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This week's question from “Ask Us Anything” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

How do you keep a belief when it seems like nothing is happening?

For example, I’ve been trying to find opportunities to expand my social media network. It’s been quiet for four days. My intuition told me, “speak only what deserves to be spoken”. Then on that day, after being silent, with nothing going on—out of nowhere, I got a free VIP ticket to a social media marketing event.

During that in-between period of waiting, I was anxious and wondering if it was working. How do you keep that belief anyway?

Consider the Law of Gender, which is one of the seven universal laws. This law states that there’s a gestation period for everything.

For most physical things, we understand what the gestation period is, because it’s scientific. For example, we know that a baby takes nine months to develop after conception.

But with ideas, we don’t really know
how long something will take.

What we do know is…

Any image you consistently hold on the screen of your mind MUST manifest into physical form in your life…period. There’s no ifs, ands, or buts about it. It’s an absolute.

This requires you to believe something beyond the idea of chance, luck, or, “This can’t happen for me.” You must hold a higher belief for yourself.

Also, you have to “condition” your desire. Don’t take your desire for granted. It doesn’t just automatically stay there. It can go up and down. It can experience trauma, in a way.

Things can go haywire in our life, and we can forget about our desire. Or we might make a mistake and have to focus on fixing it instead of our desire.

We have to take care of our desire, as if it were a small child.

It needs a lot of attention. It needs to be fueled, acknowledged. You need to make sure it stays up in front of you every day.

You can verbalize or write down the “why” behind what you’re doing, and what you truly want—so that you’re consistently reminding yourself:

“This is why I’m going after the thing that I want. This is why I’m working, making sacrifices, changing, learning, growing.”

You have to keep it up in front of you.

Keep it focused on the screen of your mind.

Then from there, it’s just about discipline, which in its Latin root, means “the disciple of.” Discipline comes from the root of the word, “student.” Understand that everything is about learning and growing.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 2 ways we can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Each week, we drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in our Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!

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This week's question from “Ask Us Anything” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

On one of the morning Huddles, I heard David say, “The core wound pattern will always stay.” I really gave that some thought. I also thought about the hero’s journey where you can completely disassociate yourself from being a victim.

Can’t you renew your mind and make a decision to be something totally different than your core wound? That pattern doesn’t have to follow you the rest of your life, does it?

A pattern and a core wound are different things. You can absolutely change the patterns. But the core wound is part of who you are.

The more you challenge your core wound, the quieter it gets. It never fully goes away. It’s always sitting in the background, waiting.

But yes, you can make any changes you want.

You can reinvent yourself completely.

Part of this is understanding that the core wound isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can hold us back, yes—but we can also overcome it. Your core wound is always telling you what you can’t be. But you also have your conscious mind and your desire pushing you forward.

That’s part of how you gain confidence. You grow strength and begin to trust who you are at a soul level by continually challenging that core wound.

If you want to create a new version of yourself, a new person, a new iteration of who you are—then you can absolutely do that.

You can absolutely reprogram your pattern.

But the core wound is different than a pattern.

If God is good all the time, then God is good all the time. That means there’s a gift in everything—which means there’s a gift in your core wound as well.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 2 ways we can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Each week, we drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships. 
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This week's question from “Ask Us Anything” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

I’m feeling overwhelmed, because there are many demands on my time. I’ve realized my team is still heavily relying on me for answers. They ask me lots of questions and want me to check over everything.

I want to empower them, so that they can just go for it and, and let them make mistakes. But I worry that some of their mistakes might impact my business. So, I have to weigh this. How do I transition them over to being empowered, so that I can free up my time and keep growing our business?

Stop solving their problems for them.

With every question they ask you, your response back to them should be, “What do you suggest?”

If they’re bringing you multiple ideas, ask, “Which idea would you fight for?”

You have to stop being the savior. Stop being the one who solves all the problems.

There’s a really great book called The One Minute Manager Meets The Monkey . It’s about how people love to pass the “monkey” (the problem) onto the manager. They come to you with their problem. Then all of a sudden, it’s not their problem anymore—it’s your problem. Now you’re bogged down in everyone else’s problems when they’re perfectly capable of solving those problems themselves.

This really relies on how you respond. If you find that your team is asking the same question over and over again, then that’s a different conversation.

