How Not to Take “One Step Back”

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Anna.

Neagle Code Question

I’ve been quite successful recently. My business has grown and grossed more money than ever. I have higher net profits, and a strong vision for my goals and why I’m doing this.

However, I feel like I take a big step forward…then I take a step back. I end up with a “net” forward, but not as much as I’d like.

Why do I self-sabotage after doing really well?

Thanks!
Anna

Neagle Code Answer

Hi Anna,

Thanks for the question!

You have what’s called a “financial set point.”

We all have an internal compass that dictates how much money or success we’re allowed to have. It’s set at a certain level (based on our programming), and once we go past that level… it gets stuck.

That’s when you find yourself “taking a step back.”

To break through this, you must first understand what’s actually taking place in your mind.

Let’s say you start making a lot of money — far more than what you were programmed to make.

Your financial set point immediately kicks in.

Once your brain senses that you’re making more money… it runs away from that, because it thinks it’s not safe. (It’s unknown.)

Our mind hits this place where it goes, “You’re OK here. You can back off from whatever you were doing.” And you take your foot off the gas.

It will cause you to “not feel like doing the work today.”

It will cause you to “get depressed.” (Or sick. Or tired.)

It will create some kind of “extenuating circumstance” in your life — anything to knock you off the disciplined routine you have for earning.

Your internal financial “governor” is literally controlling your behavior.

It will bring you right back to wherever your “financial set point” is.

Before you know it, you’ve dropped back down, and it takes all your energy to get it back up. You get exhausted. It drops back even further. We go through this cycle our entire life… without realizing what’s going on.

(That’s why you’ll have one month where you make “the most money you’ve ever made before”… followed by a $0 month or several low months.)

In these moments, ask yourself, “Why I am taking my foot off the gas?”

The way to break through it is to keep going, no matter what.

Keep your eye on your goal.

You have to make an agreement with yourself that you’ll keep going — keep doing the actions needed to bring in the money — so that you can have a breakthrough.

The whole idea is that you never stop. You continually break through and take action to move you forward.

By doing this, you’re reprogramming your mind to believe there’s an abundance.

If you do this, then you’ll break through it forever.

Need some more help around this self-sabotage? Join me THIS TUESDAY for a free training I’m hosting titled: Stop Making Things Hard. I’ll be sharing how you can STOP this pattern and move into a place of ease and grace. CLICK HERE to register.

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The Fear of Success is a Smoke Screen

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

Can you please tell me how to get over the fear of success? I believe it’s what’s continually stopping me from hitting my goals!

Thank you so much!

Neagle Code Answer

Hi, and thanks for your question!

The truth is that no one is actually afraid of success. You fail every day.

That’s a false belief created by our ego.

If you were afraid of success, you’d never put your pants on in the morning because even putting your pants on is a success.

In reality, what people ARE afraid of is:

1) The fear of what they believe they will have to sacrifice to be successful. This is mainly true in regard to relationships. Are you afraid someone will leave?

2) The fear of what people will think if they were successful or wealthy. How would your family respond if you stood up and told them you decided to be insanely wealthy?

3) The fear of what people will think if they fail.

These are the top 3, but of course there are many other beliefs that keep us bound in chains and constantly striving for success yet never achieving it.

So you are correct.

You are sabotaging
your success.

Universal truth states that we create everything; all the good and bad, all the successes and all the failures.

So you need to get very clear on how never achieving the success you want keeps you safe.

I know you’re thinking, “No David, not having the success keeps me feeling unsafe, why would I not want success?”

And I would answer that you have to consider what belief is renting space in your brain, because if you wanted success as much as you wanted air to breath, you would have it.

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Why bother?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Carla T.

Neagle Code Question

David,

I’ve simply stopped setting goals. I resist even thinking about goals because my pattern is to not follow through. It’s happened so many times, that I think to myself, “Why bother…”

How do I finally break this pattern?

Thanks so much!

Neagle Code Answer

Thanks for the question!

I’m going to skip trying to understand why you’re sabotaging yourself and go right to the solution.

If you’re really committed to changing this, do exactly as I tell you below and sooner rather than later you’ll be on your way to success!

First, start with DAILY goals.

That’s right. We’re not talking about 6 and 12-month goals right now, we’re going to start small and build to strengthen your self-confidence muscle over time.

Tonight before you go to bed, take out your notebook and pen and right down

THREE things you MUST accomplish before
you go to bed tomorrow.

I recommend that these be income generating “things”, but it’s ultimately up to you. Sometimes it’s best to start REALLY small.

When you wake up tomorrow, put that list in front of you, and DO NOT GO TO BED THAT NIGHT until all 3 of those items are completed.

You must be disciplined here…do not allow yourself to make excuses and DO NOT GO TO BED until you’ve checked those three things off your list.

Do the same thing tomorrow night.

Write down three ”things” you need to accomplish the next day, and the next day, don’t go to sleep until all 3 things are accomplished.

Setting these small, yet important, goals are small stair steps to your bigger goal and to developing the discipline, confidence and trust within yourself to succeed in whatever you put your mind to.

Once you master the daily goals, begin setting weekly goals on top of your daily goals!

You’ll gain momentum quickly and break the pattern of not following through.

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How to stop yourself from ruining everything

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David!

I have followed you for awhile now and I am blown away. Your teachings allowed me to see an opportunity that was right in front of me for a LONG time. This opportunity has already put an additional $50,000 in my bank account. But now that I have the income I am feeling the pull of my psycho-cybernetic setting and I can feel resistance creeping in. I am so worried and scared that I am going to sabotage this opportunity and all the new income it brings- how can I stop it?

Neagle Code Answer

Hi and thanks for your question.

