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Why is My Old Trauma Still Causing Issues Today?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

When I was in my early twenties, one of my brothers died in an accident. I blacked out every minute of the two weeks following that event. We had just immigrated to a new country, and the stress level was pretty high.

Today, I have digestive issues and other health problems, which I think are a result of that event. I assume my body went into survival mode and changed how I digest food. I’ve struggled with these same issues for 30+ years now, even though I no longer feel anything emotionally. I’ve seen every doctor, naturopath, and alternative health practitioner you can imagine. I live healthy, so there’s no reason why it shouldn’t work. How do I reverse this?

Neagle Code Answer

There’s definitely a reason why nothing is working. I would first look at: How is this serving you to still have this issue?

That’s the reason why the health problems are still there.

To cut to the chase…in some way, it’s keeping you safe. It’s keeping you from being, doing, having, expressing, and remembering. It’s doing something to keep you safe. So it becomes a reason NOT to do something else. The question is…what is that?

I recommend reading “The Betrayal Bond” by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. It’s about trauma bonding, which is based on the initial traumas that were set up in our childhood. Some of them were big, some were small, some were multiple—but either way, it keeps us in relationship to things based on the idea of trauma.

You’re in relationship to your digestive system and the outside world based on trauma bonding.

Whenever someone has a trauma in their life, the mind will wire itself in such a way where it becomes hyper-vigilant. It tries to keep an eye out for anything that might put you in a place where you’re vulnerable to that type of trauma again. There’s no logic behind this—it’s just how our mind works.

In the book, he takes you through a series of processes where you re-establish:

  • What were the initial traumas that occurred?
  • How has it actually benefiting you in your life right now?

It’s quite a process to go through. If I were you, I’d get a physical copy of the book and also listen to it, and do the actual work that’s in the book.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

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Can NLP and Hypnosis Help with Anxiety?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’ve struggled with anxiety forever, and I’m realizing how much it’s controlled me. Can hypnosis and NLP help with this? I’ve been reading self-hypnosis books. I’ve had some good days where I felt so free—feelings I’ve never felt before—and my anxiety doesn’t last all day.

But I also have really dark feelings that are more pronounced. The low cycles are hard to deal with. You’ve mentioned when someone gets close to breaking through a pattern, the darker feelings can get more acute. What’s the best way to deal with that, other than just concentrating on what’s working?

Neagle Code Answer

First off, you might want to get a medical check-up to make sure the anxiety isn’t being caused by a physical issue. Especially for men, if your hormones are off, you can have terrible anxiety problems.

Outside of that, anxiety often comes also from not expressing something. Humans are meant to express what they’re feeling and work through those feelings. If you’re suppressing how you feel—especially when it comes to fear or worry—those feelings will be expressed as anxiety through the body.

  • What do you need to express?
  • What unmet needs do you need to address?
  • What do you need now?

When you’re changing anything on the subconscious level, anxiety can come up as you’re making those changes. The subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Everything it doesn’t have a pattern for is considered “the unknown.”

Anxiety is a way of stopping a person from moving forward. If we feel really anxious about something, we’re not going to want to move forward on it.

There’s no issue with using self-hypnosis or things like NLP to speed up the process of positive change. If you’re 45 years old and you want to change several negative patterns you’ve established for the last 45 years, you don’t want it to take a whole lifetime to do that.

NLP and hypnosis can help you gain the awareness to really sink it into your subconscious mind. Those tools work to help us get a foothold in the direction we want to go. They can increase confidence, help you relax, process information, rebuild your self-esteem, and change your self-image. These are all fantastic. I recommended these things right from the beginning of anyone’s journey.

Self-suggestion is great—it’s relaxing, and you’re doing it in a hypnotic state where you’re giving yourself the induction to allow it to happen faster. You’re shutting down your conscious mind, which is where your inductive reasoning factor is. If you shut that off, you won’t get any pushback from your subconscious mind. You’re just allowing the positive ideas to go right in. It’s like supercharging where you want to go.

