Tag: authority

Very few of us were taught to listen to our own voice, especially when it conflicted with the people who raised us.

As a result, most people continue to look to others for who they should be, what they should want, and how they should live their lives.

They never step into their own authority.

The self-confidence that they were born with lies in tatters.

And they never discover what they are truly capable of being or doing.

I think that’s criminal. And that’s why I’ve spent the past few months teaching you my five-step process for rebuilding your natural self-confidence.

Now, before I close this series, I want to leave you with one last teaching and a tool

Confidence Is a Decision
You could spend a lifetime getting ready to be your own authority, but that, alone, does nothing.

You have to make a decision.

You have to draw a line in the sand and say: “Enough! No one knows what I want better than I do. No one else is in charge of me but me.”

To help you make your decision clear and firm, I want you to create your own Circle of Self-Authority. It will only take a couple of minutes, but, as I’ll explain, its results can be far-reaching.

My Circle of Self-Authority

Fill in the spaces below.

This is who I am and what I stand for:

___________________________________________

This is what I want in my life:

___________________________________________

This is what I aspire to be, do or have:

___________________________________________

These are the experience I want to have in my life:

___________________________________________

This is how much money I want to make:

___________________________________________

This is how I want to give back to others in my life:

___________________________________________

This is also important to me:

___________________________________________

Your Rallying Cry to the Universe
Now, stand behind your list.

Allow everything in your life to emanate from it.

Let it determine who your friends and associates are, what you will and won’t tolerate, what agreements you will make, what direction you will go in, even where you choose to go on vacation.

If you stand behind yourself like that, not only will your self-confidence soar, but the universe will hear your firm decision as a rallying cry and begin to bring to you the experiences and people and opportunities that you’ve decided to have

In addition, your list will help you separate the wheat from the chaff.

We’re all bombarded with offers every day. If we’re not vigilant and focused on our goals, we can very easily get pulled off by the next, new shiny object into one direction after another that doesn’t serve us.

However, with your clear set of parameters about who you are and what you want, assessing new opportunities is easy.

Just ask yourself, “Does this move me closer to my goal?” If yes, consider it.

If not, walk away, secure in the knowledge that everything you need and want is on its way.

And your next step toward the future you’ve chosen is right around the corner.

Last time, I told you that in order to develop unshakeable self-confidence, you have to be in control of you. You have to be your own authority.

That makes sense, doesn’t it?

If you’re listening to someone else, you’re not listening to yourself.

You’re ceding your own authority, looking outside of yourself for answers; when, in fact, everything you need to know comes from within.

You Know Best
YOU know better than anyone else who you are and what you need.

But until you recognize that truth, and step into your own authority, you will never lead yourself to a place of 100% self-confidence.

And the steps I’m going to show you over the next few weeks to develop that self-confidence won’t have the desired effect.

So before I move on to that first step, I want you to take this simple quiz to determine if you are in control of yourself and, if not, who is:

Quiz

Are You in Control of You?

1. Do you have the desire to do something that you’re not doing?

Yes or No?

If you answered yes, something or someone else is in control of you. It really is as simple as that.

2. When you feel like doing something, do you tend to talk yourself out of it?

Yes or No?

If you answered yes, again, you’re putting someone else’s agenda over yours.

3. If you aren’t in control of yourself, ask yourself, “Who is?”

Is it a parent? Religious leader? Your spouse?

Whose voice is drowning out your own internal voice?

Who is telling you who you are, what you should be doing, where you should be going and how you should be doing it?

Your inner wisdom is right there for you, trying to guide you in all ways, but most people just aren’t listening.

Fortunately, you have a choice.

Make a Decision
You have the power right now to make a decision that from here on, you’re going to be your own authority and let no one else control you but you.

You have the power to start listening to your internal voice and follow its guidance.

You have the power to say, “This is who I am. This is what I want. This is who I want to be in my life. These are the experiences I want to have. This is how much money I want to make. And here are the ways I want to give back to others in my life.”

Because the truth is, you choose who has the power in your life. And you always have.

I say, choose you.

Be in control of you.

Be your own authority, and you will rekindle the self-confidence that is your birthright.