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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous. 

I’ve noticed I have a subtle, mental habit of worrying about whether or not I’ll hit my targets. Sometimes I hit them, sometimes I don’t. Even though I’ve hit certain goals, I didn’t hit my revenue targets.

This has been going on for a while — two years of not hitting my targets.

I’m over it. I’m done worrying. I’m not sure if it’s doubt, or a lack of trust that I can take action? Maybe I distrust my team and their ability to follow through. I’m not the managerial type. Is it that I’m just setting the wrong targets?

Who or what are you blaming for not hitting your targets?

I know you’re blaming something, because you’re not saying, “I chose not to hit my targets.” You’re saying, “I didn’t hit them.”

You’re either leaving it up to chance, or you’re choosing not to hit your targets.

In some subtle way in your mind, you’re blaming it on something — not enough time, not enough people, something.

If you’re going to overcome this, you have to look at what are you actually blaming.

In order to do something you haven’t done before, you have to take full ownership of the result.

You have to look at what the real issue is…

On some level, you chose not to hit the target.

I’ve always found that if someone sets a goal, and they’re not reaching it year after year — some part of them doesn’t want to look at what the real problem is and make the change.

Whether it’s something you have to do — like firing or hiring new people on the team — there’s something you’re resisting changing. You’re not looking at it, or you don’t want to see it.

It’s either too much work, or it feels risky.

Get really get honest with yourself, so that at least you’re not tormenting yourself.

Worry is a trick of your subconscious mind to make you think you’re doing something productive, when you’re not… and it serves one primary purpose:

To keep you small, and EXACTLY where you are.

Join me this Tuesday for a FREE 60-minute mini-course I’ve created called: Stop Playing Small. I’m going deep on the topic of how our own minds are programmed to stay small, keep quiet and play it safe. I’ll be sharing exactly what you can do to shift OUT of that paradigm and hit those targets time after time.  CLICK HERE to join me!

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Playing the blame game?

We live in a society that’s steeped in blame.

Had a bad day? Blame your boss. Bad mood? Blame your spouse. Feeling irritated? Blame the guy who cut you off in traffic.

It’s considered “normal” to blame.

As a life strategy, this may have worked for you as a kid. (“It’s Johnny or Mary’s fault all the cookies are gone!”)…and you may have gotten away with it.

…But blaming doesn’t have any place in your adult life. Not if you want to create a magnificent life.

It simply reinforces the idea that you’re a “victim” of your circumstances (which is not true).

Blaming is one of the most disempowering things you could ever do, because it implies that someone else is responsible for your results.

…which brings me to today’s question: Who exactly is responsible for your thoughts?

As adults, we’re responsible for what we turn over to our subconscious mind. However, we were NOT responsible for what was placed in our subconscious minds as small children.

Prior to the age of 7, we had no conscious mind developed. As children, we had no ability to question, analyze, or reject an idea. We accepted everything we were exposed, and those thoughts, ideas and experiences became fixed in there (like water pouring into an open fishbowl).

All those ideas, emotions, opinions, experiences, and evaluations of life eventually became the raw materials for your current belief system.

As you grew up, that belief system began to express itself in the way you thought, acted, and carried yourself…well into your adult life.

Here’s the kicker: Something you could not reject at age 4 could still be running your life today, and you may not even be aware of it.

So, who’s responsible for what’s currently in your subconscious mind today?

Really think about that.

You can’t change history. However, you now have a conscious mind, which means you’re free to reject thoughts that no longer serve you.

It’s now YOUR responsibility to examine your beliefs and ideas and decide what can stay and what must go.

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