The ONLY reason I do anything — ever!
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
I've heard you mention that people often do things for love, security, and/or self-esteem. I'm a beginning coach and I feel in my heart (and have felt for much of my life) that teaching and sharing information is a large part of who I am. How can I tell if the joy I feel when sharing information comes from pursuing my heart's desire or is it because teachings fulfill some of my self-esteem needs.
This is a question every coach, healer or teacher needs to ask themselves.
Here’s the difference…
Is the joy you’re feeling coming from the sharing of the information or is the joy you feel coming from the accolades you receive from others for sharing the information?
For example, if you were to teach something and then didn’t receive any positive feedback, would the sharing still be joyful?
Do you feel satisfaction for doing the teaching?
Someone who has a lack in self-esteem needs to get it from others. So they will speak and teach with the subconscious goal of “getting” from their clients or audience. They are not coming from a place of giving.
Many people have asked me over the years why I love to teach and speak.
I do what I do for the sole goal of expressing the gifts Spirit has given me, and for no other reason.
You shouldn’t be doing what you’re doing for any other reason either.
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If you don’t get a positive responce back how do you know if they got the message. Teaching should make you feel good because you got someone motivated to act.
Thanks for the comment Wyman. I am not responsible for anyone “getting” the message, I can only provide those I work with the success strategies that have worked time and time again. What they do with that information is entirely up to them. And every profession should make you feel whole and complete, otherwise why are you doing it?
This is a wonderful and important distinction. I’m glad to have read this, and I will make it a practice to enjoy the giving as I do my soul’s work. Thank you to the asker and to David for the eloquent answer!
That’s great Steph. Appreciate the post.
This is one of the most profound points that you have shared (in my opinion) and one that I would not have pondered. We all want people to appreciate the time and care we spend to help them. It would be hard to think of being happy as a coach if you did not get accolades. However, David one can feel the passion flowing from you heart to help and “you are right” you do not demand anything in return. This is what makes you so specia!
Thanks Donna! I don’t need the accolades to know that I have given someone my best because it comes from deep within me. Coaching is the most amazing profession on the planet and one that I am grateful every day for the opportunities to help people succeed. Sure it is great to hear one of my students share their growth and how I had a part in that, but it certainly is not necessary. I appreciate your comments.
Your most successful/ transformed clients seem to be those that are able to move beyond what others think of them and I really appreciate your candid stories and teachings around this. From an early age we’re taught on many levels to do things for others and to welcome accolades and appreciation from others, yet the real superstars are the ones who followed their guiding light despite what the harsh critics said to them. Thank you for the reminder.
So true Ruth. Remember that any criticism that pops up is our own manifestation and designed to keep us stifled and not moving ahead to what it is we truly want. Recognize in those moments that you are in control of the creation and use them as a tool to reinforce your progress towards success. Thanks so much for the post!
Great answer, David! There is a special energy in giving, and returns are multiple! Thanks for sharing 🙂
You are welcome Solvita! When you give the best of you there will always be more coming back…always!
Hi David. Lovely answer. I was wondering, however. How do you know what are the gifts that Spirit has given you? Although I know very clearly what I love to do, I have always felt that I was not actually ANY GOOD at anything. Isn’t it also necessary to actually be good at what you love to do, in order to be successful at it? What if you are no good at anything? (You know, some of us are just born dull and without talent.)