I’m so unhappy
This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from an individual who wishes to remain anonymous.
If a person is not happy in a job choice or position does that mean the person should figure out how to change to become happy in any position, or should the person leave the job/position and find something that makes the person happy with the mindset they currently have?
Hi and thanks for your question.
I really love this question, and the answer is a bit step-by-step.
First, the person needs to figure out why they are not happy in their current position.
Is it because they can't meet their financial goals in that position? Is there a conflict with a co-worker or team member? Are the tasks associated with the position not tasks that the person finds enjoyment in?
Depending on the answer to that first question, that person must decide if they want to stay or go. Chances are if the person is not clear why they are unhappy in their position, they will attract the same situation in their next position. Remember, every obstacle is an opportunity for growth.
If they decide to go, it's important that they change their attitude around the job, and really look at how they can do their absolute best until the next opportunity is manifested.
Some of you may remember me talking about when I first worked on the loading docks in Chicago making $20,000.00 per year. I couldn't make the money I wanted, I was miserable, and I had a horrible attitude.
As soon as I changed my attitude and did my best in that position, I became aware of a better opportunity that had been right in front of me the entire time, and that opportunity allowed me to go from $20,000.00 per year to $50,000.00 per year doing something I enjoyed A LOT more.
Changing my attitude was the KEY factor in finding the next opportunity, after all, why would the Universe give you a better opportunity when you're not doing your best with what you have now?
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Typically, I don’t have time to read a great deal of your material. Today, I am grateful that I invested the time. Your words rang loudly, like a bell in my head. Great insight. Exactly what I needed in that moment. Many thanks. LMc
Well Linda, I’m glad you took the time today! I look forward to you reading many, many more. Thanks for the post.
I agree with you David but I must be doing something wrong because I believe I’ve changed my attitude and I’m still not making the money I want to make as a successful real estate agent. So I must be lacking somewhere and don’t realize it yet but I’m not giving up I’ll just find out from learned people like yourself what it is that I have to do or what I’m currently doing wrong.
Anyway, I’d like to share a breakthrough that I had concerning money. I am currently working as a substitute teacher in my neighborhood and I worked some overtime and got a decent check and I’m getting in the habit of paying myself first and I was supposed to pay myself $110 based on taking 10% off the top and I couldn’t do it David. I couldn’t pay myself more than $40. I mean I was anxious and feeling very uncomfortable when I peeled off that $110 to pay myself and I realized WOW I have to get some help and work on that but it was a good feeling knowing what my threshold is so I can work on it. Isn’t that something? That was major for me. Thanks for all that you do David. What a breakthrough for me.
Nice breakthrough Simone, that is great. We all start from where we are; sounds basic but it is truth. You now need to capitalize on this new found awareness and begin to get to the bottom of why you are not comfortable enough to pay yourself first. Pick up the phone, start selling your products and services, and don’t stop until you have what you need. I did it many years ago and you can do it now. Will you do that?
Wow, Simone – that IS a breakthrough! Many (most?) of us have some level of discomfort around having money and just being aware of that is a GIANT step forward!
I’m not sure David would take this approach, but I’m a big fan of baby steps. I encourage you to try nudging out the edge of your comfort zone just a bit. So next time, if $40 feels like all you can stand, try paying yourself $45 or $50. Not enough to send yourself into a panic – just enough to stretch a bit. And then a bit more the following time, etc., and pretty soon you’ll be at your 10% goal!
Thanks for the support Cheryl. Whether by baby steps or quantum leaps, we are in charge of our growth experiences. And I totally agree with the stretching piece. You grow and stretch into situations, and if it feels comfortable then perhaps you are not stretching enough.
Thanks for reminding me that every obstacle is an opportunity for growth. All too often it is easy for me to get caught up in feeling bad when there is an obstacle rather than looking for the lesson.
Attitude is everything. I know if I take the time every morning to write in my gratitude journal it makes a difference to my outlook and that is reflected in everything I do that day.
Obstacles can be looked at in one of two ways Kristen; stepping stones to success or stumbling blocks to impede your progress. It really is all in how you choose to view them. Remember, you are in control of your growth and in how you feel; no one can make you feel anything. I appreciate your comments.
“Every obstacle is an opportunity for growth.” I’ve heard that before. Without a rolemodel I believe in– its just another wise impotent sentence to me.
When YOU say it, David, I see your results and I feel something very close to me in your voice that I trust. So I adopted this sentence as my challenge–to live it.
Each time I feel myself drinking the poison of selfpity I tune into your voice telling me to flex a more enlivening attitude. I expect to grow that reaction to be more natural to me.