This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
I recently found out that my husband of 16 years has been having an affair for quite some time. I’m having a hard time not feeling devastated. I understand that as you say, I am the center of my own universe, and I am the one that created that relationship, and I am happy to take responsibility. I am studying the laws and trying to pull my life together by working with the laws, but my question to you is – when I eventually meet another man, how will I know if I can him trust him? How can I use the laws to ensure that I don't waste any more of my life?
Hi, and thanks for your question.
The Law states that we attract what we are, not what we want.
So to use the Laws to ensure that you don’t waste any more of your life, you must get very clear with yourself as to why you would have attracted your husband and his subsequent actions.
If everyone in our life is a mirror for us, and no one is a victim, then we must take responsibility for everything in our lives and see the lessons as they are.
Cheaters cheat for only one reason.
They don’t have the courage to say what they want.
Is this also something you struggle with?
Do you have difficulty saying what you want, even if it means the loss of a relationship or judgment from those around you? Is there something you were lying to yourself about?
Once you have clarity around why you attracted the affair into your life, you must go to work on getting very clear about the person you’d like to meet.
You see, we are not taught how to attract a partner. Most relationships start with a physical attraction, and we fall in love, and most times, we fall in love with the wrong person.
To really make sure that you’re attracting an ideal relationship you must write out what qualities and values you’re looking for, and then you yourself must live those qualities and values.
Use that list as the authority in deciding if a relationship stays or goes, and it will help you find a relationship that will bring more life to you both.
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