My self esteem is shot. How do I move through this difficult time?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

My self-esteem is in the toilet, and I'm terrified of other people and their judgments. My car is a complete wreck, and I'm really struggling financially. For this reason I isolate myself. I avoid networking events because I'm ashamed someone will see my car. I avoid promoting myself online because I feel that I have nothing of value to say. I avoid dating because I'm embarrassed by my poverty. How can I move through this? Who could possibly help me?

Neagle Code Answer

Right now, the only person who can help you is YOU.

You have to make a decision. And until you make that decision, NOTHING will change no matter who tries to help you.

Right now your programming, your fear and your ego are controlling your life.

All of the self-doubt, fear of judgment, shame and embarrassment were given to you by other people.

They were not given to you by Spirit.

You need to make a decision as to whether you are going to live your own life, or if you are going to be a puppet for someone else.

If you choose to live your own life, you need to immediately begin to do EVERYTHING you are resisting:

  • You must go to networking events to learn that people don’t care what car you drive.
  • You must promote yourself on-line to learn that you DO have something valuable to say.
  • You must begin dating to learn that how much money you make does not determine your worth.
  • You must stop hiding.

So to answer your question, no one can do this for you; you must begin to help yourself by first deciding you want a different life and then beginning to IMMEDIATELY take action to create that different life. In order to support you, STUDY the truth.

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  1. Hi David!

    Doesn’t fear, doubt, self-judgement come from our selves to? Or is it always connected to someone else?

    Thanks for sharing your brilliance!

    • Remember Eleni, you were not born with fear, doubt, and self-judgement. Those were given to you at some time in your younger years. Once those things take hold, it is up to you to release them. The longer you live with them, the more difficult it becomes to shed them. Years and years of that way of thinking can be reversed as quickly as you want it to, all it takes is a decision and commitment to move through it. It can be as easy as you want it to be. So the question is, what’s the hook that keeps you in it? Appreciate the post.

    • Actually Alysa, no. Studying the truth was just a general statement and not associated with one thing in mind. I’m not too familiar with that title, but if that is where you choose to get your truth from then that’s a perfect place to start. You see, the truth is all around you and how you take it in an live your truth is up to you. Thanks for the post.