How to handle constantly negative people

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Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

There is a person in my life who sees the negative in every situation. If he does say something good or nice about something, he ends it with a negative. How do you handle a situation like this? Oh…I should probably mention the person I’m referring to is my partner.

Neagle Code Answer


I think it’s important to understand that you don’t have to “handle” the situation.

I think a better question to ask is, “Why am I choosing to have this negative person in my life?”

1) This person has every right to be negative and judgmental, and it’s not anyone else’s responsibility or right to change him/her.

2) When you’re around someone who is negative, it is very hard for to consciously reject their thoughts and feelings, and pretty soon you may find yourself uttering those same negative words. You are influenced by the people around you whether you want to admit it or not.

My mentor, Bob Proctor, refused to spend time with people who are negative and lack-minded, because he knew they had the ability to change his thinking without him even realizing it, and I feel the same way.

So are you choosing to spend time with this person in hopes of changing them?


Are you afraid to remove yourself from this negative person’s life?

Get very honest with yourself…

It all boils down to making a decision based upon what’s in your best interest with the understanding that everyone else has the right to think, live and believe whatever they choose.



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    • Often times they are Nara, and you must deal with it accordingly. It comes down to setting firm boundaries with the person, and if they are not willing to stay outside of them than that becomes part of a larger conversation. What you have to realize is that negativity, on any level, is detrimental to your well being and also to your income. Surround yourself with positive people who are always striving for more life, then organically you will do the same. Negative begets negative, whether they are a parent or not. Ask yourself, is this who I want to surround myself with? We all love our parents, but if their negativity shrouds us than you must decide if you are going to stay on their level or move on. It’s not something to be taken lightly.