This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
How does one push aside the self sabotage that shows up at every step up? I am extremely intelligent and an expert in my field. I guide people well, and when the time comes for me to take the next step – with all eyes watching and applauding – I stop and walk in another direction, as if I'm shy. Others are speaking and touring and helping people and I am stuck standing in my own mud. I have been doing this “side step” for about 10 yrs now and I will be 50 next yr Feb '12. I am changing many things in my life now, I want to see glorious changes at the age of 50! I know I can do it, I think I need help, a sidekick? I don't know really or I would have done it by now. And yes, I kick myself constantly for not being more at this age.
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First, I want to invite you to applaud yourself for what you HAVE accomplished thus far in your life. Let go of the judgment of yourself, so you can see clearly what’s causing this pattern.
If you look to the Laws for the truth, you’ll find that you have created everything in your life, and you’ve created it for a reason.
On the surface, you might ask yourself why you’re afraid of success, but I’m sure you’ve succeeded in many different things before.
Most people don’t really fear success, they fear what success will bring.
Let me give you an example…
A woman (let’s call her Sarah), intellectually wants her business to be a huge success. She wants to help so many people and knows that she can be of service to so many, but yet, she stops herself from doing the things she needs to do. Subconsciously, she’s stopping herself because she knows that if she makes a great deal of money, it will allow her to make some difficult decisions. In Sarah’s case, it would allow her to move away from her family, something she’s wanted to do for a long time. However, Sarah is also very afraid to leave her family because she’s worried they’ll be upset, hurt, or think badly about her.
So her lack of success actually serves her.
It keeps her from having to make a difficult decision.
It enables her to avoid growth, which can be a little scary. Deep down she’s terrified of her family’s reaction if she is successful.
So, in your case, my suggestion is to really think about what you’d be able to do if you did finally step into your greatness. You must get to the bottom of the fear that’s causing you to stop, and then you must walk through that fear.
Sometimes this is really tough to see on your own. It’s difficult to see your blindspot, and that’s why working with a coach is so valuable. With the right questions, you can be led to the core of what’s causing you to stop.
Here’s my gift to you. If you’d like some help with this, my lead coach, Steph Tuss, would be happy to help you through it. Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and she’ll set up an appointment for the two of you to speak.
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