How Do You Help Someone Figure Out Their Passion?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

I’m an entrepreneur, and my partner is not. I want to build, grow, and see things. He has working class mindset, always working for someone else. But he’s intrigued by everything I’m doing, and he’s open to it.

I feel like we’re going in different directions. When I ask him what he wants, he always says, “I don’t know.” He’s trying to figure that out. I say, “You have to go try things. Why don’t you go for that dream job? Why don’t you talk to people?”

Is that the right approach? How can I help him find his passion? How can we see if we’re on the same page or create a direction? He wants to fit into my life of freedom, but I want him to have his own passions and dreams.

Neagle Code Answer

I would sit down, have a conversation and say, “Let’s take a week and decide what we want for ourselves in life.”

Take a week, write down everything you want in your life…and have him do the same.

Then, after the week, come back together and compare notes. See where you are.

Talk about, “What do we want together?” Create a vision for what you guys want together. Break it down to, “Okay, how are we going to create this in our life, so that you get what you want individually, I get what I want individually, and we both get what we want together? And then we make it work.”

That will determine the next steps.

It’s important that you both have the freedom to really say, truthfully, what you want. If you’re hiding something—or you think your partner would be offended or might not want the same thing—or if you’re like, “That won’t work”… you might have a codependency thing going on, where he’s letting you be the leader.

But that never works out very well.

No matter what the outcome is, you have to give each other permission that you’ll be 100% honest about what you want.

Here’s another thing. When someone keeps saying, “I don’t know,” they’re actually giving their brain a command to NOT give them the answer.

Our brain is extraordinarily resourceful,
if we learn how to use it.

Instead of saying, “I don’t know,” he could start saying, ”I know it’s coming. I know the answer is coming. I give myself permission to know what it is.”

Here’s the truth, which I deeply believe:

Humans are not the one species on the planet that was born with no direction. We all have a purpose and a direction. We were just taught to ignore it during childhood (for whatever reason), so that we could survive.

Your partner just needs to start talking. His self talk needs to change a bit. Give him the space to come up with what he wants.

Don’t pressure him in any way. Let him write down whatever he knows that he wants, because you can only start where you are. He just needs permission.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

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Am I Setting a Goal or Making a Decision?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

What’s the difference between setting a goal and making a decision? I’m struggling with differentiating the two in my mind.

For example, let’s say I want to get up at 6:00 am and take a cold shower. That’s a decision, right?

But then I have a goal that I want to make $X amount of dollars. That’s a goal, right? Can you clarify the distinction of where it breaks from being a decision to just setting a goal?

Neagle Code Answer

They’re both part of each other.

When you set a goal, you need to figure out, “What do I need to do to reach that goal?”

The decision is about, “I’m going to accomplish this goal, and I’m making a decision to do it, based on cause and effect of what needs to be done to reach that goal.”

First you set the goal.
Then you make a decision to reach that goal.

From there, figure out what actions you need to commit to, in order to reach the goal.

Here’s an example. If I sat down with my CEO, Steph, and said, “Hey, let’s set a goal to make an extra million this year…” we’d sit down and reverse-engineer what that would look like.

  • How do we want to make that money?
  • What do we want to do?
  • What are you and I going to commit to?
  • Do we need to hire someone?
  • What needs to be done?
  • For how long?
  • On what days?

We’d break it down into activities—all the way down to the smallest details.

Set the goal, make a decision to reach the goal, brainstorm how to get there, then commit to taking those actions.

Commitments are just decisions along the way.

If you don’t chunk your goal down into specific activities, then you haven’t really set the goal. You haven’t made a decision.

You have to turn the goal into activities that are based on cause and effect. What is the cause of this goal that you want?

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How Do I Figure Out What I Want?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I find it hard to know exactly where I am in both my personal life and in business. I’m not sure how to set a goal that I can reach (that’s not wishful thinking). I don’t really know what I want.  

What questions can I ask myself to figure this out? Also, how can I be sure I’ll hit the goal? 

Neagle Code Answer

Hold on a second. That’s not true. You DO know what you want. You’re just not aware of it yet. 

If you continue to say, “I don’t know,” that’s a command to your brain to stop thinking. 

Don’t think of it as a goal you can reach. Think about it more from the perspective of, what do you really want? 

