Why am I afraid to charge what I am worth?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

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All but one part of my life “clicks.” My bills are paid. My relationships are fantastic. I love what I do and am super happy except for this one thing.

I find it gut-wrenching to charge for my work. I rarely charge what the work was worth. I am excellent at what I do, and have great testimonials. I feel like I have a good self-esteem. I just prefer to do what I love and let the Universe provide.

I'd like to step up my income and move to the next level, which will mean charging what my quality of work is worth. Can you help?

Neagle Code Answer

I love this question…

I need to tell you something, and I’m typing it with nothing but love.

You don’t have a healthy self-esteem.

If you did, you wouldn’t be afraid of the rejection you would have to deal with when you begin to charge what you’re worth.

Above you said that you’re excellent at what you do, and that you have great testimonials. So tell me, if this is the case, why would you find it gut-wrenching to charge for your work?

You prefer to do what you love and let the Universe provide because you are afraid of what will need to happen for you to grow. You would need to stand in your power, be confident and not be afraid of hearing the word, “no”.

And let me tell you something, the Universe doesn’t “provide” anything. It does what you tell it to do. You DECIDE, and the Universe responds. And right now you are creating just enough to get by.

You see Spirit doesn’t speak to you through fear, therefore, it’s not Spirit that’s making it gut-wrenching to charge for your services.

It’s your ego.

Your ego knows that you are afraid of rejection and judgment from others, and so it uses that belief to stop you from growing.

Charging what you’re worth means that you would need to grow into being that person, and that’s something your ego DOES NOT want you to do because it views any kind of growth as a risk.

So, what are the services you offer worth?

Pick a number.

Can you see yourself feeling good about asking for that price for what you offer?

Write it down and practice saying it out loud. Make it feel real to you.

THEN

In your next sales conversation ask for that price.

It’s the only way to push through that gut-wrenching fear.

 

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How to strengthen your self-esteem

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

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Hey David!

My intention is to have monthly events to make money, do what I love and grow my community. I am flying high at and after my events, on top of the world — until the day after when my negativity comes in. I start thinking that people don't like me anymore; I question whether they'll come back. It gets weird in my head. This is clearly an issue. I have been doing my best to stop it when it happens, breathe and bring in new thoughts. It's almost torture at times. I hate that I do this to myself but also happy that I am conscious of it now. So what I wonder, are there any additional techniques on how to flip the switch on these thoughts and interrupt the pattern — as well as stay in that I’m-great-and-did-a-great-job energy??

Neagle Code Answer




Hi! Thanks for your question and your honesty.


It’s wonderful that you are conscious of this pattern in your life, but you must do more than breathe and bring in new thoughts… you must build your self-esteem.

You see, the reason you feel on top of the world after your event is because you are feeding off of the energy and appreciation of the audience. Once that acknowledgement and appreciation fade, your wound re-appears.

A person with a fully developed self-esteem would speak from stage because that is what they are meant to do. They wouldn’t care who liked them or appreciated them.

I always tell my audience, that my job is not to be their friend, and I don’t care if they like me or not.

I know that I have a message to speak, and the people who need to hear will, and those that aren’t ready, won’t. Either way, at the end of the day, I feel good about me and the fact that I’ve given my best to help whomever is willing to listen.

For you, I’d suggest taking a deep look at your need for appreciation and acknowledgement.

Why do you need this from the audience?

Why do you need them to like you, when whether or not they like you is actually none of your business.

Once you begin to take steps to build your self-esteem you’ll find yourself becoming less worried about what others think, and more powerful from stage.

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How to get over the need to be appreciated

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

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Hi David!

I’m beginning to realize that I have a deep need for appreciation. I go out of my way for others to the point of sacrificing my own desires, and when I get no thanks or appreciation, I can feel the anger welling up inside me. I know this need is spilling over into my business. How do transform this and put a stop to needing others to appreciate me?

Neagle Code Answer

The need for validation from other people is an issue that comes from low self-esteem. This need comes from the perception that you aren’t worthy and it actually started prior to age 7 or 8.

If we don’t truly believe that we are worthy on the inside, we’re always going to be seeking validation or appreciation from others that tells us we are okay.

The problem is that no matter how much others tell us that we did a good job, deep down we don’t believe it.

When a person doesn’t get the appreciation they are looking for it can be extremely painful or even devastating. This causes them to feel resentful and that leads to anger.

