The Art of Success – Article #5 – Are You Responsible?

Are You Responsible?

Last week I wrote about we were born to be creators.

You create everything in your life, whether you’re aware of it or not.

Another key to success is to take 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING you create in your life…the good, the bad, the ugly, all of it. Otherwise, you’re a “victim.”

Do you take full responsibility for everything you create in your life?

Think about this carefully. How you answer this question shows you your level of awareness, and your ability to create what you want (as opposed to what you don’t want).

An “unaware” person generally doesn’t take responsibility for everything in their life.

Ask them what they’re unhappy about, and they’ll have a laundry list of complaints. They’ll most likely blame something (or someone) for their undesired experiences. Or they’ll make excuses and shift responsibility to something outside of themselves.

This can be obvious — like saying, “It’s so-and-so’s fault that XYZ happened to me.”

Or it can be more subtle, like “If the weather’s bad I won’t follow through on my commitment.” (In which case, you’re pre-blaming any bad weather in advance for your lack of follow-through.)

When you’re blaming, you’re not taking full responsibility for your life. Period.

From that stance, you’re a victim. As a victim, you can’t proactively change anything in your life, let alone create what you want.

Here’s the truth:


Everything that’s currently in your life…
you put there.

Whether consciously or subconsciously…
you put it there.


It’s your life, after all.

Maybe you didn’t mean to put something there, and it showed up anyway. Great. How you choose to react to it will determine your experience.

If you don’t love a situation in your life, how can you change it?

My favorite question to ask in such cases is:

“Why am I choosing to have this experience/result/outcome?” (A victim would never ask that. They’d be too busy blaming and fuming about their results.)

Asking this question instantly puts you back in the driver’s seat of your own life.

If you’re willing to accept 100% responsibility for everything you’re creating, you can make phenomenal changes in your life.

Doors will open wide for you. It will seem like “magic,” but it’s really just one of the key elements of being a successful person.

That includes taking responsibility for every thought, feeling, and action you take.

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When your spouse doesn’t share your money mindset

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’ve been studying your teachings for some time now, but my husband has no interest in wealth mindset. We both have very different beliefs around spending and it’s starting to create some problems for us, especially when we plan trips or larger purchases (like furniture). Do you have any suggestions on how to navigate this?

Neagle Code Answer

If you and your spouse have different beliefs around money, I recommend that you both start taking responsibility for yourselves.

Make your own money, have your own banking accounts, and split the joint bills and expenses.

If you want to save for a trip and he doesn’t, go without him or offer to cover the cost of the trip, but be prepared for him to do the same.

So many couples struggle with money, especially if one partner makes more than the other. Sometimes it works great and other times it’s incredibly disempowering for the person who is not the breadwinner.

If you feel like your decisions are limited by your husband’s money mindset, you need to have a heart to heart conversation with him, and let him know that from now on, you’ll both be responsible for the bills, but that everything else will go into separate accounts.

This gives him the freedom to do what he wants with his income, and it gives you the freedom as well.

It’s against the Universal Laws to ask him to change. This way, you’ll both have the freedom to believe what you want about money, and spend and save as you wish.

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How can the Law of Cause and Effect help me make more sales?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I just listened to your training on the Law of Cause and Effect. On that call, you said we needed to take responsibility for everything because we are the initial cause of everything. I’m really stuck on something. If I’m 100% responsible for my sales, how do I make someone say yes to me?

Neagle Code Answer

Hi and thanks for your question!

The short answer is you can’t make someone say yes to you, and if you did you’d actually be breaking the Universal Laws.

The problem here is that you’re asking the wrong question. Instead of asking how can you make someone buy, you should be asking:

“Who do I need to be to hit my financial goals?” This you CAN take responsibility for.

• You can choose to show up in a spirit of service.

• You can choose to control your thinking to only focus on what you desire rather than what you don’t.

• You can choose to be the cause of the success you want.

• You can choose to really get out there, talk to people, engage in strategy sessions, and be your best self.

• You can choose to master the sales conversation so that you become a center of influence rather than a manipulator.

• You can choose to use the Laws correctly so that you hit your goals with ease and grace.

• You see money comes from Spirit through people…not from people. When you are attached to a sale, you are attached to a person, rather than being your best self.

