Oh my: get out of town!
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions
for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.
I've heard your teachings on the importance of surrounding yourself with like-minded people. My challenge is that I can't seem to find any like-minded people where I live. Any suggestions for how I can build a community of support, when I feel like I'm on an island?
Great question! It is very important to your growth that you surround yourself with people that will support you and encourage you as you continue to grow.
Let me start by saying that geography has little to do with this situation. You can be just as alone in a big city as you can be on an island. Surrounding yourself with people that support you shouldn’t be limited to your current city.
You say that you aren’t able to find these people. I would like you to take a moment and look at what you are currently doing.
- Are you still going to the same social events you have always gone to?
- Frequenting the same bars, restaurants, sporting events, gyms, etc…?
- How much time are you spending with your “old” friends?
- Do you still shop at the same stores, maybe even still use coupons?
If you are still hanging out in the same old places with the same old people, you will not be able to see new people.
Let go of those old habits and create new experiences in your life. Begin to treat yourself differently by up leveling your experiences. Go to new restaurants, shop at new stores, join a different gym and most importantly – talk to people you meet in these places.
Another great place to meet these people is to go to seminars and conferences where other people who share your same interests gather.
Remember that if you have the desire to meet like-minded people, they already exist and you simply have to be visible.
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I had this same issue – i live in a very small town and am presently caretaking my father, and feel secluded from like-minded people. I have done a few key things that have made a world of difference.
First, I’ve joined two paid private Facebook groups run by two very different people, one Is a business mentor and the other is a colleague and mentor. Both attract amazing people in their groups, and I now literally have friends all over the world in my support network.
i also have committed to go to “the big city” regularly to my favorite church, and volunteer monthly on a committee there, too, which has helped me Get to know people. It’s a drive but worth it.
Well done Kate! You are on your way. Thanks for the comment.
Hi David, I like the suggestions you offer, especially going to seminars and conferences. Something as simple as joining a facebook group can supercharge a person with positive, successful energy too. That’s what I did recently and it has made a big difference.
For sure Angela. Any time you invest in yourself you are taking a step in the right direction. Also, surrounding yourself with the right people only serves to get you where you want to go. Thanks for the post!