This week’s question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
How does a marital relationship affect our ability to manifest our dreams? How do you know if a marriage that ‘appears’ to be OK for all intents and purposes, is actually holding you down? How do you know if this is the right person for you, and that you have an environment to realize your fullest potential?
You’re probably not going to like what I’m going to write here, but if you’re asking the question, you already know the answer.
If you find yourself making decisions or stopping yourself for fear of what your spouse or partner will think or say, then you really need to take a close look at that relationship.
And I think it’s important for you to understand that no one can hold you down, unless you allow yourself to be held down.
In a healthy relationship, both partners should have the room and freedom that they need to foster their own growth. You have a responsibility to yourself to pursue your dreams, and if your partner doesn’t agree; they have the option to leave.
As Vernon Howard so eloquently states, “Behave the way you really are, even if it ends a relationship. Never suppress yourself in an effort to influence, hold, or win someone. When we are unreal, so are our rewards. To say this in another way, never behave the way you think the other person wants you to behave, but in the manner you must. Nothing you really need to do or have ever requires a yielding to a person or custom.”
So to answer your question…
Chances are, if you’re wondering if a person is right for you, something has given you the thought that they may not be.
Your marital relationship will only affect your ability to manifest if you’re not true to yourself.
Take a look at how you make decisions.
Do you hold information from your spouse because of how they may react or what they may think?
Do you tip toe around them? Or find yourself constantly needing to defend your beliefs?
Take a good, long and honest look. The answer will be obvious, although it may not be easy.
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