A person who is really trying to overcome this in their life has to be aware of the cycle and all the places in their life where this shows up. They have to know how the cycle works.

I’m going to share an integration exercise with you that will help you overcome the need for appreciation if you really want to overcome it.

A) For every person who comes into your life, find one thing you can honestly appreciate about them in that moment.

B) Start journaling what you’re finding to appreciate in other people, and begin to see these qualities in yourself.

C) Start to take a look at how wonderful you really are as a human being and an individual.

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Gone way overboard because…

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions
for Life”
comes from Rebecca.

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Through my work I am always looking for validation from others to make me feel like I'm doing a good job. It matters so much that I go overboard with giving to be liked. Being so nice doesn't seem to get me ahead at all.

Thank you David if you choose this question I will act upon your advice immediately.

 

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Great question.

The need for validation from other people is an issue that comes from low self-esteem. This need comes from the perception that you aren't worthy of appreciation and it actually started prior to age 7 or 8.

Congratulations on taking the first step to overcoming the need for validation by recognizing that you have the problem. It can be very difficult to overcome unless you really want to overcome it.

If we don't truly believe that we are worthy of appreciation on the inside, we're always going to be seeking validation from others that we are okay.

The problem is that no matter how much others tell us that we did a good job, deep down we don't believe it.

So say you completed a project and someone tells you that you did a good job. It feels great but the feeling dissipates quickly. That's because a person who needs to be appreciated will always be on the lookout for when they are not being appreciated. They are always concerned about what others think about them.

When a person doesn't get the appreciation they are looking for it can be extremely painful or even devastating. This causes them to feel resentful and that leads to anger.

A person who is really trying to overcome this in their life has to be aware of the cycle and all the places in their life where this shows up. They have to know how the cycle works.

It always leads to self-sabotage. People with the need to be appreciated will start sabotaging different areas of their life because they don't feel appreciated.

I'm going to share an integration exercise with you that will help you overcome the need for appreciation if you really want to overcome it.

    A) For every person who comes into your life, find one thing you can honestly appreciate about them in that moment.

    B) Start journaling what you're finding to appreciate in other people, and begin to see these qualities in yourself.

    C) Start to take a look at how wonderful you really are as a human being and an individual.

Don't underestimate how much the need to be appreciated actually holds you back in your life.

I wish you all the best!

Just Believe,®
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Found an extra $35K!

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

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Hi David,

I have listened to all of your videos, webinars and bonus material for the Art of Success 2 promo and Blind Spot Breakthrough and I am blown away. You have allowed me to reveal exactly what is blocking me – with this awareness I found an extra $35,000 in annual income that I was sitting on. But now that I have activated that income I am feeling the pull of my psycho-cybernetic setting – I can't stop myself from breaking down and sabotaging myself! I am so worried and scared that I am going to ruin all the new income I just found – how can I stop it?

 

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Hi and thanks for your question.

First of all, CONGRATS on the new awareness that helped you find an extra $35,000.00 in income. That's fantastic, and something I enjoy watching my private clients discover for themselves as well.

The key thing to remember is that you CAN stop yourself from breaking down and sabotaging yourself. Immediately stop saying that you can't.

The first step is to become aware of what beliefs are causing the worry.

Ask yourself why you are feeling worried and scared. From that answer, keep asking questions until you feel like you've hit the root issue. This will shine the light on the belief that's allowing fear, worry and doubt to creep in.

Let the worst-case scenario play out.

Once a light is shined on the fear, you can respond to it.

For example, if you discover that your worry is coming from a place of what other people will think of you if you ruin everything, you can now address that fear for what it is.

If you shine the light on it and realize that your fear is coming from a place of wanting love and acceptance from other people, you can bring in the truth to remind yourself that what people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

This awareness helps neutralize the worry, because you can see it for what it is and understand your next area of growth. In the above instance, it would be strengthening your self-esteem so that you stop fearing judgment from others.

Remember, Spirit does not speak to you through fear. If you experience it you know it's from your ego.

Just Believe,®
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Brought home a failing grade…what happened next?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

I have incredible fear surrounding saying no to my clients, disappointing my clients and possibly having my clients be angry with me. This fear exists all the time, even if nothing is going wrong in my business. It is affecting my physical health to the point that I've consulted multiple doctors and am now on medication. I also considered giving up my business on a regular basis. How can I get past this?

