Free yourself from the freebie mentality

This week's question from my portal “The Neagle Code: Directions for Life” comes from Marianne V.

Neagle Code Question

Dearest David,

I think I may need a bop on the head. I am so used to over servicing my clients and “gifting” my acquaintances and friends with my services, that I’m bleeding myself dry. I know I need to reverse this pattern but I’m just not sure how. Any suggestions on what I need to do to stop this and charge ANYONE what I’m worth?

Thank You!

Neagle Code Answer

Great question! I addressed a similar question on my blog in 2013…here was my response:

Charging what you’re worth is simply a decision.

And the truth is, if you don’t find enough value in what you have to offer to charge for it, others won’t see the value either.

So you need to make the decision that no matter what, you will not give your advice, services or insight away for free.

If someone asks you for help, even if they are a friend, say to them, “I’d love to help. Let’s set up a time to talk about your goals and aspirations so that I can clearly recommend next steps for you.”

On that call, clearly re-state the purpose of the call, make sure you take control by asking questions, and make recommendations of which program or service will get them to their goals the quickest.:

From now on, you will set your prices based on your financial goals rather than your emotions. And you will never make an offer to someone that is not in line with your financial goals.

You have to hold yourself to these agreements even if you feel it threatens your relationship with friends or clients.

By doing this you will begin to see that people WILL pay you what you believe you are worth.:

You’re not reversing a subconscious pattern; you’re creating a new one.

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2 comments

  1. Hi David,

    That was excellent advice. I am passing the question and your answer along to my daughter. My daughter is always doing lots of things for her “friends” and her “friends” always end up disappointing her or taking her for granted. Recently she prepared a tax return for a “friend”. She paid my daughter what she charged her, but now the “friend” won’t return my daughter’s phone calls. Prior to paying for the tax return my daughter and the “friend” talked everyday! Maybe seeing your response will encourage my daughter to think and act differently.

  2. What are the top 3 Universal Truths that you live by that have aligned you with the fulfillment of your dreams? And do you believe that the attraction of outer wealth begins with the alignment to your inner wealth?

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