For bigger issues in life, going through the actual work of making the change and developing the awareness around it makes a big difference. It gives us a different foundation of thinking and processing that you don’t get with NLP or hypnosis alone. But for small things, NPL and hypnosis are great to start off that foundation.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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How Do I make the Money I REALLY Want?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

My question is around raising our “need line.” I’ve heard you say we always get what we need, and we have to raise our need line first before we can significantly increase our income. What I need to make is $35K a month. But my goal (what I want) is to make $100K a month.

Back when you picked your goal of making $50K a month, what were you planning to spend the money on? Did you do anything to raise your need line, so that you HAD to make $50K a month? Did you back-engineer to get to that number?

Neagle Code Answer

Great question. I don’t think there was anything specific that I needed to spend that money on.

At that point in time, I had already moved beyond the idea of spending money on a specific thing. My focus was on bootstrapping my business, so I needed more money in general to advance the company.

I was doing a tremendous amount of traveling, and it was all first class. I needed to expand my team and hire the people who I needed to hire.

I also needed a larger amount of money consistently, so that I wasn’t chasing as many sales on a regular basis. I was spending all my time on the phone, making sales, and it still wasn’t enough at the end of the month. It didn’t matter how many hours I spent making calls—I still didn’t have enough money at the end of the month. So I needed to balance that more in my life and my business.

I was like, “This is insane. I’ve got to change this.” The change came from needing to leverage how much I was actually making per sale, so that I had more to work with.

I didn’t back-engineer to get to my goal of $50K a month. I just picked that number because it was a simple idea of turning my annual income into a monthly income. I really wanted to make that quantum leap. Bob Proctor is the one who put that idea into my head.

One of the cool things about turning your annual income into a monthly income is, it’s already working within an established belief system.

You already believe you can make that amount of money—you’re changing the timeframe in which you earn that money.

You already have the belief that you can make your income annually. Why is that important? Because most of us don’t have negative connotations when it comes to time, not like we do with money. So we’re not changing the belief around the money; we already believe we can earn it.

We’re changing the belief around the timeframe in which we earn it, which is a big difference. And that allows people to make that quantum leap much easier.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation, and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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What “Spirit” Really Means…

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

In the book, “The Science of Being Great,” Wallace Wattles says “Nothing that is possible in spirit is impossible in flesh and blood.”

I’m confused about the word “spirit.” Does he mean imagination?—like what I can imagine through the power of the spirit? Does he mean possibility? Or does he mean God’s power?

Also, when I’m imagining, am I creating or receiving? Is it me moving the particles in the universe, or am I just opening up to receive what already exists?

Neagle Code Answer

I think “spirit” means all three of those things—imagination, possibility, and God’s power.

When you’re imagining something, you’re tapping into the universal intelligence. You can call it “spirit,” “energy,” “God,” or whatever you want to call it. When you tap into that, there’s infinite possibility. Nothing is impossible.

To answer your second question about imagination… when you’re imagining something, you’re opening up to receive what already exists in the universe. But you’re arranging the particles based on the correlation and the clarity of your imagination.

For example, if the image in your head is fuzzy, vague, or confused—you’ll get fuzzy, vague, or confused results.

But if the image of your imagination is crystal clear—and you can see it, hear it, feel it, taste it, or touch it—then you’re “arranging the particles” in a more powerful way. The universe responds to your clarity of vision.

The clearer your image is (in your imagination), the more you’ll receive what matches that.

If you want to understand this more, read “Your Invisible Power” by Genevieve Behrend. She talks about visualization at the beginning of the book and does a beautiful job with it.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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How Do I Handle My Crazy Work Load?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Ron. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

How do I stop distraction? My mind is constantly pulling me in 10 different directions. I’ll study something you’re saying—then my mind drifts off…or my phone lights up and I get thrown off track.

Also, now that everything is open, my business is getting crazy. I’m trying to stay disciplined and stick to what’s on my calendar. But there are so many things I need to do that, and I keep getting off track. It makes me frustrated. There’s not enough hours in the day to get everything done, and my whole timing gets thrown off. Can you help?

Neagle Code Answer

There are a few things I’d suggest.

First of all, shut off the phone. Put it in a different room, away from you, and just turn it off.

