How to set small goals to overcome fear

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Hi David!

I know what I have to do to grow my business, but every time I get the courage to pick up the phone and reach out to someone, fear stops me and I end up allowing myself to get distracted. I can think of every excuse in the book NOT to make a call. I don’t know what to do to overcome this. Any suggestions are appreciated.

Neagle Code Answer

Hi, and thanks for your question.

Here’s the truth, the fear isn’t going to go away or decrease unless you step through it.

One of the biggest gifts of being human is that we have the ability to choose.

You can choose to pick up the phone and reach out or you can choose to let fear be your excuse.

Regardless, it’s your choice.

The great thing about this is that you can start small and build momentum too.

Try setting small goals like speaking to one person today. Don’t let yourself go to sleep tonight without having checked it off your list.

You’ll begin to realize the only thing that makes picking up the phone hard is what’s going on between your two ears, and it will get easier.

Tomorrow, set a goal of speaking to 2 people, and gradually increase your goals as you build your confidence muscle.

Pretty soon that fear will be just a whisper.

But it’s not going to happen unless you CHOOSE to move forward regardless of how it “feels”.

Pick up the phone now, call a prospect and give yourself a fantastic experience!

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Should I put deadlines next to my goals?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from James P.

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Hello David!

Thanks for taking my question!

How do you determine what is reasonable when setting timelines for goal attainment? Or should timelines be left out of the equation altogether?

Neagle Code Answer

Hi James!

Sometimes, time is not a factor when setting goals, and other times, it’s important to do your research before setting that goal.

Some business owners use time as an excuse. They say things like:

“When I get x number clients, I’ll do z.”

This is a dysfunctional way of looking at time, and I certainly don’t recommend it, especially when a quantum leap can sometimes occur just by making a decision that time is NOT a factor.

If you do have a goal that requires time, for example, building a house, you must do your research and be flexible with your timelines.

Obviously it’s tough for me to guess at what your goal entails, but be honest with yourself.

Are you using time as an excuse or are you building in reasons to delay?

OR

Do you need to gather more information to see what tasks need to be completed to you to attain your goal?

A GREAT resource for you is the chapter titled, Desire, in Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich, especially if you’re setting a financial goal.

Happy goal setting!!

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Set and achieve your 2015 goals. Here’s how

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Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’m thinking about my New Year’s Resolutions, and really want to be successful in keeping them this year. Do you have any recommendations for goal setting?

Neagle Code Answer

Hi Brendan!

I love this question and it’s something I help all my Destination Seven Members with at each of our intensives.

FIRST:

Write down your big vision. Your big vision is what you want for your life and business way down the road. Think as far as you can think, and sometimes you may only be able to see bits and pieces of this vision. That’s perfectly fine.

As you begin to take steps toward it, you’ll start seeing it more clearly.

NEXT:

Write down 3 goals. You must be able to accomplish these 3 goals within the next 60 days, AND the goals must all take you one step closer to achieving your big vision.

FINALLY:

Choose 1 of your goals from above and list out 3 objectives or tasks you must accomplish that would allow you to hit that one goal within 60 days.

This process can be repeated over and over again, and I recommend that you keep your list in front of you as much as possible.

Soon enough it will be 2016 and you’ll have achieved all your goals for 2015 and be miles ahead of where you were in 2014!

Happy New Year!

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How to Set Goals and Follow Through (Every Time)

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for Life”
comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

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David,

Can you please explain how you break the pattern of not following through for yourself? I don’t trust myself, and feel completely deflated when setting goals because I’ve failed so many times.

Thanks so much!

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Thanks for the question!


I’m going to skip trying to understand why you’re sabotaging yourself and skip right to the solution.

If you’re really committed to changing this, do exactly as I tell you below and sooner rather than later you’ll be on your way to success!


First, start with DAILY goals.


That’s right. We’re not talking about 6 and 12-month goals right now, we’re going to start small and build to strengthen your self-confidence muscle over time.

Tonight before you go to bed, take out your notebook and pen and right down THREE things you MUST accomplish before you go to bed tomorrow.

I recommend that these be income generating “things”, but it’s ultimately up to you.

When you wake up tomorrow, put that list in front of you, and DO NOT GO TO BED THAT NIGHT until all 3 of those items are completed.

Do the same thing tomorrow night. Write down three ”things” you need to accomplish the next day, and the next day, don’t go to sleep until all 3 things are accomplished.

Setting these small, yet important, goals are small stair steps to your bigger goal and to developing the discipline and trust within yourself to succeed in whatever you put your mind to.

Once you master the daily goals, begin setting weekly goals on top of your daily goals!

You’ll gain momentum quickly and break the pattern of not following through.

Just Believe,®
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Am I addicted to fear?

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Question:

Hi David! Thanks so much for this Saturday morning kick in the pants…

Here’s my question. Over the last year I have set goals, and for the most part, hit them. However, each time I reach a goal, I feel a new set of fears bearing down on me. I keep thinking that if I could just be successful enough or make enough money, the fears will go away and my life will be easy. Is this accurate thinking or am I a fear addict?

Answer:

Great question and congratulations on your growth and success!

What you’re experiencing is what I like to call “New level, new devil”.

Many people have a common misunderstanding that once they hit a certain point in their business; everything suddenly becomes a bed of roses.

The truth is that every time you change, adapt and grow, you experience fear. It’s a natural part of the process. Remember, your ego sees growth and change as a threat, and therefore creates the illusion of fear to keep you exactly where you are.

As an entrepreneur, you MUST get comfortable being uncomfortable.

So the MOST important thing to remember as you’re going through the terror barrier each time, is that whatever you focus on will grow.

If you give energy to the fear by trying to fight it or figure it out, you will manifest reasons to feel fearful. If you focus on the success, you will manifest opportunities to be successful.

Here’s your cheat sheet on coping with the fear.

When you feel yourself going to that dark place, instead of fighting it, which only gives energy to it, greet it like an old friend, and say, “Thanks fear, it’s nice to know you’ll always be there for me, but today I’m going to focus on something else (love, my successes, what I’m grateful for, etc).”

Pretty soon, the fear will take a back seat, and you’ll get so good at redirecting your thoughts, that the next time you feel the fear bubbling, all you have to do is think, “NEXT!”, and quickly move to a thought steeped in love or gratitude.

1)Fear is a lie.

and

2) Spirit NEVER speaks to you through fear.

When you begin to experience fear, become aware of what it really is.

A lie cannot hold up in the light of the truth.

“Just Believe”,®

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