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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

I recently parted ways with a client who was becoming a toxic relationship. After making that decision, many new leads showed up in my pipeline.

I’ve had calls with several of them, but many haven’t panned out. I believe part of it is “sticker shock” — they think I’m too expensive.

Now I’m starting to go into doubt, fear, and worry. I’ve become a split personality. Some days, I’m focused, pumped up, excited about my goal, and ready to do what I need to do. Then something happens… a client says, “No,” or they cancel the call before we talk. I’ll think, “That one didn’t work; now I’m screwed.”

It’s a back-and-forth battle. I’m frustrated with myself, and starting to fear this won’t work — maybe my goals are wrong. Why am I doing this?

Thanks for the GREAT question!

When you have a vision and a goal for your life and business, it is your responsibility to hold onto that dream.

It’s not anybody else’s responsibility to verify that you’re on the right track by buying from you.

Everyone has a dream, and everyone is responsible for holding on to their own dream.

If someone doesn’t see the value in what you offer, and is not willing to pay for it — there could be a million different reasons why. But it has nothing to do with you.

It has nothing to do with you being on the right track, or being on the wrong track.

It IS an indication that they’re not the right client for you.

This is where I see people get really messed up. They’re using outside verification to determine whether or not they’re doing the right thing.

The responsibility for that is squarely in your hands.

You’re responsible for bringing your vision and goal into the world. You’re responsible for finding the people who see the value in it.

More people will always tell you “no” than “yes.” That’s how business works.

Your job is to find the people who see the value, and who will say yes.

For the ones who don’t — don’t take it personally, because it’s not personal. Their “no” is a reflection of everything going on in their life, their judgments, and their evaluation of things.

It has nothing to do with you.

There are plenty of people here for you, who will buy from you, so you can become wealthy… and THEY can receive the service you’re offering.

But the vision is yours. You have to hold it, and go look for the right people. That’s it, period.

Every time someone says “no” or doesn’t show up for a call — all that is saying is they weren’t the right person to begin with. That’s it.

Move on from it, and find those who are right for you.

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Are You Responsible?

Last week I wrote about we were born to be creators.

You create everything in your life, whether you’re aware of it or not.

Another key to success is to take 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING you create in your life…the good, the bad, the ugly, all of it. Otherwise, you’re a “victim.”

Do you take full responsibility for everything you create in your life?

Think about this carefully. How you answer this question shows you your level of awareness, and your ability to create what you want (as opposed to what you don’t want).

An “unaware” person generally doesn’t take responsibility for everything in their life.

Ask them what they’re unhappy about, and they’ll have a laundry list of complaints. They’ll most likely blame something (or someone) for their undesired experiences. Or they’ll make excuses and shift responsibility to something outside of themselves.

This can be obvious — like saying, “It’s so-and-so’s fault that XYZ happened to me.”

Or it can be more subtle, like “If the weather’s bad I won’t follow through on my commitment.” (In which case, you’re pre-blaming any bad weather in advance for your lack of follow-through.)

When you’re blaming, you’re not taking full responsibility for your life. Period.

From that stance, you’re a victim. As a victim, you can’t proactively change anything in your life, let alone create what you want.

Here’s the truth:

Everything that’s currently in your life…
you put there.
Whether consciously or subconsciously…
you put it there.

It’s your life, after all.

Maybe you didn’t mean to put something there, and it showed up anyway. Great. How you choose to react to it will determine your experience.

If you don’t love a situation in your life, how can you change it?

My favorite question to ask in such cases is:

“Why am I choosing to have this experience/result/outcome?” (A victim would never ask that. They’d be too busy blaming and fuming about their results.)

Asking this question instantly puts you back in the driver’s seat of your own life.

If you’re willing to accept 100% responsibility for everything you’re creating, you can make phenomenal changes in your life.

Doors will open wide for you. It will seem like “magic,” but it’s really just one of the key elements of being a successful person.

That includes taking responsibility for every thought, feeling, and action you take.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Michele.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Rebecca.

Hi David,

I have a 23 year-old daughter who is ruining her life. She doesn’t take responsibility for any of her actions, and she seems dedicated to distracting me from growing my business. I’ve heard you teach about unhealthy attachments, but she’s my daughter…

Any suggestions?

This is one of those questions for which there is no magic fix.

There are a couple of things here that you need to really think about.

1. You are 100% responsible for everything in your own life.

2. Your daughter is an adult so you are no longer responsible FOR her.

3. It is not your job to fix her. She is the only one who can change herself, and that’s only if she wishes to change.

That means that you have to decide that you are no longer going to tolerate toxic relationships in your life.

That doesn’t mean that you no longer love her.

In fact, the solution to your problem is to love her for who she is without judgment, and limit the time you spend with her by setting boundaries around what is acceptable in your life and what is not.

We all need to learn about cause and effect, and we are all responsible for our own choices and lives.

One of the best gifts we can give our children is to allow them to have their own experiences and carve their own way, even if we may not agree with them.

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