How Do I Figure Out What I Want?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I find it hard to know exactly where I am in both my personal life and in business. I’m not sure how to set a goal that I can reach (that’s not wishful thinking). I don’t really know what I want.  

What questions can I ask myself to figure this out? Also, how can I be sure I’ll hit the goal? 

Neagle Code Answer

Hold on a second. That’s not true. You DO know what you want. You’re just not aware of it yet. 

If you continue to say, “I don’t know,” that’s a command to your brain to stop thinking. 

Don’t think of it as a goal you can reach. Think about it more from the perspective of, what do you really want? 

Ask your higher self, “What do I want? Show me what’s going to excite me. Show me why I’m here.” 

If you keep asking this question, the answer will come up. 

Don’t rush it. Don’t push it.  

Stop saying, “I don’t know,” because it’s in there. It’s in every person. All life has a purpose inside of it. 

Your higher self will communicate it to you, if you’ll consistently ask it to. 

Set a goal for something you seriously want, which you can work on over the next 90 days to achieve. It’s not about whether you reach the goal—it’s about whether you’re willing to work on it for the next 90 days. 

I have no way of knowing whether you can hit a goal in 90 days. Neither do you, if it’s something you haven't done before. 

The bigger question is…will you commit to doing it for 90 days?

Because it’s in the commitment that you’ll actually hit it in the timeframe you set. 

Few people hit a goal the first time around, especially a new goal on a date they’ve set. There’s no way to know whether they’ll reach the goal by that date. It’s just like an estimation. 

In the 90-day period, we’re looking to develop two things:

  1. Being our word, so that we consistently do the work for 90 days in a row.
  2. Change the paradigm inside of ourself, so that we can see the opportunity of what we want.

Success is literally about programming yourself to be able to see the opportunity. You have to consistently do that. 

You’re an adult, so you have to change a pattern of what you see in life. A child only has to make up their mind what they want. An adult has to change their mind. There’s no prior imprint in the child’s mind. 

For example, I’m 55. If I want to change something now that I’ve been dealing with my whole life—I have to realize I’ve had an imprint of that for 55 years. I need to work on changing that for a considerable amount of time, so that my eyes and intellect will see it as an opportunity in my life. Otherwise, I’m blind to it. 

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