First of all, CONGRATS on the extra $50,000.00 in income. That’s fantastic, and something I enjoy watching my private clients discover for themselves as well.

The key thing to remember is that you CAN stop yourself from breaking down and sabotaging yourself. Immediately stop saying that you can’t.

The first step is to become aware of what beliefs are causing the worry.

Ask yourself why you are feeling worried and scared. From that answer, keep asking questions until you feel like you’ve hit the root issue. This will shine the light on the belief that’s allowing fear, worry and doubt to creep in.

Let the worst-case scenario play out.

Once a light is shined on the fear, you can respond to it.

For example, if you discover that your worry is coming from a place of what other people will think of you if you ruin everything, you can now address that fear for what it is.

If you shine the light on it and realize that your fear is coming from a place of wanting love and acceptance from other people, you can bring in the truth to remind yourself that what people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

This awareness helps neutralize the worry, because you can see it for what it is and understand your next area of growth. In the above instance, it would be strengthening your self-esteem so that you stop fearing judgment from others.

 

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Why the “fear of success” is a lie

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Bryan S.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

Can you please tell me how to get over the fear of success? I believe it’s what’s continually stopping me from hitting my goals!

Thank you so much!

Neagle Code Answer

Hi Bryan and thanks for your question!

The truth is that no one is actually afraid of success.

That’s a false lie created by our ego.

If you were afraid of success, you’d never put your pants on the in the morning, because even putting your pants on is a success.

In reality what people ARE afraid of is:

1) The fear of what they believe they will have to sacrifice to be successful. This is mainly true in regard to relationships.

2) The fear of what people will think if they were successful.

3) The fear of what people will think if they fail.

These are the top 3, but of course there are many other fears that keep us bound in chains and constantly striving for success yet never achieving it.

So you are correct, you are sabotaging your success.

Universal truth states that we create everything; all the good and bad, all the successes and all the failures.

So you need to get very clear on how never achieving the success you want keeps you safe.

I know you’re thinking, “No David, not having the success keeps me feeling unsafe, why would I not want success?”

And I would answer that you have to consider what fear is renting space in your brain, because if you wanted that success as much as you wanted air to breath, you would have it.

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PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

To niche or not to niche – doesn’t matter. Get out there!

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Rudi.

Neagle Code Question

I started my business as a life coach 4 years ago but I am not successful. I assume this is because I am confused a lot. I know so many techniques and have helped so many different people with equally different problems that I get confused the minute I think about defining a niche.

How can I get clarity and continue this work that I am truly good at? I can't bear the idea of going back to the corporate world.

Thanks for your help!

Neagle Code Answer

Hi Rudi and thanks for your question!

Confusion is a state of mind that chronically sabotages success. I see it all the time with entrepreneurs.

It usually pops up when someone has a fear of making a wrong choice or a mistake, so let’s look for the truth to bring you back on track.

My question for you is this: Why do you feel the need to define a niche?

I have a hunch that you heard somewhere that to have a successful business you need to niche.

And I couldn’t disagree more.

I see entrepreneurs running themselves out of business because they are trying to define a specific niche rather than spending time listening to their potential clients and speaking to large audiences.

My advice would be to stop trying to define a niche and instead get out there and help as many people as you can.

You’ll know when it’s time to niche, and you won’t be confused by it.

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Not a TOTAL failure? Then you’re not scared of success!

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.

Question:

How does one push aside the self sabotage that shows up at every step up? I am extremely intelligent and an expert in my field. I guide people well, and when the time comes for me to take the next step – with all eyes watching and applauding – I stop and walk in another direction, as if I'm shy. Others are speaking and touring and helping people and I am stuck standing in my own mud. I have been doing this “side step” for about 10 yrs now and I will be 50 next yr Feb '12. I am changing many things in my life now, I want to see glorious changes at the age of 50! I know I can do it, I think I need help, a sidekick? I don't know really or I would have done it by now. And yes, I kick myself constantly for not being more at this age.

Answer:

Thanks for submitting this question.

First, I want to invite you to applaud yourself for what you HAVE accomplished thus far in your life. Let go of the judgment of yourself, so you can see clearly what’s causing this pattern.

If you look to the Laws for the truth, you’ll find that you have created everything in your life, and you’ve created it for a reason.

On the surface, you might ask yourself why you’re afraid of success, but I’m sure you’ve succeeded in many different things before.

Most people don’t really fear success, they fear what success will bring.

Let me give you an example…

A woman (let’s call her Sarah), intellectually wants her business to be a huge success. She wants to help so many people and knows that she can be of service to so many, but yet, she stops herself from doing the things she needs to do. Subconsciously, she’s stopping herself because she knows that if she makes a great deal of money, it will allow her to make some difficult decisions. In Sarah’s case, it would allow her to move away from her family, something she’s wanted to do for a long time. However, Sarah is also very afraid to leave her family because she’s worried they’ll be upset, hurt, or think badly about her.

So her lack of success actually serves her.

It keeps her from having to make a difficult decision.

It enables her to avoid growth, which can be a little scary. Deep down she’s terrified of her family’s reaction if she is successful.

So, in your case, my suggestion is to really think about what you’d be able to do if you did finally step into your greatness. You must get to the bottom of the fear that’s causing you to stop, and then you must walk through that fear.

Sometimes this is really tough to see on your own. It’s difficult to see your blindspot, and that’s why working with a coach is so valuable. With the right questions, you can be led to the core of what’s causing you to stop.

Here’s my gift to you. If you’d like some help with this, my lead coach, Steph Tuss, would be happy to help you through it. Send an email to [email protected] and she’ll set up an appointment for the two of you to speak.

“Just Believe”,®

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