Secondly, when it comes to studying, most people experience what you’re experiencing. When they’re reading or listening to something, their mind will go on a thought trip, based on something that grabbed their attention. They’ll start thinking about what they’re experiencing in the moment.

That’s why I encourage you to listen to things, and read things more than once. That’s the process of study.

Right now, your mind has a lot of unanswered questions… which I think is great.

Stop beating yourself up over it. I think you need to be a bit more calm and patient with yourself. Listen to the audios as many times as you need to, until you run the brain out of those questions, so you’re satisfied with the answers.

You’re doing fine. You really are. But calm down a little bit. Take a deep breath. Try to be as present as you can with whatever you’re doing.

Make the world start to conform to YOU, instead of you being pulled in so many directions by what’s happening around you.

Thirdly, when it comes to your business, you need help. Maybe it’s time to hire someone in the specific areas where you need help. Get an assistant or hire somebody.

That’s part of the challenge of being in business—is having to hire (and sometimes fire) people. Welcome to being in business.

Many business owners get hung up on, “How am I going to pay this person?” And so, they suffer and complain and don’t hire the person.

There’s no other answer. You can only do so much. Why be miserable? Just hire someone. If you have to lay them off in a month because things slow back down again, then you lay them off. That’s the nature of life.

But seriously, try to calm yourself and ask:

How can this be fun?

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice, and meet others who value truth and growth!
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What’s the Process for Getting Unstuck?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

What do I need to do to get unstuck? Is stepping into gratitude all that’s required?

Neagle Code Answer

Great question!

To answer this, I’ll quote something from “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace D. Wattles.

In Chapter 7 on Gratitude, in the 13th line, he says:

“The whole process of mental adjustment and atonement can be summed up in one word: gratitude. First, you believe there is one Intelligent Substance, from which all things proceed. Secondly, you believe that this Substance gives you everything you desire. Thirdly, you relate yourself to it through a feeling of deep and profound gratitude.”

That’s it—that’s the process for getting unstuck.

When you’re stuck, it’s usually because you’re not viewing something accurately.

Getting unstuck is about adjusting your mind and shifting your outlook. (He calls this “mental adjustment and atonement.”) Atonement is simply correcting an error such as an error in thinking.

You bring yourself back to the awareness that “one Intelligent Substance” exists (i.e., God or the Universe and everything in it).

You see yourself as being a part of that “Intelligent Substance,” not outside of it. (Nothing can exist outside of God or the universe.)

And finally, you feel a sense of gratitude that everything you want is already here.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! This October 2021, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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Are We All Energetically Connected?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I intellectually understand the concept of karma, oneness, and universal energetic connection—that we’re all connected. Sometimes I’ll think of someone, and they’ll suddenly call me. Other than that, I don’t fully believe or trust that I’m connected with everyone else. I don’t feel that in my body. I continually doubt that it’s true. Am I supposed to feel it?

Neagle Code Answer

When we’re talking about being connected, I think it’s more of an awareness than a feeling.

We’re all energetically connected. Each of us is part of the same wholeness that we call the “universe,” God, spirit, or whatever you want to call it. None of us are outside of that creation.

This has to do with the law of vibration. There’s no mark of demarcation between one physical object and another.

What we call “space” is actually a place for energy.

Imagine your body as a universe—not the universe, but a universe. Picture all the little cells inside of you, seeing themselves as individual from you. They’re not individual from you. They live inside you. They’re part of you. It’s all part of you. But they’re also a thing outside of you.

You and I are connected right now, not because you’re reading this article, because we’re all connected through energy. You’re connected to everybody that way.

This doesn’t mean you “feel” that, or you feel everybody. It’s more of a conscious understanding. You might be misconstruing the terminology or the study of the law of vibration.

Telepathy is 100% real—where you think of someone and they call you. It can totally happen. There have probably been many times when you thought about a person, but you didn’t act on the thought.

Have you ever asked yourself, “I wonder why that person popped into my mind just now?” Probably because they were thinking of you.

But they wouldn’t know you’re thinking about them if you didn’t take the action on it.