Answer:

Thanks so much for your question…

The answer is both simple and a journey in itself.

You must learn to love yourself.

The reason you're afraid of disappointing someone is because you are relying on them to make you feel ok or worthy or good enough or loved (you pick).

At some point in your life you picked up the belief that you had to be something, do something or act a certain way to be loved. If you disappointed someone, either there were consequences, or they withheld love.

Here's an example to help you see what I mean:

A child struggles in school. Even though they are giving it their best, they bring home an F on their report card. The child's parents are disappointed, and instead of helping the child work to figure out why they are struggling, they get upset, angry or even punish the child.

The message is clear to the child that they are not good enough. So they work harder at doing whatever they can to gain the acceptance of their parents, because to them acceptance now equals love.

Fast forward to your situation.

You don't want to do anything to upset your client because it will cause you to feel that same pain you felt as a child, and so you're willing to put up with anything or do anything to avoid feeling that way again.

The only way to stop feeling this way is to love yourself the same way God loves you.

Unconditionally.

“Just Believe”,®

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Charging my worth is gut-wrenching…

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Pegi Dahl. You can find her on the web at www.heypegi.com.

Question:

I've lived the Law of Attraction for years now and all but one part of my life “clicks.” My bills are paid. My new desires are met. I love what I do and find that incoming jobs come to me at the perfect time. I'm so happy I could bust, except for this one thing.

I find it gut-wrenching to charge for my work. When I invoice, I rarely charge what the work was worth. I am excellent at what I do, as my clients will attest. I have good self-esteem. I just prefer to do what I love and let the Universe provide.

I'd like to step up my income and move to the next level, which will mean charging what my quality of work is worth. Can you help?

Answer:

I love this question…

Pegi, I need to tell you something, and I'm typing it with nothing but love.

You don't have good self-esteem.

If you did, you wouldn't be afraid of the rejection you would have to deal with when you begin to charge what you're worth.

Above you said that you're excellent at what you do, and that your clients will attest to it. So tell me, if this is the case, why would you find it gut-wrenching to charge for your work?

You prefer to do what you love and let the Universe provide because you are afraid of what will need to happen for you to grow. You would need to stand in your power, be confident and not be afraid of hearing the word, “no”.

And let me tell you something, the Universe doesn't “provide” anything. You create it. And right now you are creating just enough to get by.

You see Spirit doesn't speak to you through fear, therefore, it's not Spirit that's making it gut-wrenching to charge for your services.

It's your ego.

Your ego knows that you are afraid of rejection and judgment from others, and so it uses that belief to stop you from growing.

Charging what you're worth means that you would need to grow into being that person, and that's something your ego DOES NOT want you to do because it views any kind of growth as a risk.

“Just Believe”,®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they've never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.

The ONLY reason I do anything — ever!

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

I've heard you mention that people often do things for love, security, and/or self-esteem. I'm a beginning coach and I feel in my heart (and have felt for much of my life) that teaching and sharing information is a large part of who I am. How can I tell if the joy I feel when sharing information comes from pursuing my heart's desire or is it because teachings fulfill some of my self-esteem needs.

Answer:

This is a question every coach, healer or teacher needs to ask themselves.

Here’s the difference…

Is the joy you’re feeling coming from the sharing of the information or is the joy you feel coming from the accolades you receive from others for sharing the information?

For example, if you were to teach something and then didn’t receive any positive feedback, would the sharing still be joyful?

Do you feel satisfaction for doing the teaching?

Someone who has a lack in self-esteem needs to get it from others. So they will speak and teach with the subconscious goal of “getting” from their clients or audience. They are not coming from a place of giving.

Many people have asked me over the years why I love to teach and speak.

I do what I do for the sole goal of expressing the gifts Spirit has given me, and for no other reason.

You shouldn’t be doing what you’re doing for any other reason either.

“Just Believe”,®

P.S: The Neagle Code: DIRECTIONS for LIFE is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.TheNeagleCode.com to participate.

P.P.S.: May I ask you to help me spread the word about this program? Is there someone you care for who is stuck, or struggling, or lost, or unhappy? Because if so, I would very much like to help. No matter their question, no matter their predicament, no matter if they’ve never heard of me before … if they would like to ask for help via www.TheNeagleCode.com, my Team and I will do our very best to provide that help.