This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
Hello David ! I just started in business and I have what I see as a problem. I come from a family where self value wasn't present, and I find that it's hard for me to deal with employees. I tend to be kind and put at least some of their priorities first. In business books I keep reading that is not a good tactic. I am afraid I will ruin my business success by considering employees' needs too!
What's your opinion?
Hi and thanks for the question!
“Dealing” with employees and “considering their needs” are two totally different things.
Because I'm not sure of the exact scenarios you are referencing, I'm going to make some assumptions in order to help you get some clarity about what's going on in your business.
My guess is that you would rather be liked than prosperous.
Let me explain.
If you put your employees needs over the needs of your business because you are afraid that they won't like you if you tell them no, you would rather be liked than prosperous.
If you avoid having the “difficult” conversations with your employees regarding expectations and responsibilities because you're worried they won't like you, you would rather be liked than prosperous.
You see, it's one thing to consider the needs to your employees, it's an entirely different thing if your employees needs negatively affect your business.
Communication is key in any business setting, and if you're having difficulty communicating for fear of what others will think, you're putting your business in a very perilous position.
The key is to really become aware of what's happening.
Most people experience this in their business because they fear the judgment of others.
Judgment is painful and therefore, they are willing to do anything to avoid it.
Freedom is in realizing that the judgment of others has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the person who is judging.
Team members respect a leader who is confident and clear.
Think of one thing you can do right now to step into being the leader you need to be.
Now, take action!