This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Pat.
Why I have attracted bullies into my life?
My earliest memories are of being ‘picked on' by siblings & school mates, having my possessions and artwork ridiculed and even vandalized, ideas and belongings stolen and given or credited to someone else.
I've been bullied by bosses, to the point I had a mental breakdown. I've been bullied by clients… people ‘pull the pin' on a project and refuse to pay or demand a refund after I've invested thousands of dollars in design and development.
I've been forced to take a job I hate, give up my design business. And I have an awful feeling that my new boss is another bully.
Even my spouse bullies me at times, speaking to me as if I were a child, treating me like I am not capable of the simplest things.
I used to be confident, self-assured, brilliantly intelligent, highly skilled, despite all the bullies I tolerated in my youth… but now after almost 50 years, it feels like I just can't take another emotional, financial or spiritual beating. (The only abuse I've been spared is physical.)
What could I possibly have done to ‘ask for it' like this, in every aspect of my life? I hate being a victim, I've always sworn I didn't want to be a victim, and yet, here I am – bankrupt, hopeless and heartbroken.
The answer to this lies in the fact that at some point in your life, you gave your power away.
Sometimes this happens slowly due to a gradually escalating abusive relationship, and sometimes it happens when we are children and we don't even really realize we had power to begin with.
The beauty of the situation is that this keeps showing up in your life to get you to see that you need to take your power back and STEP into being POWERFUL.
Bullies don't want anything to do with a powerful person, because they can sense the strength at an energetic level.
In order to take your power back, I suggest that you make a list of ALL the things you are tolerating in your life, and then one by one either shift them or eliminate them.
This is non-negotiable! If you're tolerating it, it MUST change.
Being a victim may have served a purpose in your past, but it certainly is not serving you now.
You may also want to do some study to help rebuild your self-esteem. Read The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden, I think it will really shine some light on what's happening.
OK, now it's up to you…step into your power and then GO KICK SOME ASS!
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