How I Stop Judging People?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Tim.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I find myself judging a particular person in my life for the actions they’re taking. I don’t understand why they’re doing what they’re doing. I’m trying not to judge… but in my head, I feel like my mind automatically wants to judge this person. I’m thinking negative thoughts about it.

Even if I don’t say what I’m thinking out loud, am I still judging? If so, how do I stop?

Neagle Code Answer

The act of judging isn’t actually the problem. We all have to judge. We have to evaluate things as we go through life. That’s part of being human. That’s how we make decisions. We have to look at things (and people) and assess them to figure out if they’re healthy for us.

I don’t know what that person’s purpose is for what they’re doing. So I couldn’t give you the right information about it.

I think you need to simply ask that person why they’re doing what they’re doing, so you can get a better idea of where they’re coming from.

Judging has to do with perception.

You cannot not judge. It’s impossible. That would mean giving no meaning to anything in your life. That’s what we do—we give meaning to things. It’s a survival strategy. It prevents us from petting a tiger or something.

It keeps us alive.

If you’re thinking negative thoughts about the situation… then don’t think negatively about it. Think positively about it. Bring in gratitude if you need to. Be grateful for the situation.

But know that even if you think positively about it—you’re still judging. Switching from the negative to the positive makes sense, but it’s still a judgment.

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I’m Afraid to Raise My Fees

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I attended one of your seminars in 2018, and I credit the first 15 minutes of it with fundamentally changing my business model. I’ve moved from a solely commission-based, to a fee-based model. I haven’t fully implemented this change across all of my customers yet. I’ve hit pause on approaching the ones who aren’t a giant pain in the ass.

What’s holding me back?

Neagle Code Answer

It’s a fear of losing business. It’s that simple.

Here’s the thing… sometimes when you make a change like that, you lose business—but then you end up getting more business.

During the most significant times when I changed my pricing based on my own growth, I always lost business at first. There were many people who weren’t going to continue. When you’re doubling or tripling your price, they just can’t make sense of it.

But then I immediately went out and brought in new clients at the new price. It wasn’t difficult at all. I was 100% solid in what I was doing, and that’s all you need to do.

If something is stopping you from moving forward and approaching that next level of customer, remember the following principle:

See what you want, be clear on your outcome, and go after it.

Fear shows up in interesting ways when you’re dealing with pricing and sales… it’s insidious as hell.

On Tuesday of this week I’m going to be hosting a FREE live 4-Hour Workshop to address some of the issues that pop up in sales and pricing when you’re looking to grow and expand, and I’m planning on giving everyone very specific step-by-step strategies to move through these issues quickly. Join me HERE!

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How to Visualize Your Future Self

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I have a question about visualization. What should it look like as a daily practice? Am I imagining a scenario? Am I feeling a state of gratitude? Am I seeing a symbol? How do you do it? How do you recommend people visualize? I’d like to make it a daily practice, so it feels more natural to do it.

Neagle Code Answer

Great question! I do something called a “Sacred Seven” each morning. I run through a process of determining how I want to be and how I want to show up throughout my day.

Let’s say you get up at 6:00 AM and go to bed at 10:00 PM. I’ll look at my calendar and see all these different things scheduled for me to do. (That’s another reason why everything in your life should be calendared, by the way.)

I look at each thing on my calendar and ask: “How do I need to show up to this today?” Maybe it’s a meeting, coaching call, live event, etc. These can even be activities in your personal life, like spending time with your significant other. It should all be on the calendar.

Ask yourself, “How do I want to show up to each of these activities?” Then see yourself being the person you want to be.

The more you do this, the easier it gets. You’ll reach the point where you’ll see yourself that way all the time.

As you go through your day, it’ll be fresh in your mind—the image of who you want to be. For example, if you have a client meeting, you could say, “Here’s this meeting; here’s what’s will happen. Here’s how I want to see myself—confident, negotiating, compassionate,” or whatever it is. Then see yourself showing up in that way.

If you catch yourself reacting negatively to someone, give yourself a timeout. Walk away, gather yourself, and figure out what’s going on with you.

Ask: ”Why am I acting this way? “Why am I choosing to have this experience?” “Why do I feel so angry right now?” It’s never about the person or the situation—it’s about you and what’s going on with you. It all goes back to responsibility.

The truth is, you control how you respond.

You can always come back to that intentional place of showing up in the way you want to show up.

At the end of the day, evaluate how well you did. You might be like, “Omg, I completely blew who I said I was going to be. I snapped at somebody or something.”

If you didn’t do well in one area, ask yourself, “How can I do that better next time?” Forgive yourself, so you’re not bringing shame or guilt in, or beating yourself up.

Then go into the law of cause and effect: “How did that happen? What caused it? What did I do? What did I miss? What do I need to learn?”

The next time you’re in a meeting, you’ll remember that. You’ll be able to show up as the person you said you were going to be.

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How Long Does it Take to Manifest an Idea?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Athony.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

Can you explain the Law of Gender and what an incubation period is?

Neagle Code Answer

Any time something is being created, there’s a period of time between the inception of that thing—and the moment it comes to full maturity.

