Tag: trust

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Hi David!

I'm trying to repair damage with a friend. I have forgiven them and moved past the hurt, but I don't trust them. Is this negative? Is this holding me back from moving forward?

Hi David,

I could really use your help with something. With the Holidays being in full swing, I know that I’m going to have to spend time with a family member who has done something hurtful to me this past year that proved to be very untrustworthy. I’m over the hurt (I think), but I do not trust them, and really don’t want to BE with them. I don’t want our brief time spent together to negatively affect my business. Do you have any suggestions?

Thanks for the question!

I’m going to skip trying to understand why you’re sabotaging yourself and skip right to the solution.

If you’re really committed to changing this, do exactly as I tell you below and sooner rather than later you’ll be on your way to success!

First, start with DAILY goals.

That’s right. We’re not talking about 6 and 12-month goals right now, we’re going to start small and build to strengthen your self-confidence muscle over time.

Tonight before you go to bed, take out your notebook and pen and right down THREE things you MUST accomplish before you go to bed tomorrow.

I recommend that these be income generating “things”, but it’s ultimately up to you.

When you wake up tomorrow, put that list in front of you, and DO NOT GO TO BED THAT NIGHT until all 3 of those items are completed.

Do the same thing tomorrow night. Write down three ”things” you need to accomplish the next day, and the next day, don’t go to sleep until all 3 things are accomplished.

Setting these small, yet important, goals are small stair steps to your bigger goal and to developing the discipline and trust within yourself to succeed in whatever you put your mind to.

Once you master the daily goals, begin setting weekly goals on top of your daily goals!

You’ll gain momentum quickly and break the pattern of not following through.

Hi Deon and thanks for the question.

The concept of trust is interesting, and the more I speak to entrepreneurs, the more I see how their lack of understanding of trust leads to sabotage.

You see, trust MUST be earned.

To trust blindly in others is sheer ignorance.

Let me explain.

When you are building a team, you have to assume the role of leader.

A good leader interviews and screens potential hires carefully and strategically.

References are always checked.

After the hire is made, the leader gives the new team member opportunities to earn the leader’s trust until they have proven to be trustworthy.

This is your business, it’s your responsibility, and I see so many entrepreneurs hand over the keys to their business to people who have not demonstrated that they can be trusted.

Do your part to make sure the team members you are bringing into your business are a good fit, and be willing to give them opportunities to showcase their gifts and earn your trust at the same time.

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Aubrey Raiford. 

Question:

Answer:

Hi Aubrey!

People must earn your trust.

It is not something that you give freely.

Whether we are talking about your family, friends, or random people in your neighborhood, to trust people blindly and implicitly is never a good decision, especially if they've shown you that they cannot be trusted.

If someone has not earned your trust, or has broken your trust in the past, you can love them for who they are, but ultimately you have to make a decision about whether or not you want to spend time with them and share your life with them.

The only way your family can hold you back is if you make decisions based on what they think, rather than what you want.

If you find yourself caring more about what someone else thinks than what you think, you are holding yourself back.

Lastly, I want you to understand that if someone has broken your trust, chances are you've done the same thing to someone else and this situation is simply a mirror for you.

Remember you attract everything in your life from a place of who you are being, and to not take responsibility for part of the situation will only keep it alive and painful.

If you can see the truth in what happened, it will set you free.

“Just Believe”,^®

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