I’ll think of several people of the blue whom I haven’t thought about for a long time—and I know the only reason I’m thinking about them is because they’re probably thinking about me, and I’m picking up on it.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
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I Taught My Kids Wrong…Now What?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’ve raised three children with my middle-class mindset. I taught them to go to school, get a good degree, have a good major, get a job — and all three of them have done that, and aren’t exactly happy.

So now what do I do? How do I go about saying, “Hey, everything I taught to you was pretty much BS. Sorry.” What kinds of conversations can I have with them? I try to throw in some of the things I’ve learned from you.

Neagle Code Answer

That’s funny. I would just talk to them about what they want out of life. Don’t worry about correcting them.

They have to find their own path. This was their path — being raised by you and having you teach them about life was their path.

Now they have to find their own path.

It’s not your job to correct what you told them in the past.

It’s their path to move forward.

It’s the same thing I tell everybody: be an example for your children, because they watch you more than they listen to you. Just talk to them about what they want out of life. Most people don’t do that. Give them that ear.

If you find a way you can help them, like recommending a book or a seminar, go ahead and do that.

And always remember… if they aren’t asking for help… don’t give it!

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! This October 2021, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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Why is My Vision Unclear?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Elizabeth. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’m having a bit of a crisis. I’m trying to grow my business. I know I want to be paid for the services I offer and what I’m worth. However, I’m having trouble clarifying what my vision is. I have an idea of what I want, but it’s so blurry and vague. I feel a little lost.

I grew up with the idea that you’re not supposed to want anything. Wanting is bad. I know that’s not true. But I don’t know how to get past that. Maybe I’m not letting myself think about my vision, because I think it’s impossible?

Neagle Code Answer

Thanks so much for this GREAT question!

It starts out that way for everybody. Everybody goes through that initial phase where their vision is blurry and vague. You have to do the work though, because it’s not going to do it for you.

You have to focus on your vision and keep bringing it into clarity.

Take what you know now and write it down. Then keep adding to it and make it clearer, until you have a crystal-clear vision of what you want.

Let yourself imagine and fantasize about what you want. That’s what our imagination is for. That’s how you refine your vision.

Our desire is what guides us in the right direction in life. It’s God, spirit, or the universe trying to speak through you. If you find yourself thinking desire is bad because of how you were raised, just switch your thinking.

You’ve got to snap yourself out of this hypnosis here. You’re choosing to think the way you think.

It’s not happening to you — you’re choosing it.

You have to engage your ability to choose — choose to think differently. You have to practice this until it becomes easier. The only way for it to become easier is to practice doing it over and over again. There’s no trick out there that will make you not be pulled towards your past.

Your paradigm has almost exclusive control over your habitual behavior. The only way to change it is by you choosing to think something else. Immerse yourself in good information as much as you possibly can, so that you can change the entire paradigm.

When you recognize it, say, “Next. I’m not going to tolerate that. I’m going to think something else.

You’ve got to play hardball with yourself. Self-pity is not allowed here.

This is a no self-pity zone.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
  • Join me at The Art of Success Virtual Summit! This October 2021, I'm getting a group of amazing business owners for 3 days to work on exponentially growing their business.

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Is It Good to Save Money?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’ve heard you say money is currency, and it’s not meant to be held onto forever. So I was curious, how do you pair that mindset with saving money, diversifying, and investing? Those things are important too, right?

Neagle Code Answer

I don’t “save” money. With everything I do, I invest money. My money’s moving all the time. For the most part, my money is in a place where it’s doing some kind of good. It’s being put to work for me.

I invest in things that will grow myself, and/or my business—things that will pay off either immediately or at some point in the future.

I don’t hang on to money from the aspect of being afraid that I won’t have any.

That thought doesn’t ever cross my mind. I know that I can always make more money if I need it.

As far as diversifying and investing your money into different things, I think that’s an intelligent thing to do, for sure.

Sound financial principles are about growing your money, preserving the principle, and putting it to work for you.

P.S. Whenever you're ready… here are 3 ways I can help you grow YOUR business:

  • Listen to The Successful Mind Podcast. Three times per week I drop cutting edge information and strategies relating to success mindset, leadership, wealth creation and relationships.
  • Join other like-minded small business owners in my Transformation Facebook Group! Allow us to be a place to share ideas, get advice and meet others who value truth and growth!
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