What happens when you hear “no”?

Here is this week’s question from my portalThe Neagle Code: Directions for Life.  The person who sent in the question wished to remain anonymous.


Despite all my efforts at helping others through my publications and coaching services, I am not receiving any compensation (money) back, except in small 2- and 3-figure amounts, and then only occasionally. What am I doing wrong? Help!


Great question! But let me ask you a few things first…

How do you feel about sales? Are you comfortable ASKING for compensation and SELLING your services? It’s one thing to ask the Universe for something, it’s another thing entirely to ask another human being. Chances are, if you’re helping people, and you’re not happy with what they are paying you, the problem lies within your own self worth and ability to ask for what you want. What is your emotional response when a prospective client tells you, “No.”? Do you feel it personally or do you learn from the experience and get back on the phone, knowing that their response, either yes or no, has nothing to do with you?

Most people with this problem have some sort of underlying belief about sales. The truth is, we were born salespeople. If you have children, you’ll know what I am talking about. They are some of the best salespeople on the planet. It’s just that most people have inherited their parents’ beliefs about money and have tied it to their own self worth. Therefore, they don’t make the sales they need, because they have connected the word “no” with personal rejection, and rejection is not a good feeling.

You see, Katie, there’s not one simple answer to this question, but if you start taking a good honest look at what you’re doing, and what emotions you are experiencing, you’ll become more aware of what’s causing the problems.

Here are some TRUTHS to help push you past this roadblock:

1. If the need for money is there, the money must be there also.

2. Sales is not something you do TO someone, it’s something you do FOR someone.

3. Spirit is your source, but the money must flow THROUGH people to get to you. What are you resisting doing that is keeping the money from coming to you?

And when in doubt, ask for help from someone who is more successful than you are. Very few things are more beneficial than a mentor.

“Just Believe”,

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  1. David, that was a great answer to Katie’s question…the one thing that was blaring at me in her question was the “what am I doing wrong” portion. this is because as you well know, that WAS my question before we started working with you one on one.

    In our personal work with you, we learned that in life you get what you focus on. If she is focusing on “what am I doing wrong…” the universe will give her lots of what she is “doing wrong” as that is what she is asking for by focusing on it.

    Your coaching was an amazing experience for us in that we learned to ask a better question so that we could get a better answer.

    I would invite Katie to change her question to “what should I do differently” or “what can I do to help those who value my work…” basically any question that vibrates at a different frequency, one of possibility and openness to new opportunities instead of a question that focuses on what is NOT working.

  2. Thank you for the comment Lucho, and also for sharing your experience with everyone here. You have done some amazing work since we first met and I know that the best is yet to come…