How to handle negative people

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Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

There is a person in my life who sees the negative in every situation. If he does say something good or nice about something, he ends it with a negative.

How do you handle a situation like this? Oh…I should probably mention the person I’m referring to is my partner.

Neagle Code Answer

Hi!

I think it’s important to understand that you don’t have to “handle” the situation.

I think a better question to ask yourself is, “Why am I choosing to have this negative person in my life?”

There are two things we need to understand:

1)    This person has every right to be negative and judgmental, and it’s not anyone else’s responsibility or right to change him/her.

2)    When you are around someone who is negative, it is very hard for you to consciously reject their thoughts and feelings; and pretty soon you may find yourself uttering those same negative words. You are influenced by the people around you whether you want to admit it or not.

My mentor, Bob Proctor, refused to spend time with people who were negative and lack-minded, because he knew they had the ability to change his thinking without him even realizing it, and I feel the same way.

So are you choosing to spend time with this person in hopes of changing them?

Or

Are you afraid to remove yourself from this negative person’s life?

Get very honest
with yourself…

It all boils down to making a decision based upon what’s in your best interest, understanding that everyone else has the right to think, live and believe whatever they choose.

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My friend has a lack mentality. How do I respond?

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Neagle Code Question

I was visiting with some friends who are very much in the lack mentality. For instance my friend prides herself on how she only buys her clothes on sale or at Goodwill because it saves her so much money or constantly is telling me how much she paid for something. I find myself either biting my tongue to share my new insights with her or judging her. She is a close friend and I don't get to see her often, but how do you respond to people who have different beliefs than you?

Neagle Code Answer

Thanks for the great question!

I know first hand that this is a question that many people struggle with.

The first rule of thumb is that you should always surround yourself with people who are of like mind and goals. There is some truth to the old saying; “You are a product of the five closest people in your lives”.

The second thing I’d like to point out is that if you’re not verbally disagreeing with your friend, her lack beliefs are seeping into your subconscious.

Have you ever spent time with them, and then suddenly found yourself slipping back into lack thoughts and decisions, not even realizing it until you caught yourself days later?

And the third point here is that your friends aren’t asking you to help them change, therefore, it’s not your place to “set them straight.” They have the right to believe whatever they want, and if it bothers you, it’s your responsibility to make the choice to accept them, or to limit your time with them.

Usually when I get this question, I ask, “How is the relationship serving you?” I think this is something you may want to take a look at.

You’ve probably heard the saying, “A relationship is for a reason, season or a lifetime.”

It may be time for you to spend less time with these dear friends, and focus on making new friendships that support your ideals and growth.

 

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How to handle constantly negative people

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

There is a person in my life who sees the negative in every situation. If he does say something good or nice about something, he ends it with a negative. How do you handle a situation like this? Oh…I should probably mention the person I’m referring to is my partner.

Neagle Code Answer

Hi!

I think it’s important to understand that you don’t have to “handle” the situation.

I think a better question to ask is, “Why am I choosing to have this negative person in my life?”

1) This person has every right to be negative and judgmental, and it’s not anyone else’s responsibility or right to change him/her.

2) When you’re around someone who is negative, it is very hard for to consciously reject their thoughts and feelings, and pretty soon you may find yourself uttering those same negative words. You are influenced by the people around you whether you want to admit it or not.

My mentor, Bob Proctor, refused to spend time with people who are negative and lack-minded, because he knew they had the ability to change his thinking without him even realizing it, and I feel the same way.

So are you choosing to spend time with this person in hopes of changing them?

Or

Are you afraid to remove yourself from this negative person’s life?

Get very honest with yourself…

It all boils down to making a decision based upon what’s in your best interest with the understanding that everyone else has the right to think, live and believe whatever they choose.

 

JustBelieve_Logo-01

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.