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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

I have a question about visualization. What should it look like as a daily practice? Am I imagining a scenario? Am I feeling a state of gratitude? Am I seeing a symbol? How do you do it? How do you recommend people visualize? I’d like to make it a daily practice, so it feels more natural to do it.

Great question! I do something called a “Sacred Seven” each morning. I run through a process of determining how I want to be and how I want to show up throughout my day.

Let’s say you get up at 6:00 AM and go to bed at 10:00 PM. I’ll look at my calendar and see all these different things scheduled for me to do. (That’s another reason why everything in your life should be calendared, by the way.)

I look at each thing on my calendar and ask: “How do I need to show up to this today?” Maybe it’s a meeting, coaching call, live event, etc. These can even be activities in your personal life, like spending time with your significant other. It should all be on the calendar.

Ask yourself, “How do I want to show up to each of these activities?” Then see yourself being the person you want to be.

The more you do this, the easier it gets. You’ll reach the point where you’ll see yourself that way all the time.

As you go through your day, it’ll be fresh in your mind—the image of who you want to be. For example, if you have a client meeting, you could say, “Here’s this meeting; here’s what’s will happen. Here’s how I want to see myself—confident, negotiating, compassionate,” or whatever it is. Then see yourself showing up in that way.

If you catch yourself reacting negatively to someone, give yourself a timeout. Walk away, gather yourself, and figure out what’s going on with you.

Ask: ”Why am I acting this way? “Why am I choosing to have this experience?” “Why do I feel so angry right now?” It’s never about the person or the situation—it’s about you and what’s going on with you. It all goes back to responsibility.

The truth is, you control how you respond.

You can always come back to that intentional place of showing up in the way you want to show up.

At the end of the day, evaluate how well you did. You might be like, “Omg, I completely blew who I said I was going to be. I snapped at somebody or something.”

If you didn’t do well in one area, ask yourself, “How can I do that better next time?” Forgive yourself, so you’re not bringing shame or guilt in, or beating yourself up.

Then go into the law of cause and effect: “How did that happen? What caused it? What did I do? What did I miss? What do I need to learn?”

The next time you’re in a meeting, you’ll remember that. You’ll be able to show up as the person you said you were going to be.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Athony.

Hi David,

Can you explain the Law of Gender and what an incubation period is?

Any time something is being created, there’s a period of time between the inception of that thing—and the moment it comes to full maturity.

This has to do with the Law of Gender, which states that everything has a gestation period (or “incubation period”).

For example, think about a baby. From conception to birth, it takes about nine months (or 280 days) for it to be born. A tomato, watermelon, frog, or anything else may take a different amount of time to be formed. For most life forms, we know what the specific timeframes are.

But when it comes to an idea, we usually don’t know the specific time it will take. From the moment I get an idea—till I make a decision to act on it, and I start to manifest it—I don’t know how long it will take me to bring that idea to life.

Here’s why it’s useful to know about the Law of Gender—because we have to understand there’s a timeframe for anything we want to do, and we have to figure out what the timeframe is.

At best, when we set a goal, we’re guessing. We only know what the timeframe will be if we’ve already set that particular goal before (and reached it). But there’s not a whole lot of growth in setting the same goal over and over again.

When we’re setting a new goal that we’ve never done before, there’s an incubation period (or gestation period) for it.

Let’s say I set a 30-day goal and I don’t hit it. Then I have to look at one or two things: “Did I give my best in everything I did?” And, “Did I do everything I thought would work to do this?” If the answer is yes, then all we did was set the wrong time. We don’t change the goal; we just extend the timeframe.

So maybe it’s not 30 days—maybe it takes 45 days, 60 days, or 90 days to create what you want.

The great thing is, once we uncover the timeframe it will take to create something, in many cases we can often shorten that timeframe with increased knowledge and adaptation. The better we get at doing something, the faster we can do it.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Hi David,

When I have a negative thought about something, I try working through it…but I end up focusing on it so much, I feel like I’m bringing more negativity to me.

Then it creates a fear in me like, “OMG, I’m bringing in sickness or other things I’m worried about…even though I’m saying ‘no, I’m not going to have those problems.’ The more I try to flip it, the more it seems like I’m making it even stronger. Am I using the law of attraction incorrectly?

First off, the law of attraction actually isn’t one of the universal laws. It’s a subsidiary idea of the law of vibration—which says whatever you’re “expecting” in your life (good or bad) is also what you’re in harmony with.

What people call the “law of attraction” is a complete misnomer. It’s not an actual law.

If you’re thinking about negative scenarios, you don’t need to say, “No, I’m not going to have those problems.”

Instead, the first thing you’d go to is responsibility, then gratitude.

Responsibility is about owning every single result in your life, and knowing what you did to either cause it or contribute to it showing up.

Gratitude makes you look at what’s good in your life. Then you start moving in that direction.

So the idea is, you don’t acknowledge the negative thing at all.

The only way a negative thought can grab you is if you believe in some kind of fear. In every case, fear is always based on a lie.

It’s really that simple. Just don’t overcomplicate it.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Brandi T.

Hi David,

I am a massage therapist and have a lot of guilt around asking for what I really want to charge clients. I was raised with the paradigm of: It is wrong to charge a man dying of thirst $100 for a glass of water and wrong to deny a starving man food, particularly if I have more than enough, so I’m having a hard time justifying selling a service that people of all income levels need, but which most people truly cannot afford. I know I’m not thinking about this accurately, but I’m still stuck in it. HELP!

Hi Brandi!

I know a lot of small business owners who struggle with this same concept.

First of all, I don’t quite think your comparison makes a whole lot of sense. Charging a dying man $100.00 for a glass of water doesn’t really compare with charging your fees.

