This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Jenny Shain. You can learn more on the web at http://redeemingyourdreams.com/
Is it possible to live without fear or reduce it drastically so that you face challenges with happiness & without anxiety?
Hi and thanks for the question.
The definition of fear is: a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
Fear is an emotion, just like happiness, sadness, joy, or anger. Because fear is an emotion, you can choose whether or not you're going to allow yourself to be overcome by it.
Let me explain…
Typically entrepreneurs feel fear when they are faced with their own growth or when they know they must change. They feel this fear because their ego is programmed to view these opportunities for growth or change as a threat, and therefore you feel fear to keep you from growing and being “at risk”.
The important thing to note in the definition is that it says the emotion is triggered whether the threat is real or IMAGINED.
Most of the time the fear that we feel is not real.
Now don't get me wrong, if someone is dangling you off of the Empire State Building by your ankles, the fear that you're feeling is VERY real. But the fear you're referring to in your question above is the fear of making a mistake, the fear of what others will think, the fear of not being able to pay your bills, or the fear of failing.
This is the kind of fear that is a LIE.
Here are a few truths that will help you put fear in its place so that you're not controlled by it.
1) Spirit will never speak to you through fear.
2) When you begin to feel fear, CHOOSE to focus only on the solution or the positive in the situation, and the fear will subside.
3) Always remember that fear is a lie, so if you see yourself getting sucked into that dark place, remind yourself that it's not real and ask yourself why you're allowing it to control you. How is it serving you to be paralyzed by fear? You are the creator of your reality, thus the fear is created between your own ears.
4) The only way to neutralize the fear is to step through it. Fighting it or resisting it only gives it energy. For example: If you're feeling fear about making a sales call, MAKE THE CALL and the fear will disappear.
As you continue to change, adapt and grow, you'll become more skilled at recognizing fear for what it really is, and this will allow you to get more comfortable being uncomfortable.
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