When you empower your team to make decisions, they WILL make mistakes that impact the business. They’re going to, no matter what.

That has to be okay, because no matter what happens—you know that the business is going to be okay.

The idea is that they understand that you trust them to make the decision that’s in the best interest of the company, and that they’ve demonstrated they have the ability to do that.

It’s like you’re telling them, “It’s okay for you to make a decision. It’s okay for you to make a mistake. It’s better for you to make a decision that ends in a mistake than it is for you to constantly pull me in and feel like you need me for every single decision that’s being made.”

You’re going to love The One Minute Manager Meets The Monkey. Get that book right away.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways we can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Each week, we drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in our Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join us at The Art of Success Summit! This October, We are getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

How do I prepare myself mentally and emotionally before a sales call? I notice that immediately before I get into a call, I get nervous. There’s a fear, doubt, or worry that comes into play. I have no idea what the person will say.

Also, I don’t want to be attached to the outcome. I give them service, I listen to what they say, and I don’t have any expectation of them saying “yes.” In fact, I assume they’ll say no, or that they’ll think about it. And that’s the result I get, because I'm afraid of getting attached.

I know we’re not supposed to be attached to the outcome, and we’re supposed to “command the result.” How do you NOT attach to the sale? How should I go into a sales call to prepare?

It’s a simple little switch. You think to yourself, “I don’t need this—I want this.”

Needing something will get you attached. Need comes from fear and scarcity.

Tell yourself, “I don’t need the sale. I want the sale.”

Note: A want or a wish is different from desire. It’s okay to want things. It’s okay to desire something, as long as you’re not coming from fear. Everything depends on why you want something.

In order to mentally and emotionally prepare for sales calls, you can do things to put yourself in a good energetic state.

Do something to get out of your head, be in the moment, and to release all those feelings of doubt or fear.

Listen to music. Dance, or do something physical.

If you want to review any information the client submitted beforehand, or go through the questions you’ll ask them, you can do that too. You want to keep everything simple and not make it too complicated.

Getting ready from an “information” standpoint is one thing, but getting emotionally ready is something else.

I used to use music all the time. When I did sales calls, I would crank it up. Before a call, I would take three deep breaths, and get centered.

Remind yourself that you’re a professional, and you’re about to help someone change their life. Just center yourself, and use the music to get into a good space.

Do this over and over again with every call.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Summit! This October, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

I’m an entrepreneur, and my partner is not. I want to build, grow, and see things. He has working class mindset, always working for someone else. But he’s intrigued by everything I’m doing, and he’s open to it.

I feel like we’re going in different directions. When I ask him what he wants, he always says, “I don’t know.” He’s trying to figure that out. I say, “You have to go try things. Why don’t you go for that dream job? Why don’t you talk to people?”

Is that the right approach? How can I help him find his passion? How can we see if we’re on the same page or create a direction? He wants to fit into my life of freedom, but I want him to have his own passions and dreams.

I would sit down, have a conversation and say, “Let’s take a week and decide what we want for ourselves in life.”

Take a week, write down everything you want in your life…and have him do the same.

Then, after the week, come back together and compare notes. See where you are.

Talk about, “What do we want together?” Create a vision for what you guys want together. Break it down to, “Okay, how are we going to create this in our life, so that you get what you want individually, I get what I want individually, and we both get what we want together? And then we make it work.”

That will determine the next steps.

It’s important that you both have the freedom to really say, truthfully, what you want. If you’re hiding something—or you think your partner would be offended or might not want the same thing—or if you’re like, “That won’t work”… you might have a codependency thing going on, where he’s letting you be the leader.

But that never works out very well.

No matter what the outcome is, you have to give each other permission that you’ll be 100% honest about what you want.

Here’s another thing. When someone keeps saying, “I don’t know,” they’re actually giving their brain a command to NOT give them the answer.

Our brain is extraordinarily resourceful,
if we learn how to use it.

Instead of saying, “I don’t know,” he could start saying, ”I know it’s coming. I know the answer is coming. I give myself permission to know what it is.”

Here’s the truth, which I deeply believe:

Humans are not the one species on the planet that was born with no direction. We all have a purpose and a direction. We were just taught to ignore it during childhood (for whatever reason), so that we could survive.