Here’s the deal…it is not your responsibility to save the world.

If it were, you’d be the only massage therapist in the world.

The truth is that you’re looking at this all wrong.

The LAW states that if someone has a strong enough desire for something, the money MUST be there. What you’re talking about is no different.

And your responsibility is for yourself only (and any dependent children, of course).

Here’s how I suggest you look at your fees.

Your fees MUST be set on your personal financial goals AND the value of the service that you offer. The value of what you offer must exceed the fees that you’re charging.

The people who have the ability or willingness to pay you, WILL. 

And those who do not will find someone else to help them.

It’s a win-win situation. You get to work with the people who you really enjoy working with, and people who aren’t willing to pay your fees will pay someone else to work with them.

More life to all.

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Are You Responsible?

Last week I wrote about we were born to be creators.

You create everything in your life, whether you’re aware of it or not.

Another key to success is to take 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING you create in your life…the good, the bad, the ugly, all of it. Otherwise, you’re a “victim.”

Do you take full responsibility for everything you create in your life?

Think about this carefully. How you answer this question shows you your level of awareness, and your ability to create what you want (as opposed to what you don’t want).

An “unaware” person generally doesn’t take responsibility for everything in their life.

Ask them what they’re unhappy about, and they’ll have a laundry list of complaints. They’ll most likely blame something (or someone) for their undesired experiences. Or they’ll make excuses and shift responsibility to something outside of themselves.

This can be obvious — like saying, “It’s so-and-so’s fault that XYZ happened to me.”

Or it can be more subtle, like “If the weather’s bad I won’t follow through on my commitment.” (In which case, you’re pre-blaming any bad weather in advance for your lack of follow-through.)

When you’re blaming, you’re not taking full responsibility for your life. Period.

From that stance, you’re a victim. As a victim, you can’t proactively change anything in your life, let alone create what you want.

Here’s the truth:

Everything that’s currently in your life…
you put there.
Whether consciously or subconsciously…
you put it there.

It’s your life, after all.

Maybe you didn’t mean to put something there, and it showed up anyway. Great. How you choose to react to it will determine your experience.

If you don’t love a situation in your life, how can you change it?

My favorite question to ask in such cases is:

“Why am I choosing to have this experience/result/outcome?” (A victim would never ask that. They’d be too busy blaming and fuming about their results.)

Asking this question instantly puts you back in the driver’s seat of your own life.

If you’re willing to accept 100% responsibility for everything you’re creating, you can make phenomenal changes in your life.

Doors will open wide for you. It will seem like “magic,” but it’s really just one of the key elements of being a successful person.

That includes taking responsibility for every thought, feeling, and action you take.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Rebecca.

Hi David,

I have a 23 year-old daughter who is ruining her life. She doesn’t take responsibility for any of her actions, and she seems dedicated to distracting me from growing my business. I’ve heard you teach about unhealthy attachments, but she’s my daughter…

Any suggestions?

This is one of those questions for which there is no magic fix.

There are a couple of things here that you need to really think about.

1. You are 100% responsible for everything in your own life.

2. Your daughter is an adult so you are no longer responsible FOR her.

3. It is not your job to fix her. She is the only one who can change herself, and that’s only if she wishes to change.

That means that you have to decide that you are no longer going to tolerate toxic relationships in your life.

That doesn’t mean that you no longer love her.

In fact, the solution to your problem is to love her for who she is without judgment, and limit the time you spend with her by setting boundaries around what is acceptable in your life and what is not.

We all need to learn about cause and effect, and we are all responsible for our own choices and lives.

One of the best gifts we can give our children is to allow them to have their own experiences and carve their own way, even if we may not agree with them.

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions
for Life” comes from Alison.

Hi Alison. This is a great question!

Giving yourself permission to do something begins with making a decision to trust your inner desire.

What is it that you really want? When you know the answer to this question, it will point you in the right direction to receive it.

Instead of seeking validation from others that what you are doing is the right thing, look inward and ask yourself, “Is this something that I really want to do or is it something I think I should do based on what someone else is telling me?”

Once you know that it is your true desire, ask yourself four clarifying questions that will tell you if a decision you are making is the right one or not.

These questions are:

1. Is this something I want to be, do or have?
2. Is being, doing, or having this taking me closer to my goal?
3. Is being, doing or having this in alignment with Universal Law? (More life to all-does it add to other’s lives?)
4. Does being, doing or having this violate the rights of others? (Meaning does it take away another person’s right to choose).

You are looking for 3 yeses and a no. When you are experiencing indecision, using the four questions above will help you see clearly which direction to take.

Once you know the answer, the rest is up to you. If the direction you’re taking is truly what you want, you can’t go wrong in following it regardless of what others might say.

You are the only expert on you.

Honor yourself by taking responsibility for your own decisions, follow your desire and you will get what you want every time.

As you do this time and time again, your self-esteem will grow and you won’t even think about seeking permission from someone else.

Just Believe,^®

 

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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions
for Life” comes from Meena.

Hi Meena.

This is one of those questions for which there is no magic fix for the people you love.

There are a couple of things here that you need to really think about.

1. You are 100% responsible for everything in your own life.

2. Your children are grown so you are no longer responsible FOR them.

3. It is not your job to fix them. They are the only ones who can change themselves.

That means that you have to decide that you are no longer going to tolerate toxic relationships in your life.

That doesn't mean that you no longer love them.

In fact, the solution to your problem is to love them for who they are without judgment and limit the time you spend with them.

We all need to learn about cause and effect, and we are all responsible for our own choices and lives.

One of the best gifts we can give our children is to allow them to have their own experiences and carve their own way, even if we may not agree with them.

I wish you all the best!

Just Believe,^®

 

PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost
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