When you focus on being that best self, and you are in control of your thinking, emotions and actions, Spirit will send you the opportunities to bring in the money, and it may not always come through the person you think it will.

Your question is extremely timely because:

I’m teaching the truth found in all the Universal Laws over the next several months in 4 different cities across the US.

I invite you to join me at a location of your choice to really begin to master these Laws and drastically change the results you’re getting in your business. Click here: www.IncomeAccelerationLaws.com to get all the details you need to get started!

 

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How to trust after a betrayal

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Richard.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David!

I have had someone that I trusted embezzle money from me, and I just can’t let it go. I know it’s negatively affecting my business. Any suggestions on how I can move past this and create from a positive place again?

Thanks so much!

Neagle Code Answer

Hi Richard!

I know how you feel.

I had something similar happen to me several years ago.

To get through it I had to look to the truth.

And the truth is that we create everything in our life…all the good and all the bad. And we create everything for a reason.

The first step in forgiving your business partner is to take responsibility for your part in it.

Ask yourself: What did this situation have to teach me?

Find the hidden gifts and lessons that you need to see, and be grateful for them.

The second step is to let go of that money knowing that you can put your efforts into creating it again, but this time from a better, more prepared and healthy place.

If you continue to see yourself as a victim of this situation, you will continue to be unforgiving and angry

If you can see this situation from an empowered place, everything will shift and you’ll feel the peace you’re looking for.

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PS: The Neagle Code: Directions for Life is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone! Each week, I'll select and personally respond to one question received via the above “The Neagle Code” page that I feel in my heart will help the most people. (You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.) It is my deep, heartfelt intention that ~ in answering your questions ~ I may provide you with the Universal Truths that in committed application, will set you free. Simply submit YOUR burning question at: www.DavidNeagle.com/ask-david to participate.

[Fast Cash Formula Series] Article #5 ~ Why Do You Need What You Need?

I told you last time that bringing in “your need” consistently is the key to getting what you want.

Your need is the amount to the penny that it takes to pay your bills each month. So, it’s your rent or mortgage, food, clothes, current business expenses, health insurance, monthly debt payment, and so on.

But it's also more than that.

Your need is your reality.

It’s a snapshot of where you are, and it offers unparalleled opportunity for insight and freedom.

What's the Story in that Snapshot?

To understand what your need is telling you, begin by calculating it. It's easy. Start with your accounting software or just pull out your check book, get a calculator, and add up the total of your bills. If your expenses vary drastically from month to month, just average the past several months.

After you have tallied your need, I want you to identify why you need that amount.

In other words, why do you have those particular bills?

You need what you need for a reason. You created the situation or circumstances in your life that you need that money for.

Chances are that situation is not a new story in your life. It’s a recurring story and may be a recurring story in your family as well.

For example, let’s say your need of $7,232.13 includes a $5,000 monthly mortgage payment and you and your spouse only bring in $6,000 a month. Let’s also say that you didn’t want to buy this house. You knew it was too expensive, but your spouse insisted, lied on your mortgage application to get it, and now you’re struggling every month.

You now have the opportunity to change that story forever. How? By taking responsibility for it.

Take Responsibility for Your Need

If you blame your spouse for buying the house, not only are you not seeing the situation clearly, but you’re powerless to change it.

However, when you take responsibility for the purchase, you may realize that you regularly allow your spouse’s judgment to override your own, and then retaliate with resentment and anger. That way, you get to be right and the victim. You may also recognize that lack, struggle, power plays and dishonesty were prevalent in your childhood as well.

This is great news, because now that you have acknowledged all of that and taken responsibility for creating it, you are empowered to change the situation.

You stand up to your spouse and begin to create a new story that can bring you prosperity, fulfilling relationships and growth.

And it all began with a simple calculation. So pull out your check register, and get started.

 

David Neagle, The Million Dollar Income Acceleration Mentor and author of The Millions Within, teaches entrepreneurs and commission-based sales professionals how to quantum leap their current incomes past the 7-figure income level, often in less than 12 months. As a world-class speaker, sales trainer, and success-mindset mentor to some of the globe’s top CEOs, David also privately mentors big decision-makers in their pursuit of quantum success and peace of mind.