What fear is squatting on prime real estate in your brain?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Val Charman.  You can find her on the web at www.valcharman.co.uk.


Dear David,

Please can you tell me how you get past the fear of success? I know that I'm not afraid of failure as I have done that many times but just as I get close to a breakthrough, or am in danger of achieving my goal, something bad happens and I have to start all over again. I am convinced that I am sabotaging my own success out of some inbuilt fear and I don't know how to overcome it.

Many thanks for your help.


Hi Val and thanks for your question!

The truth is that no one is actually afraid of success.

That's a false lie created by our ego.

If you were afraid of success, you'd never put your pants on the in the morning, because even putting your pants on is a success.

In reality what people ARE afraid of is:

1)   The fear of what they believe they will have to sacrifice to be successful. This is mainly true in regard to relationships.

2)   The fear of what people will think if they were successful.

3)   The fear of what people will think if they fail.

These are the top 3, but of course there are many other fears that keep us bound in chains and constantly striving for success yet never achieving it.

So you are correct, you are sabotaging your success.

Universal truth states that we create everything; all the good and bad, all the successes and all the failures.

So you need to get very clear on how never achieving the success you want keeps you safe.

I know you're thinking, “No David, not having the success keeps me feeling unsafe, why would I not want success?”

And I would answer that you have to consider what fear is renting space in your brain, because if you wanted that success as much as you wanted air to breath, you would have it.

“Just Believe”,®

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  1. Awesome information! I know my block is that when I was growing up success meant long, hard hours of work because only people who worked hard were successful. Early on I decided NOT to be an entrepreneur because I wanted to have a life. But I kept getting “called” and finally stepped up into my divine destiny. Now, I can feel myself getting close and then I get really busy and overwhelmed and scared that success means I don’t get to enjoy life, I just work all the time and then I plummet. Thanks David for helping me illuminate my fear and BREAKTHROUGH into the truth which is I can be wildly successful and still feel calm, relaxed and have time to enjoy my life. ♥

    • You’re welcome Julie. If you are not enjoying your life to its fullest then you have to take a real close look at why that is. From what I can gather, you are working within a limited belief that does not serve you. You have the awareness, now you just need to push through and plow ahead. You WILL be wildly successful as long as you realize that fear is a lie and you are ready to claim what is yours now. Thanks for the post.

  2. You say: “consider what fear is renting space in your brain, because if you wanted that success as much as you wanted air to breath, you would have it.” Clearly I sabotage myself. I see how I gave up on success even as I exhaust myself in actions to succeed. I know I am frightened and discouraged deep down. I see how “”never achieving the success you want keeps you safe.” Next step?

    • If you know you self-sabotage Nitsan, than you are already aware of it when you go into a situation. When you ‘exhaust’ yourself, what exactly do you mean? Fear is a major part of your life and it needs to shift. Otherwise you will continue to have these experiences and live in the pattern of destruction. Your next step is entirely up to you…

  3. Thanks, great impulse.
    I made a list of all the things I fear of losing if I was successful. That was interesting but known.

    What really impressed me though was another list – all the things I give up by NOT being successful and not stepping up.
    I can suddenly see that this is quite a boring life with no financial freedom, lots of habits throughout the days and months and years, no fulfilling career, monotony… a truely gruesome vision!
    I hope this impact will help me to change 🙂