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This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Miranda.
Hi David! Thanks so much for the opportunity to ask this question! I recently heard a teaching you did on the importance of environment, but I'm having a hard time understanding how my environment affects my business results. Can you explain this please?
As a person grows, they change.
And they change in a way that is not always supported by their physical environment.
This is why we'll see people who will come to a workshop and make huge strides in their personal growth, only to return home and go right back into their old patterns.
Let me make this even more simple.
If you were an alcoholic, and you had stopped drinking, would you continue to return to the bar every day?
You'd get out of the bar and stay out because the being in the bar wouldn't be supporting your success.
You may even seek out other people who have stopped drinking as well so that you'll have the support you need.
Imagine how much more successful you'd be if you would surround yourself with people and things that supported you rather than trying to pull you back into being who you once were.
Look around you.
Are you surrounding yourself with beautiful things that represent who you want be?
Do your relationships support your growth or do they stifle it?
If you answered no to either of those questions, you've got some work to do.
Even the smallest of changes in your environment will make a difference in your success.
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In general I would agree. And still, there is a feeling of unease as it suggests that my environment is stronger than I am, that I am at the mercy of my environment. This might be true for children, but as adults, shouldn’t it be the other way around, that we hold our ground, no matter what the environment? Especially this question I find tricky to answer when looking back into my life. “Do your relationships support your growth or do they stifle it?” On the surface I always believed that I didn’t have many relationship that supported in the way I would have wanted to be supported. But when I look now who I have become, I all of a sudden find that they have supported me, just in a different way as I expected. Resistance for example made me strong and persistent, doubt and critics brought clarity and often prevented me from errors. And I really don’t know if I need “beautiful things” to represent who I am. Do we really have to let things define who we are? Not sure if I understand, after all.
This is so true. When I finally began to take this advice seriously and made important changes in my environment, especially in terms of support, I progressed FASTER in 6 months than in 7 years of struggling with my business!!!!
Keep on dishing out the great advice!
Sometimes I feel like I am an unfinished puzzle and then you show me how to join the dots! I now understand why, after spending time with certain friends, I neglect my fledgling business for weeks. All the time I hear,
“Just accept that you are nothing special and stop trying to be different”,
“You need loads of money to start a business so why bother” and my all time favourite:
” Just find a half decent guy who will look after you”
Nobody wants me to change because I realise It suits them to have me this way but I now realise true friends would only want the best for me as I do for them! I feel a change of environment coming on, and as you say I am going to have to face the sacrifices of success.