Your partner just needs to start talking. His self talk needs to change a bit. Give him the space to come up with what he wants.

Don’t pressure him in any way. Let him write down whatever he knows that he wants, because you can only start where you are. He just needs permission.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Summit! This October, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

What’s the difference between setting a goal and making a decision? I’m struggling with differentiating the two in my mind.

For example, let’s say I want to get up at 6:00 am and take a cold shower. That’s a decision, right?

But then I have a goal that I want to make $X amount of dollars. That’s a goal, right? Can you clarify the distinction of where it breaks from being a decision to just setting a goal?

They’re both part of each other.

When you set a goal, you need to figure out, “What do I need to do to reach that goal?”

The decision is about, “I’m going to accomplish this goal, and I’m making a decision to do it, based on cause and effect of what needs to be done to reach that goal.”

First you set the goal.
Then you make a decision to reach that goal.

From there, figure out what actions you need to commit to, in order to reach the goal.

Here’s an example. If I sat down with my CEO, Steph, and said, “Hey, let’s set a goal to make an extra million this year…” we’d sit down and reverse-engineer what that would look like.

• How do we want to make that money?
• What do we want to do?
• What are you and I going to commit to?
• Do we need to hire someone?
• What needs to be done?
• For how long?
• On what days?

We’d break it down into activities—all the way down to the smallest details.

Set the goal, make a decision to reach the goal, brainstorm how to get there, then commit to taking those actions.

Commitments are just decisions along the way.

If you don’t chunk your goal down into specific activities, then you haven’t really set the goal. You haven’t made a decision.

You have to turn the goal into activities that are based on cause and effect. What is the cause of this goal that you want?

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Summit! This October, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

My wife is a working professional and is paid very well. She’s fulfilled with her work, and her income is high, but she’s not an entrepreneur. She’s not tuned into the hustles and struggles of owning your own business.

Many of the things I need to work on—like mindset issues—come more naturally to her. Sometimes I’ll say, “Hey, let’s go to a David Neagle live event,” and she won’t be as into it as I am. But sometimes she’s curious about what I’m learning.

Sometimes she sees me doing this mindset work and she’s like, “Why do you need to do that?” How can I get her and I on the same wavelength, so that we can pursue some non-economic, non-financial ways to grow?

The first thing I’d ask her is, “Why are you asking me this question? What are you actually looking for?”

Because it sounds like she’s looking for something, and you’re answering her question in a way where she’s not satisfied.

So I would find out what she’s looking for, and what the reason is behind her question.

I’d say, “That’s a great question. And I honor and respect your question. But why are you asking me this? What information are you looking for?”

Let’s find out what she wants to know.

Because if you answer the wrong question, she won’t be satisfied.

Obviously, there’s a disconnect somewhere. And we need to figure what it is first.

I’d also say to her:

“I know you don’t have as much interest in this area as I do. But it would really mean a lot to me if you’d come to this event with me, because it’s something I’m interested in. And I’d love for us to work together on our relationship.”

“…AND I’ll totally respect you if we get there and you decide it’s not for you. But it would really mean a lot to me if you’d come see what’s really interesting me, so that we can create dialogue between the two of us.”

I would approach it from that angle.

Sometimes the spouse just isn’t into it.
And that’s totally fine, as long as both people are working to grow their relationship together.

The worst thing you can do is to make her wrong for her lack of interest.

Here’s another thing…A person has to fully embrace the teacher.

She might be curious about the material I’m teaching, but I might not be the right teacher for her.

She might be interested in the content, but maybe she needs to find somebody she vibes with better. That’s always a possibility too.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Summit! This October, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

My question is that I’m still not making any money in my business. I’ve fixed my messaging, and upped my branding. People in my industry are starting to notice me. But I don’t know where to get the leads.

I have 250 people on my email list. It’s very disengaged, even though I email frequently. I’ve reached out to every person via direct email. I asked them, “Are you looking to find THIS, or are you looking to do THAT?” I don’t know what the open rate was, because I emailed them individually.

No one is responding. And no one responded to my survey. That’s where I feel stuck. What would you recommend?

My CEO, Steph Tuss, is the master of this!