This has to do with the Law of Gender, which states that everything has a gestation period (or “incubation period”).

For example, think about a baby. From conception to birth, it takes about nine months (or 280 days) for it to be born. A tomato, watermelon, frog, or anything else may take a different amount of time to be formed. For most life forms, we know what the specific timeframes are.

But when it comes to an idea, we usually don’t know the specific time it will take. From the moment I get an idea—till I make a decision to act on it, and I start to manifest it—I don’t know how long it will take me to bring that idea to life.

Here’s why it’s useful to know about the Law of Gender—because we have to understand there’s a timeframe for anything we want to do, and we have to figure out what the timeframe is.

At best, when we set a goal, we’re guessing. We only know what the timeframe will be if we’ve already set that particular goal before (and reached it). But there’s not a whole lot of growth in setting the same goal over and over again.

When we’re setting a new goal that we’ve never done before, there’s an incubation period (or gestation period) for it.

Let’s say I set a 30-day goal and I don’t hit it. Then I have to look at one or two things: “Did I give my best in everything I did?” And, “Did I do everything I thought would work to do this?” If the answer is yes, then all we did was set the wrong time. We don’t change the goal; we just extend the timeframe.

So maybe it’s not 30 days—maybe it takes 45 days, 60 days, or 90 days to create what you want.

The great thing is, once we uncover the timeframe it will take to create something, in many cases we can often shorten that timeframe with increased knowledge and adaptation. The better we get at doing something, the faster we can do it.

I’m going to be teaching this as part of a BRAND-NEW FREE 5-Part Course I’ve titled, The Open Door Method. This is my personal formula that has opened the door to millions of dollars in business revenue, generated thousands of leads, and uncovered countless opportunities hidden in plain sight. It all starts Monday at 2:30pm ET. CLICK HERE for all the details!

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Am I Attracting Bad Things?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

When I have a negative thought about something, I try working through it…but I end up focusing on it so much, I feel like I’m bringing more negativity to me.

Then it creates a fear in me like, “OMG, I’m bringing in sickness or other things I’m worried about…even though I’m saying ‘no, I’m not going to have those problems.’ The more I try to flip it, the more it seems like I’m making it even stronger. Am I using the law of attraction incorrectly?

Neagle Code Answer

First off, the law of attraction actually isn’t one of the universal laws. It’s a subsidiary idea of the law of vibration—which says whatever you’re “expecting” in your life (good or bad) is also what you’re in harmony with.

What people call the “law of attraction” is a complete misnomer. It’s not an actual law.

If you’re thinking about negative scenarios, you don’t need to say, “No, I’m not going to have those problems.”

Instead, the first thing you’d go to is responsibility, then gratitude.

Responsibility is about owning every single result in your life, and knowing what you did to either cause it or contribute to it showing up.

Gratitude makes you look at what’s good in your life. Then you start moving in that direction.

So the idea is, you don’t acknowledge the negative thing at all.

The only way a negative thought can grab you is if you believe in some kind of fear. In every case, fear is always based on a lie.

It’s really that simple. Just don’t overcomplicate it.

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How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind to Get What You Want

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Chris. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

How can I speak in terms of what I want in a way that my subconscious mind won’t reject what I’m talking about?

Neagle Code Answer

Great question.

There is no way to stop your subconscious mind from rejecting what you're saying until you reestablish a full, thorough pattern of thought, emotion, physical action, and result.

The first thing is to make a decision based on the understanding that that voice is not going to shut off right away.

The idea is that:

  1. You don't judge the voice, and
  2. You just let it be there.

Let it be and move forward.

That negative voice that tries to reject what you want is going to be there for some time.

Your job is to make the decision that you’re not going to listen to it.

Instead make the decision that you will not be denied your success and ONLY speak what you desire in life.

That's your choice. Your choice is to speak only what you desire in life.

For example: say to yourself, “The sales are coming in every day.”

AND…

When those rejecting voices get loud, get up and stomp your feet, and clap your hands, and scream at the top of your lungs, “The sales are here now, the people are here now”.

It is important to use your emotion to work on changing the vibration, and then immediately get on the phone and start making calls.

If you consistently make sales, you do the last little piece that helps change that voice in your subconscious because it can't argue with a different result.

Consistently follow these tips to reestablish your pattern of thought, emotion, physical action, and result, and soon, you rewire your brain …and that's when the rejecting voice will stop!

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

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The 2 Keys to Becoming an Elite Entrepreneur

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

What are a few things that you would say encompass someone who has an elite entrepreneurial mind? In other words, what can I do to become an Elite Entrepreneur?

Neagle Code Answer

Great question!

When we boil everything down to the basics, there are 2 key things that are a part of EVERY elite entrepreneur’s life.

  1. Always strive to better your best.

This means striving to always show up as a better version of yourself. And it also means that you learn from everything you do, so that you can constantly do better the next time.

When you better your best you're going to see what you're doing, what's working and what's not working. And you’ll constantly be asking the questions:

  • How do we do it better next time?
  • How can I respond better next time?
  • How could I be a better leader next time?
  1. Always do what you say you're going to do.