Ask your higher self, “What do I want? Show me what’s going to excite me. Show me why I’m here.” 

If you keep asking this question, the answer will come up. 

Don’t rush it. Don’t push it.  

Stop saying, “I don’t know,” because it’s in there. It’s in every person. All life has a purpose inside of it. 

Your higher self will communicate it to you, if you’ll consistently ask it to. 

Set a goal for something you seriously want, which you can work on over the next 90 days to achieve. It’s not about whether you reach the goal—it’s about whether you’re willing to work on it for the next 90 days. 

I have no way of knowing whether you can hit a goal in 90 days. Neither do you, if it’s something you haven't done before. 

The bigger question is…will you commit to doing it for 90 days?

Because it’s in the commitment that you’ll actually hit it in the timeframe you set. 

Few people hit a goal the first time around, especially a new goal on a date they’ve set. There’s no way to know whether they’ll reach the goal by that date. It’s just like an estimation. 

In the 90-day period, we’re looking to develop two things:

  1. Being our word, so that we consistently do the work for 90 days in a row.
  2. Change the paradigm inside of ourself, so that we can see the opportunity of what we want.

Success is literally about programming yourself to be able to see the opportunity. You have to consistently do that. 

You’re an adult, so you have to change a pattern of what you see in life. A child only has to make up their mind what they want. An adult has to change their mind. There’s no prior imprint in the child’s mind. 

For example, I’m 55. If I want to change something now that I’ve been dealing with my whole life—I have to realize I’ve had an imprint of that for 55 years. I need to work on changing that for a considerable amount of time, so that my eyes and intellect will see it as an opportunity in my life. Otherwise, I’m blind to it. 

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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I Feel Guilty for Buying Anything

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

Lately, I’ve been struggling with buyer’s remorse on 98% of things I buy.

When COVID hit, I still wasn’t earning anything from my business. My husband and I don’t have problems with money. But for the first time, he was worried about money. I got pregnant, and we considered pulling our daughter from daycare to cut expenses. I became an “extreme coupon” person, and now I have remorse for everything I buy. Even with groceries, I’m like, “Do I really need that?” How can I drop this habit?

Neagle Code Answer

Part of it is, it’s a way for you not to feel guilty about starting a business. You have to look at what your husband’s experience was—and your reaction to his experience in that moment. You created a new habit of asking, “Should I not buy this? Should I not do this?”

It’s kind of like, “Well, I’m going to do it anyway.” It’s a way for you to re-project your guilt in a different direction.

Here’s how you change this.

You change it by raising your standard of how you want to live your life. You never cut things to go down to where your income is. You raise your income to what your standard is, so cutting is no longer an option.

Once you become aware that you can manifest whatever you want, you never cut anything to go lower unless you actually want to go lower.

Let’s say a family wants to downsize. There’s no problem with that. But if you’re doing it because you think you have no control over your income, that’s a problem. You start to go unconscious again. Then you start coming up with alternate behaviors (like extreme coupon cutting).

You need to create a vision and a standard for your marriage, your life, and your finances—and then raise everything up to meet that standard.

That’s where you put your energy. You raise it up.

It’s no longer about questioning whether you need something or not. It’s about saying, “This is the standard I’m living at, and I completely accept that in my life.” Then you don’t have a conflict of interest or a value conflict going on subconsciously.

Once you’ve raised your standard, that’s it. Now your standard has to be higher.

There should be no going back.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! In April 2022, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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When You Doubt Your Own Ability…

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

My question is around setting goals. I have two different businesses, and I tend to dance back and forth between the two—not really moving forward to the degree I’d like with either of them. I keep thinking to myself, “I’m not taking the action. Why am I not taking the action?”

Is it because I’m struggling with keeping my word and meeting the goals I set for myself? Or am I just not fully committing? Part of it is, I think I’m avoiding what I imagine will be uncomfortable conversations with potential clients—the people I could (or should) be calling.

Any insight you can provide is so appreciated!

Neagle Code Answer

This is happening because you don’t believe you can accomplish the goal. You don’t think it’s really going to happen.

If you believed it, you’d be ready all the time.

It’s not really about a “lack of commitment.”

It’s all about the belief.

Think about this. Ask yourself, “What’s the truth about this?” The fact that you’re not taking action is a secondary cause (i.e., an effect).

