This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
I’ve been in business for myself a couple of years, and I’m to the point where I’m ready to walk away because I’m having a hell of a time dealing with my employees. I tend to be kind and put their priorities and needs first. I feel like the conductor of a runaway train and I am afraid I will ruin my business success if something doesn’t change. What's your opinion?
Hi, and thanks for the question!
“Dealing” with employees and “considering their needs” are two totally different things.
Because I’m not sure of the exact scenarios you are referencing, I’m going to make some assumptions in order to help you get some clarity about what’s going on in your business.
My guess is that you would rather be liked than prosperous.
Let me explain.
If you put your employees needs over the needs of your business because you are afraid that they won’t like you if you tell them no, you would rather be liked than prosperous.
If you avoid having the “difficult” conversations with your employees regarding expectations and responsibilities because you’re worried they won’t like you, you would rather be liked than prosperous.
You see, it is one thing to consider the needs to your employees; it’s an entirely different thing if your employees’ needs negatively affect your business.
Communication is key in any business setting, and if you’re having difficulty communicating for fear of what others will think, you’re putting your business in a very perilous position.
The key is to really become aware of what’s happening.
Most people experience this in their business because they fear the judgment of others.
Judgment is painful and therefore, they are willing to do anything to avoid it.
Freedom is in realizing that the judgment of others has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the person who is judging.
Employees respect a leader who communicates expectations and is confident and clear.
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