She recommends the following tips for re-engaging your email list:

1. Rather than sending these emails personally, send them through your CRM, so you can track open rates
2. Resend an email, but don’t send a “this or that” email. They’re all on your list because they’re looking for something specific. Deliver VALUE before asking them do to anything in return.
3. Fulfill the promise of why they’re on your list to begin with—what are they looking for?
4. Send out a 9-word email to your list. It doesn’t necessarily have to be nine words, but it’s very simple. It should be a one sentence question. You could send something like, “Are you still interested in [whatever your main thing is]?” And that’s it. Sign off with just your name (no fancy headshot, phone number, email, or anything). They’ll either respond with “yes,” “no,” or they won’t respond at all. If they don’t respond at all, then you can assume the topic of your question is no longer something they are interested in.
5. Use a good subject line. For a 9-word email, an example subject line is, “Question for you…”
6. The next time you do a survey to your list, give them an incentive for answering the survey (because no one fills out a survey without experiencing “what’s in it for them”).

Anyone with a service-based business can send out this type of an email, including attorneys, coaches, or other businesses.

The email should not be about you at all. It shouldn’t be what you’re offering. It shouldn’t be anything about you.

It should be one single question:
“Are you still interested in… X?”

That should be the reason that they’re on your list, and following you, to begin with.

At my company, we sometimes send out an email saying, “Are you still interested in growing your business?” Period. (You might have gotten an email like that from us before.)

When they respond, this puts you into a conversation back and forth with the people who are still interested and ready for help.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Summit! This October, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

The term “imposter syndrome” keeps coming up in my awareness. Can you speak to the meaning of that? What is your understanding of imposter syndrome?

Imposter syndrome is when your self-image doesn’t match up with the direction you want to go… and you don’t feel worthy of what you actually want in life.

Obviously, that needs to be changed at a self-image level.

There’s a quote from “A Course in Miracles” about self-image. If you’re having an issue with your self-image, you should read it 50 times a day, and behave as if you’re that person:

“The truth about you is so lofty that nothing unworthy of God is worthy of you. Choose, then, what you want in these terms and accept nothing that you would not offer to God as wholly fitting for Him.”

This is the only way to change your self-image once you’re an adult.

Remember, the way you learned as a child is not the same way you learn as an adult. As a child, we learned by gathering information, remembering it, then feeding it back to someone… who then said we learned.

As an adult, our learning is experiential.

Once you’re an adult, if you want to change the results in your life, you have to acknowledge where you are and do something different.

If it’s an internal change you have to make, then you have to be willing to do things to raise your self-esteem to the level where you want to be.

This will never be an intellectual process first. It will always be behavioral first, intellectual second.

That means you step into the actions you’re taking to move forward.

Who do you want to be, while stepping into those actions?

This is where the rewiring of your mind happens. When you’re taking action, you develop the confidence to actually do it.

Imposter syndrome is literally feeling like an imposter. Feeling like, “This isn’t me. I’m stepping into this, and it’s not true.”

It’s all about doing the thing in order to become the person you want to be.

And remember — the part of you that doesn’t feel worthy is coming from someone else’s voice in your head.

It’s not your voice.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Summit! This October, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I’ve heard you say, “Training habituates reactions to any circumstance.” When I make a mistake, I find that I tend to have a strong, negative reaction. For example, let’s say I made a typo in a piece of paperwork that I filed. Nobody may notice it, but I notice it when I’m reviewing it. I’m mortified and I’m afraid someone will find out and laugh at me. That’s where my brain usually goes — “I can’t believe I made this stupid mistake.”

How I can habituate a better reaction when I make a mistake?

First ask yourself: what’s the reaction I want to have?

Most people will answer in the negative, like, “It’s okay, I’m not a bad person, and nothing bad will happen.”

But let’s make it more positive. You could say you want gratitude to be your first reaction.

Why gratitude? Because mistakes teach us the greatest lessons in life. So let’s be grateful for them. Work having on deep, profound gratitude for any mistake you make—as if it’s really important.

In the example you gave with the typo… where is the deep and profound gratitude for the typo?

The answer is: it points out how you view yourself negatively. So now you know what to change.

It has nothing to do with the typo. It’s actually showing you about yourself.

When you start to look at mistakes in this manner, you’ll eventually retrain yourself to have a different reaction every time.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

• Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
• Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
• Join me at The Art of Success Summit! This month, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners together for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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