality.

Who do you think gets a better return for their money; someone who hires an entry level VA who's not familiar with their business at $25.00 per hour, or someone who hires a VA who's experienced and understands business at $75.00 per hour?

ALWAYS make decisions based on where you want to go rather than where you are right now, or you'll always be stuck right where you are right now.

So, in short, EXPECT to find a team member who identifies with the vision of your company, TRUST them to do the tasks that you effectively communicate to them, and be willing to PAY them for their expertise.

“Just Believe”,^®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.