Why is My Old Trauma Still Causing Issues Today?

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Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

When I was in my early twenties, one of my brothers died in an accident. I blacked out every minute of the two weeks following that event. We had just immigrated to a new country, and the stress level was pretty high.

Today, I have digestive issues and other health problems, which I think are a result of that event. I assume my body went into survival mode and changed how I digest food. I’ve struggled with these same issues for 30+ years now, even though I no longer feel anything emotionally. I’ve seen every doctor, naturopath, and alternative health practitioner you can imagine. I live healthy, so there’s no reason why it shouldn’t work. How do I reverse this?

Neagle Code Answer

There’s definitely a reason why nothing is working. I would first look at: How is this serving you to still have this issue?

That’s the reason why the health problems are still there.

To cut to the chase…in some way, it’s keeping you safe. It’s keeping you from being, doing, having, expressing, and remembering. It’s doing something to keep you safe. So it becomes a reason NOT to do something else. The question is…what is that?

I recommend reading “The Betrayal Bond” by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. It’s about trauma bonding, which is based on the initial traumas that were set up in our childhood. Some of them were big, some were small, some were multiple—but either way, it keeps us in relationship to things based on the idea of trauma.

You’re in relationship to your digestive system and the outside world based on trauma bonding.

Whenever someone has a trauma in their life, the mind will wire itself in such a way where it becomes hyper-vigilant. It tries to keep an eye out for anything that might put you in a place where you’re vulnerable to that type of trauma again. There’s no logic behind this—it’s just how our mind works.

In the book, he takes you through a series of processes where you re-establish:

  • What were the initial traumas that occurred?
  • How has it actually benefiting you in your life right now?

It’s quite a process to go through. If I were you, I’d get a physical copy of the book and also listen to it, and do the actual work that’s in the book.

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Can NLP and Hypnosis Help with Anxiety?

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

Neagle Code Question

Hi David,

I’ve struggled with anxiety forever, and I’m realizing how much it’s controlled me. Can hypnosis and NLP help with this? I’ve been reading self-hypnosis books. I’ve had some good days where I felt so free—feelings I’ve never felt before—and my anxiety doesn’t last all day.

But I also have really dark feelings that are more pronounced. The low cycles are hard to deal with. You’ve mentioned when someone gets close to breaking through a pattern, the darker feelings can get more acute. What’s the best way to deal with that, other than just concentrating on what’s working?

Neagle Code Answer

First off, you might want to get a medical check-up to make sure the anxiety isn’t being caused by a physical issue. Especially for men, if your hormones are off, you can have terrible anxiety problems.

Outside of that, anxiety often comes also from not expressing something. Humans are meant to express what they’re feeling and work through those feelings. If you’re suppressing how you feel—especially when it comes to fear or worry—those feelings will be expressed as anxiety through the body.

  • What do you need to express?
  • What unmet needs do you need to address?
  • What do you need now?

When you’re changing anything on the subconscious level, anxiety can come up as you’re making those changes. The subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. Everything it doesn’t have a pattern for is considered “the unknown.”

Anxiety is a way of stopping a person from moving forward. If we feel really anxious about something, we’re not going to want to move forward on it.

There’s no issue with using self-hypnosis or things like NLP to speed up the process of positive change. If you’re 45 years old and you want to change several negative patterns you’ve established for the last 45 years, you don’t want it to take a whole lifetime to do that.

NLP and hypnosis can help you gain the awareness to really sink it into your subconscious mind. Those tools work to help us get a foothold in the direction we want to go. They can increase confidence, help you relax, process information, rebuild your self-esteem, and change your self-image. These are all fantastic. I recommended these things right from the beginning of anyone’s journey.

Self-suggestion is great—it’s relaxing, and you’re doing it in a hypnotic state where you’re giving yourself the induction to allow it to happen faster. You’re shutting down your conscious mind, which is where your inductive reasoning factor is. If you shut that off, you won’t get any pushback from your subconscious mind. You’re just allowing the positive ideas to go right in. It’s like supercharging where you want to go.

For bigger issues in life, going through the actual work of making the change and developing the awareness around it makes a big difference. It gives us a different foundation of thinking and processing that you don’t get with NLP or hypnosis alone. But for small things, NPL and hypnosis are great to start off that foundation.

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The Art of Success – Article #8 – Playing the blame game?

Playing the blame game?

We live in a society that’s steeped in blame.

Had a bad day? Blame your boss. Bad mood? Blame your spouse. Feeling irritated? Blame the guy who cut you off in traffic.

It’s considered “normal” to blame.

As a life strategy, this may have worked for you as a kid. (“It’s Johnny or Mary’s fault all the cookies are gone!”)…and you may have gotten away with it.

…But blaming doesn’t have any place in your adult life. Not if you want to create a magnificent life.

It simply reinforces the idea that you’re a “victim” of your circumstances (which is not true).

Blaming is one of the most disempowering things you could ever do, because it implies that someone else is responsible for your results.

…which brings me to today’s question: Who exactly is responsible for your thoughts?

As adults, we’re responsible for what we turn over to our subconscious mind. However, we were NOT responsible for what was placed in our subconscious minds as small children.

Prior to the age of 7, we had no conscious mind developed. As children, we had no ability to question, analyze, or reject an idea. We accepted everything we were exposed, and those thoughts, ideas and experiences became fixed in there (like water pouring into an open fishbowl).

All those ideas, emotions, opinions, experiences, and evaluations of life eventually became the raw materials for your current belief system.

As you grew up, that belief system began to express itself in the way you thought, acted, and carried yourself…well into your adult life.

Here’s the kicker: Something you could not reject at age 4 could still be running your life today, and you may not even be aware of it.

So, who’s responsible for what’s currently in your subconscious mind today?

Really think about that.

You can’t change history. However, you now have a conscious mind, which means you’re free to reject thoughts that no longer serve you.

It’s now YOUR responsibility to examine your beliefs and ideas and decide what can stay and what must go.

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The Art of Success – Article #7 – Get out of my brain!

Get out of my brain!

Did you know that the conscious mind and the subconscious mind are two very different things?

Both interact with your body in different way, and they impact your actions in different ways as well.

Let me explain…

Our conscious mind has the ability to choose and reason. It’s where our free will lies. Anything that comes into our conscious awareness, we can choose to accept or reject.

The subconscious mind, however, is very different. Anything that goes into the subconscious mind sticks. It stays there. It becomes fixed there. The subconscious mind has no ability to reject anything. When an idea gets fixed there, the only thing it can do is express itself through your physical body — through feelings and actions.

…That’s why it’s a good idea to make sure you’re monitoring what you’re allowing into your subconscious mind!

If you’re not paying attention, negative and unsupportive ideas can easily slip in and negatively affect your results.

In a simple conversation, someone else’s negative idea can slip in and start to affect your thinking and behaviors — if you don’t consciously reject the idea.

Here’s the good news…

We don’t have to
automatically accept the
things we hear.

You can simply say, “No, that’s not for me. I’m choosing something better.”

Or if you’re in conversation, you can simple say, “I understand that’s your perception or experience, but I don’t agree.”

Remember, the conscious mind has the power to accept or reject any thought.

The subconscious mind has no choice but to act upon whatever is given to it.

So always be conscientious of what’s being placed into your subconscious mind.

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