My spouse’s money-mindset sucks …

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Anna.

Question:

What if you and your husband have very different beliefs around money? I know you can't change people, but it is frustrating because I understand the principles.
I appreciate your response.

Answer:

Money and relationships are pretty tricky, but they don't have to be.

If you and your husband have different beliefs around money, I recommend that you both start taking responsibility for yourselves.

Make your own money, have your own banking accounts, and split the joint bills and expenses.

If you want to save for a trip and he doesn't, go without him, but be prepared for him to do the same.

So many couples struggle with money, especially if one partner makes more than the other. Sometimes it works great and other times it's incredibly disempowering for the person who is not the breadwinner.

If you feel like your decisions are limited by your husband's money mindset, you need to have a heart to heart conversation with him, and let him know that from now on, you'll both be responsible for the bills, but that everything else will go into separate accounts.

This gives him the freedom to do what he wants with his income, and it gives you the freedom as well.

It's against the laws to ask him to change, this way, you'll both have the freedom to believe what you want about money and spend as save as you wish.

“Just Believe”,®

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I can’t wait to touch a hot stove! (Really?)

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Michael Pierich. You can find him on the web at www.healedspirit.com.

Question:

David,

Thanks for the Art of Success Program. It's very good.

Was just re-listening to the section on security in part II where you mention one's failing to take opportunities because we feel we can't afford it.

I know I'm probably missing something here – but I do have past experience of taking part in fairly expensive courses with little or no results. How does one get around that experience? It seems to me that some things get programmed into the subconscious for a good reason – namely, because they're true! It's like touching the hot stove – how many times must one do that before the lesson is learned? I know of no one who kept touching the stove and eventually was able to do it without pain…

Answer:

Hi Michael!

You've actually asked two different questions in your above inquiry, so I'll answer each as it's own separate question.

Your first question was “How do I get around the experience of having spent money on fairly expensive courses with little or no results?”

First, you can't get around the experience. You must take responsibility for it.

You see, you are the center of your reality; you create everything. All the positive experiences and all the negative experiences are your own creation, and you create EVERYTHING for a reason whether you consciously realize it or not.

So the truth is, you didn't experience results from the program you invested in because it served you in some way. Either you stopped doing what you were directed to do because of subconscious fear or you chose the program from a place of lack. In which case the end result was lack.

So, be honest for a moment.

Did you choose that fairly expensive program based solely on your desire to have what the outcome promised and your intuition on knowing that the program was just what you needed? Or was your decision based on a combination of what you believe you could afford and the outcome that was offered?

It makes a difference.

And during the course of the program did you let someone know that you weren't satisfied or that you needed assistance? Did you reach out for help and were you willing to do everything you were directed to do?

Are you using your past experience as an excuse to stop?

Because if you are, it's serving a very definite purpose.

Your second question was, “It seems to me that some things get programmed into the subconscious for a good reason – namely, because they're true! It's like touching the hot stove – how many times must one do that before the lesson is learned?

First, I think it's important to note that the fear of touching a hot stove is not a subconscious fear.

We are all consciously aware that touching a hot stove hurts because we've experienced it and don't really want to experience it again.

Babies and small children don't have the subconscious fear, which is why at some point, they have to experience it to know not to touch it.

We have many fears that keep us from perishing but they are all conscious.

Here is the distinction…

God gave us desires. He's a perfect and loving God, and if he's a perfect and loving God, why would he give us desires and then tell us that we can't have them?

The answer is, he wouldn't. It's not in his nature to do such a thing.

If you have a desire to be, do or have something, that message is from God.

And if you experience obstacles, roadblocks, blind spots, or negative circumstances associated with the journey of being, doing or having your desire, you must understand that those experiences are being created from your subconscious mind's need to keep you from growing. Because it views such growth as a threat.

The difference is in the desire.

I don't know anyone who desires to touch a hot stove on a regular basis, but I know lots of people who desire to make a difference in this world and stop because they are afraid of something that does not exist.

“Just Believe”,®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

What Super-Powers would a Super-Victim have? (Impossible…)

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

How does one pick up after 30 yrs of successful business only to lose everything including wife of 30 years? I have hit the skids and can't seem to get out.

Answer:

Everything that happens to you in your lifetime has happened because you created it.

You've created all the joyous moments and the painful moments, and you've created it for a reason.

Napolean Hill states in his book, Think and Grow Rich, that opportunity often comes disguised as misfortune or temporary defeat.

Letting go of any resentment you still hold will allow you to see the opportunity, and although what happened feels like a tragedy, the blessing that it brings far outweighs that tragedy.

There is something really big and powerful on the other side of this, and you created the downfall to force your own growth.

Your first step in overcoming the anger and resentment that is keeping you from seeing the opportunity is to take responsibility for the situation.

You can't be powerful and a victim at the same time.

If you stay in the victim mentality, you will only see with the eyes of a victim, and you will be blind to the opportunities that are before you right now.

“Just Believe”,®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

What does romance have to do with my success?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

How does a relationship affect our ability to manifest our dreams? Thanks!

Answer:

If you’re asking the question, you may want to consider that you already know the answer.

If you find yourself making decisions or stopping yourself for fear of what someone else will think or say, then you really need to take a close look at that relationship.

And I think it’s important to for you to understand that no one can hold you down, unless you allow yourself to be held down.

In any healthy relationship, both people should have the room and freedom that they need to foster their own growth. You have a responsibility to yourself to pursue your dreams, and if they don’t agree; they have the option to leave the relationship.

As Vernon Howard so eloquently states, “Behave the way you really are, even if it ends a relationship. Never suppress yourself in an effort to influence, hold, or win someone. When we are unreal, so are our rewards. To say this in another way, never behave the way you think the other person wants you to behave, but in the manner you must. Nothing you really need to do or have ever requires a yielding to a person or custom.”

So to answer your question…

Chances are, if you’re wondering if a relationship is right for you, something has given you the thought that it may not be.

Your relationships will only affect your ability to manifest if you’re not true to yourself.

Mother’s Day is tomorrow, and I know many entrepreneurs who have difficult relationships with their mothers. Take time tomorrow to give gratitude for your mother. Some of the most difficult people we have in our lives are our greatest teachers.

Remember, other people in our lives will mirror us. And in that mirroring is the opportunity for growth.

“Just Believe”,®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they’ve never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.