This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
Why have I attracted abuses into my life?
My earliest memories are of being ‘picked on' by my peers. I've also been abused by bosses and authority figures. I've been pushed around by clients who refuse to pay for work I’ve fulfilled.
Even my spouse mistreats me at times, speaking to me as if I were a child, treating me like I am not capable of the simplest things.
You teach that we have to take personal responsibility for everything in our lives, but what could I possibly have done to ask for this?
Hi and thanks for the GREAT question!
The answer to this lies in the fact that at some point in your life, you gave your power away.
Sometimes this happens slowly due to a gradually escalating abusive relationship, and sometimes it happens when we are children and we don’t even really realize we had power to begin with.
The beauty of the situation is that this keeps showing up in your life to get you to see that you need to take your power back and STEP into being POWERFUL.
Abusers don’t want anything to do with a powerful person, because they can sense the strength at an energetic level.
In order to take your power back, I suggest that you make a list of ALL the things you are tolerating in your life, and then one by one either shift them or eliminate them.
This is non-negotiable! If you’re tolerating it, it MUST change.
Being a victim may have served a purpose in your past, but it certainly is not serving you now.
You must also begin to set boundaries with the people in your life. You need to tell them what you will no longer tolerate.
The next time someone belittles you or verbally abuses you, stop them and tell them that you will no longer tolerate being spoken to that way and remove yourself from the situation.
OK, now it’s up to you…step into your power and then GO KICK SOME ASS!
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