What’s the truth about that? Why are you not taking the action? Because you either don’t want it, or you don’t believe it’s really possible.

When it comes to having “uncomfortable conversations” with potential clients, you have to first look at the conversation you’re having with yourself.

  • Are you telling yourself you’re not enough?
  • Are you telling yourself you can’t provide the result they want?
  • Are you telling yourself they won’t want what you’re selling?

What’s the conversation you’re having with yourself? If you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough—it’s because you don’t believe you can do it.

This is a problem of belief, not commitment.

You’re creating a story to validate the belief that you can’t do this.

Here’s a simple 2-part exercise to overcome this. First, spend an hour coming up with every reason in your mind why this won’t work—or why it can’t work. Write it all down on a piece of paper. Then give yourself a break.

Come back to it again the next day. Then write down every reason why it CAN work.

Don’t judge your answers. Don’t change anything. Don’t say, “I know that’s not true.” Just do the exercise. It’s extremely simple.

Write down every reason why it can’t (or won’t) work, then take a long break. Come back and write down every reason why it CAN work.

Then email both of those things to me, and I’ll get back to you after I see it.

(Want personalized support with this exercise? Reach out to my team by emailing [email protected] and we’d be happy to help!)

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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I Keep Avoiding the Top-Priority Task on My List

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

One task I really need to work on is changing my program into a group model. I work on it every day, but it’s usually one of the last things I do. My quality of work might be better if I started on it earlier in the day. I feel like I should be doing more on it.

Even if I give myself a suggested time to finish it—other things always get in front of it and push it down the list. How do I get control of this?

Neagle Code Answer

You’re guaranteed not to fail if you can’t even start.

Every person I’ve ever seen do this, finds the perfect excuse not to get started—which protects them from failing, or having to confront what will happen if they complete the task.

Nothing “gets” in front of your high-priority task. YOU put things in front of it.

You have to stop doing that, and start playing hardball with yourself.

You have to prioritize and stick to doing it in the exact way you’re going to do it. It’s about keeping your commitment, so that you can get it done.

Once it’s done, you can work on the cause and effect—and make sure you’re getting the right results.

Then you can go in and work on what needs to be fixed in order to dial it in. If you’re not there yet, then whatever excuse is on the table will stop you.

I think you need to give yourself a firm completion date, then reverse engineer what needs to be done so that you hit that date.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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How Do I make the Money I REALLY Want?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

My question is around raising our “need line.” I’ve heard you say we always get what we need, and we have to raise our need line first before we can significantly increase our income. What I need to make is $35K a month. But my goal (what I want) is to make $100K a month.

Back when you picked your goal of making $50K a month, what were you planning to spend the money on? Did you do anything to raise your need line, so that you HAD to make $50K a month? Did you back-engineer to get to that number?

Neagle Code Answer

Great question. I don’t think there was anything specific that I needed to spend that money on.

At that point in time, I had already moved beyond the idea of spending money on a specific thing. My focus was on bootstrapping my business, so I needed more money in general to advance the company.

I was doing a tremendous amount of traveling, and it was all first class. I needed to expand my team and hire the people who I needed to hire.

I also needed a larger amount of money consistently, so that I wasn’t chasing as many sales on a regular basis. I was spending all my time on the phone, making sales, and it still wasn’t enough at the end of the month. It didn’t matter how many hours I spent making calls—I still didn’t have enough money at the end of the month. So I needed to balance that more in my life and my business.

I was like, “This is insane. I’ve got to change this.” The change came from needing to leverage how much I was actually making per sale, so that I had more to work with.

I didn’t back-engineer to get to my goal of $50K a month. I just picked that number because it was a simple idea of turning my annual income into a monthly income. I really wanted to make that quantum leap. Bob Proctor is the one who put that idea into my head.

One of the cool things about turning your annual income into a monthly income is, it’s already working within an established belief system.

You already believe you can make that amount of money—you’re changing the timeframe in which you earn that money.

You already have the belief that you can make your income annually. Why is that important? Because most of us don’t have negative connotations when it comes to time, not like we do with money. So we’re not changing the belief around the money; we already believe we can earn it.

We’re changing the belief around the timeframe in which we earn it, which is a big difference. And that allows people to make that quantum leap much easier.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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How to Change Your Thoughts

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David!

