In my most recent article, I shared the first of two favorite tactics of the subconscious mind to keep you where you are.
That first tactic is our tendency to look for the magic pill, the easy solution, rather than choosing the option that requires us to change and which, therefore, leads to success.
The second tactic is what I call the rabbit hole of the subconscious mind.
The Rabbit Hole
Often when people get stuck and feel they can’t move forward, they think that a block stemming from a childhood trauma of some kind is holding them back. So they start focusing on what that could be, thinking if they could just remember or figure it out, they’d be able to release the block and start moving again.
The trouble is they’ve just fallen into a trap ~ the rabbit hole of the subconscious mind. They could stay on a therapist’s couch for 20 years, looking for memories, talking about change but not making any, and, therefore, unlikely to make the real growth that leads to the big wins.
It’s Your Excuse
The thing that’s holding you back is your excuse: what you say to yourself in the moment about why you can’t do something that would take you where you want to go.
For instance, when you say, “I can’t go to the event because I don’t have the money or I don’t have the time,” that is in your imagination. You do have the money. The Law of Polarity says that’s true. If you have a desire, the way to fulfill that desire is also around you. And you have 24 hours in every day just like everybody else. You get to decide what to do with it.
Your Excuse Is Perfect for You
But you don’t see it that way, because your subconscious mind knows the perfect way to stop you. The excuse you come up with is totally logical, makes sense emotionally and is tailor made just for you. It’s so perfect, you can’t see any way around it.
And if you don’t bring in some other knowledge or perspective, you never will get around it. It’s another trap. And you will remain stuck.
How to Get Unstuck
You need people in your life, like a coach, to call you on the excuses you use to hinder your growth. You need to become aware of what you say to yourself so that you can stop believing it, and then employ helpful ways to make decisions.
For instance, if you’re considering whether to go to an event or take a class or start a project, ask yourself The 4 Questions I shared with you recently. If you get a green light, your answer is yes. Take advantage of the opportunity.
Stop making excuses and, instead, make the changes you need to make, and along the way you will grow. You will see your path lighted a step at a time before you, leading you toward your goal.