Why the “fear of success” is a lie
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Bryan S.
Can you please tell me how to get over the fear of success? I believe it’s what’s continually stopping me from hitting my goals!
Thank you so much!
Hi Bryan and thanks for your question!
The truth is that no one is actually afraid of success.
That’s a false lie created by our ego.
If you were afraid of success, you’d never put your pants on the in the morning, because even putting your pants on is a success.
In reality what people ARE afraid of is:
1) The fear of what they believe they will have to sacrifice to be successful. This is mainly true in regard to relationships.
2) The fear of what people will think if they were successful.
3) The fear of what people will think if they fail.
These are the top 3, but of course there are many other fears that keep us bound in chains and constantly striving for success yet never achieving it.
So you are correct, you are sabotaging your success.
Universal truth states that we create everything; all the good and bad, all the successes and all the failures.
So you need to get very clear on how never achieving the success you want keeps you safe.
I know you’re thinking, “No David, not having the success keeps me feeling unsafe, why would I not want success?”
And I would answer that you have to consider what fear is renting space in your brain, because if you wanted that success as much as you wanted air to breath, you would have it.
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Thank you David, so true…
Always good to look of remember what we are really afraid of…
David I agree there is not such thing as fear of failure or success. It is about fear of exposing who we are, revealing our deepest passions and taking a stand. Fear of not being liked, feeling like a fraud, not being accepted for who we are is what the fear is.
All feeling are good as they teach us exactly what we need to know in the moment. Fear of rejection is there to awaken you to look at where you reject yourself. Fraud is there to awaken you to see where you are fooling yourself. We need ALL feelings. If we didn’t God would have made us perfect. That we have feelings means they are significant and vital in our evolution as a person. We don’t need to get rid of our “fear of success” . We need to align with it and see what it has to teach us.
Never achieving success keeps people safe from risk taking, stepping up and exposing themselves for who they really and what they really care about. Just being who they are is one of my client’s biggest fears. This fear is a gift to awaken them to honor and value who they despite anyone else’s approval.