This means always being your word. It’s about commitment. If you break your word, you lose trust with yourself. If you lose trust with yourself, suddenly you suffer from a lack of confidence, which bleeds into everything you do.

Do not EVER say that you’re going to do something that you don’t intend to do.

And trust me this seems very simple on the surface, but I challenge you to really think about all the times you break your word to yourself on a daily basis. It’s so so harmful.

If you make these two things a habit, they will affect everything else. They will positively impact everything you do and anyone you work alongside.

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Am I Violating Their Right?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

What do you do if you have a direct conflict with someone else in your life regarding your beliefs? I have heard you say in the past to be authentic to yourself regarding your beliefs as long as it doesn’t interfere with the choice and will of others on these things, but what if it interferes with them if I follow my beliefs and they choose to do something they believe?

Neagle Code Answer

Great question. Let me explain this a little more …

It is all about whether you interfere with their ability to choose, not their choice itself.

Our choice around our belief is independent of anybody else.

So, even if your choice was in direct opposition of their choice, you’re not taking away their ability to choose. They can still choose, but it may not be the same thing you are choosing.

Where this becomes a problem is when someone is averse to conflict.

I see this all the time with entrepreneurs.

They make a choice, that is not really what they would choose for themselves, because they are worried about how someone else (team, spouse, family) will FEEL if they actually chose what they wanted for themselves.

This, in turn, creates a great inner conflict, and they end up creating all kinds of chaos in their life and business.

As a business owner, you have a right to choose how you will run your business and your team has the choice to stay or go.

As a person you have the right to choose how you want to live, and your spouse or friends have the choice to stay or go. Now obviously I would hope that you would have open conversations about your individual desires prior to it getting to that point, but you can see what I mean.

You choosing your belief is not taking away anyone else’s right to choose for themselves.

And in fact, if you don’t own your beliefs and desires, you will end up in resistance to your own purpose. You’ll experience a profound value conflict that is causing your resistance to doing the things necessary to grow your business.

I’m doing an entire 60-minute FREE training on The Universal Law of Non-Resistance on Tuesday at 1pm ET. I’ll be explaining this more in-depth and giving some tips on how to quickly identify and move through resistance…there’s nothing worse than the inner tug of war caused by a value conflict! CLICK HERE for the details!

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Decision Making Stages

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

Does making a decision start with saying, “I'm making a decision,” or is it just a switch that you flip, and you just do it?

Neagle Code Answer

If a person is very solid in the decision-making process, they don't necessarily say, “I'm making a conscious decision to do this.” They know that they're doing it.

They're in a stage past the idea of not making a decision. When they see that a change needs to happen, they immediately see it, and they make that change.

To answer your question you must first identify what stage of decision making are you in?

Some of the stages of decision making include:

1.) Identifying you have a problem that needs to be changed or having a goal you want to accomplish.

2.) Next, you may do research and gather all the information you may need to make your decision. You then may weigh your options and evaluate the pros and cons of your potential decision.

And

3.) Finally, you make your choice, your decision and act on it.

Remember, some people may easily go through these stages without realizing they are checking off stage 1, 2, 3 etc. It happens naturally. As you said, they just “flip the switch”.  

For others, it is more of a conscious process, and they may say “I’m making a decision…”.

When you make a change in your life, you did make a decision, because you switched from one thing to another.

That's a decision.

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Project Too Big For A Calendar?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

I’m getting ready to do a big project —It’s going to be really intense.

I’ve heard you say, “Put everything you need to do on the calendar.” And my brain is partially rejecting that idea.

My brain is saying, “That’s great for regular stuff…but it’s not going to work for THIS project, because this is a big project.” Is that a lie?

Neagle Code Answer

Yes, it’s a lie. It’s a total lie.

Putting things on the calendar will work for every project, no matter how big or small it is.

Everyone gets the same 24 hours to work with. No matter how complex a project is, it can still be broken down into small pieces. The small pieces are no different than anything else you’ve been doing your entire life. It’s just that there are more pieces.

That’s how you eat an elephant.

You tell yourself, “I will endeavor to persevere. I will not expect it to happen overnight. It’s a big project, and I know how long it’s going to take — it’s a number, a specific timeframe.”

Even though it’s a huge project, calendaring is a process you can use no matter what you’re doing. Even if you’re on vacation, doing nothing, it could still be the process you use.

If a project is really big, ask yourself: what kind of support do you need in doing it?

And then give yourself that support.

Whether it’s reaching out to someone and saying, “Hey, I’m working on something really big and I may need somebody to talk to. It’s kind of stressful. Would you be willing to be a sounding board for me?” Or whatever you need. Do it.

If you need to give yourself a little extra time off around that project, do it. Give yourself the support you need to work through whatever you need to work through.

When you do that, you’re solving the problem consciously.

You know in advance things might get difficult. But you’re also acknowledging that, while giving yourself whatever support you need to move through it.

That’s where you grow, because you’re staying conscious throughout the whole process.

 

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