This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
How do you deal with haters? I recently received a scathing email from someone who STRONGLY disagreed with an opinion that I posted to social media. It was blatantly abusive and attacked me personally… so I guess you could say it wasn’t exactly constructive criticism.
My first reaction was fear. My fear of judgment kicked in, and I even had a physical response! Thankfully I was able to get past it and back on track, but how do you deal with these intense, paralyzing fears?
The only way to “deal” with fear is to shine a light on it so that you can see that it’s a lie and then continue onward in spite of the feelings.
I know you’ve heard me say this before, but Spirit does not speak to you through fear, so anytime you feel that fear and hear those fearful voices in your head, you must stop and ask yourself whose voices those are.
Let’s go back to TRUTH. (My favorite place)
Fear is simply your ego’s way of stopping you from growing. And the fear was given to you by someone else, usually a parent or someone who had a significant role in your life.
The next time you feel fear, try identifying whose voice is talking to you because it will not be God’s.
So let’s go back to the first question you asked: How do you deal with haters?
My answer is that you don’t. You must have compassion and understand that people who send hateful and hurtful messages are actually people who are hateful and hurting inside. Their response is projection and has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.
You aren’t responsible for someone else’s thoughts, feelings and emotions; you are only responsible for your OWN.
Kudos to you for recognizing that it triggered your fear of judgment. If you focus your attention on why you have a fear of judgment in the first place, and let the negative feedback go, the truth will set you free.
And always remember:
There is no growth without discomfort, and it sounds like you’re GROWING!!!
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