How to handle family members who have broken your trust

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Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I could really use your help with something. With the Holidays being in full swing, I know that I’m going to have to spend time with a family member who has done something hurtful to me this past year that proved to be very untrustworthy. I’m over the hurt (I think), but I do not trust them, and really don’t want to BE with them. I don’t want our brief time spent together to negatively affect my business. Do you have any suggestions?

Neagle Code Answer


If someone has not earned your trust, or has broken your trust in the past, you can love them for who they are, but ultimately you have to make a decision about whether or not you want to spend time with them and share your life with them.

Trust should ALWAYS be earned.

The only way your family member can hold you back is if you make decisions based on what they think, rather than what you want.

If you find yourself caring more about what someone else thinks rather than what you think, you are holding yourself back.

But here is the most important lesson for you:

I want you to understand that if someone has broken your trust, chances are you’ve done the same thing to someone else and this situation is simply a mirror for you.

Remember you attract everything in your life from a place of who you are being, and to not take responsibility for part of the situation will only keep it alive and painful.

If you can see the truth in what happened, it will set you free.


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