I’ve heard you teach that the image you hold in your mind, is the result you will receive. How do you change the images in your mind in order to get the results you want?

Neagle Code Answer

Great question, and one that I hear often.  

The simple answer is:

You have to build a new image of what you want, and then take action every day until it is achieved.

You can’t simply meditate or visualize what you want.  

You have to realize you aren’t just creating a new image, you are replacing an old one.

When you start to apply the action to the new image and you start to see results, that is when you know you are programming your mind all the way through.  

It’s image, emotion, action and result.  

You can’t just do one or some of these, each component is required in order to make a change. 

When you take action and get a new result, you know you have truly let go of the old belief and created the new one.  

Without the action, part of your mind just knows it isn’t real and will keep reinforcing the old programming.

Every day write down:

  • Your purpose. 
  • Your goal.

And then ask yourself, “Who do I need to be today to create this right now?”

It takes real commitment to say:

“I am abandoning the person I was, and I am going to recreate a new me.”  

You have to take it seriously and not waiver. The second you start to waiver, you instantly go back to the old behavior.

Want more info on how to permanently change your beliefs?  Join me, THIS WEEK on June 2nd and 4th for a FREE 2-Part video training I’ll be delivering. I’ll be sharing The Hidden Secrets Inside a Wealth Mindset and helping you see how to change your thinking to be able to fulfill your desire…without all the struggle. CLICK HERE to register.

 

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More Than Just the Money

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Emily.

Neagle Code Question

I’ve been in business for 4 years, making $100K per year. Recently I got sick and had surgery. It took me several months to get back on my feet. (I don’t think I got sick due to over-working or stress, or anything like that.)

I’ve been living off my savings. I feel better now, and am ready to go back into my business. But it feels like there’s a block or resistance. What I used to do isn’t working anymore.

How can I turn this around?

Neagle Code Answer

Thank you for the question!

If your illness wasn’t related to overworking… and if you’re not associating work with your getting sick, then something else is going on.

Here's what you need to do. You need to come up with a new goal for yourself, something that really excites you. Something you really, deeply want.

When a person is not enthusiastic about what they’re doing, all it means is they’ve got the wrong goals set for themselves.

You need a goal that excites you to get out of bed each day and go to work.

Pick a goal. It can be whatever you want. Create a vision board for yourself. Put it in front of you every day, and set different mark points for yourself to reach as you work towards it. Then reward yourself while you’re doing that.

For example, let’s say you give yourself a goal — when you hit $20,000 in income, you’re going to reward yourself with something.

When you hit $40,000, you’re going to reward yourself with something else.

Then when you hit $100K, or whatever number you’re choosing for yourself, you’ll give yourself a big reward.

You can pick whatever numbers or goal points you’d like.

If you pick a financial goal, make sure you associate it with something you really want more than just the money…because there’s nothing worse than working for money alone.

Make sure your goal is something that excites you.

PS: If you enjoy reading my weekly Neagle Code, you'll LOVE my podcast, The Successful Mind. You can expect cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships, all based in Universal Law and my own experience creating a multi-million dollar business.

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How to FOCUS.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

David,

I know a lot of people you work with come to you with one main idea or goal, and they want help seeing what’s keeping them from acting on that one idea or goal. For me… my problem is that I have SO MANY ideas, I have a difficult time deciding which idea to pursue or take action on. I’m one person and I want to write articles, reach out to companies, develop relationships, redo my website, speak at an event, the list goes on and on…

How do I know which idea is best?

Neagle Code Answer

Hi and thanks for the question!

I’m actually going to direct you to a video of my CEO Steph Tuss answering this exact question for one of our clients during one of our recent virtual intensives.

If you can’t catch the video, Steph recommends that everything is prioritized based on your big vision and what’s of highest need in your business.

A lot of people will tell you to focus on just one thing…but Steph and I both agree that ALL ideas should be written down and prioritized.

Everything that brings you closer to the goal the fastest gets prioritized and calendared first, everything else fills in the cracks.

Make sense?

PS: If you enjoy reading my weekly Neagle Code, you'll LOVE my podcast, The Successful Mind. You can expect cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships, all based in Universal Law and my own experience creating a multi-million dollar business.

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