Should I Stay Away From What Triggers Me?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

My question is regarding being triggered.

I’ll be reading an autobiography, and I’ll get triggered by the author’s story, and immediately stop reading.

Also, I was in a store recently, and a lady was arguing with the cashier. I couldn’t take it, so I grabbed my son and left. Then I realized, “I’m running away from an argument.” It seems like I stay away from anything that would trigger me even slightly. What can I do about this?

Neagle Code Answer

That’s not good.

You don’t want to stay away from things that trigger you. You want to change it so that you’re not triggered by it anymore.

There are so many good transformation stories in autobiographies, it’s incredible. But when you can’t go any further, then you miss all the great messages in the book.

Your subconscious mind figured out the exact way to stop you from hearing the good messages. It said, “Don’t listen to this anymore.”

So you agree with it.

And it seems real, because you get triggered—so then you don’t go any further.

That’s how insidious your subconscious mind is.

As for running away from the argument in the store, you’re not healing it. You’re running away from it because you don’t want to feel whatever emotions are behind that.

Recognize what the trigger is, then change it. Change it to what you want it to be, so that you’re no longer triggered by it.

And remember… you can’t just “think” something different.

You have to internalize the new thought.

If you just think something different, nothing changes. Thinking, by itself, is completely benign. That’s not how we’re programmed. And that’s not how we change a program.

You have to get your whole body involved. Get your mind, emotions, and physicality involved.

The moment you get triggered, identify what the trigger is, so that you know what it is.

Then jump up, get excited, clap your hands together. Confirm what the new belief is that you want—and do it over and over again for about five minutes. You have to reprogram your nervous system.

Do whatever works for you. You could dance or do something else. Move your body into the change.

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