Healing childhood money trauma – the answer may surprise you.
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Corrine.
What’s the best way to push through and overcome childhood money trauma related to abuse?
Thanks for this question.
Well, I think that the problem that you're facing is that you've attached money as the cause of the abuse you've experienced and it's not the cause of what you experienced.
It's the disorder of whoever it was that was abusive in your life.
I'm sure money played a role, but it's not the cause.
You need to start to disassociate from the idea that money is a cause of anything, because it really is not.
The money doesn’t cause anyone to be violent or abusive.
Abuse is a legacy. The people that were abusive to you or around you were abused in their childhood. Abuse never starts first generation, and money has nothing to do with it. You need to remove that from your mind.
Very often children that are in abusive households will attach blame to something that's safe for them… meaning that money would probably be something they could attach blame to because it wasn’t safe to blame the abuser.
So the first step in solving your problem is to see the truth in your situation and know that money was NOT responsible.
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An association is where we perceive two independent things as though they were the same thing. Like any tool, it can be used in empowering ways or in disempowering ways. I recently discovered the power of affirming different sides of a disempowering association apart. Like when we have a disempowering association of two things that really don’t serve us in a positive way, to affirm each side in separate directions.
Affirm Side A: The abuser acted out because he/she had deep wounds and with deep pain wasn’t aware of how to relate with who and what was in their life in a healthy and harmonious way.
Affirm Side B: Money is a wonderful tool that makes it easy to transform my creativity and contribution into new possibilities in life and new open doors. (or something else that’s positive, that resonates with your path, and independent of side 1)
Repeatedly affirming both sides in independent directions allows the association to split: We become aware of the two sides as truly independent things that have nothing really to do with one another.