My spouse doesn’t agree, what now?
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Sharon.
I feel like I have a huge roadblock preventing me from my growth and he happens to be my husband. I know that I need to invest in my business, particularly in coaching and in speaking, but my husband will freak out of I spend money on these things. I understand Universal principles, and he thinks they are smoke in mirrors. Because of this I find myself not stepping into opportunities because of his perceived reaction to those decisions. Any tips?
Money and relationships are pretty tricky, but they don't have to be.
If you and your husband have different beliefs around money, I recommend that you both start taking responsibility for your selves.
This also means that you have to stop using your husband as a shield to your success, because let's be honest here, if this situation wasn't serving you, it wouldn't be happening.
Make your own money, have your own banking accounts, and split the joint bills and expenses.
If you want to invest in your business it won't threaten his sense of security, because you'll have your own money and also be responsible for your portion of your joint expenses.
So many couples struggle with money, especially if one partner makes more than the other. Sometimes it works great and other times it's incredibly disempowering for the person who is not the breadwinner.
If you feel like your decisions are limited by your husband's money mindset, you need to have a heart to heart conversation with him, and let him know that from now on, you'll both be responsible for the bills, but that everything else will go into separate accounts.
This gives him the freedom to do what he wants with his income, and it gives you the freedom as well.
It's against the laws to ask him to change. This way, you'll both have the freedom to believe what you want about money and invest as you wish.
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